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Parenting

Help! I'm a Professor. My Students Are Failing to Learn a Crucial Lesson at Home.

Parenting

My Wife Found Damning Evidence in My Wallet. I Swear It's Not What It Looks Like.

Parenting

My Wife's Unconventional Phone Obsession Is Upending Our Lives. She Refuses to See It.

Parenting

I've Figured Out a Method for Keeping My Son's Favorite Toy Clean. It Might Lead to Some Trust Issues.

Parenting

I Lost Sight of My Nephew for One Minute at the Mall. Now His Parents Won't Forgive Me for What Happened.

Parenting

fromDefector

2 days ago

Rejoice, Tired Parents! Defector Will Raise Your Children Now | Defector

Defector launches a parenting advice column called Minor Dilemmas to address various parenting challenges and questions.

Parenting

Help! I'm a Professor. My Students Are Failing to Learn a Crucial Lesson at Home.

Parenting

My Wife Found Damning Evidence in My Wallet. I Swear It's Not What It Looks Like.

Parenting

My Wife's Unconventional Phone Obsession Is Upending Our Lives. She Refuses to See It.

Parenting

I've Figured Out a Method for Keeping My Son's Favorite Toy Clean. It Might Lead to Some Trust Issues.

Parenting

I Lost Sight of My Nephew for One Minute at the Mall. Now His Parents Won't Forgive Me for What Happened.

My Friend Is Getting TikTok Famous Using My Trauma And I'm Not Sure What To Do

An advice column addresses relationship and personal challenges, including household labor expectations, coming out to religious parents, and friend exploitation of trauma.

3 weeks ago

Help! My Fiance's Father Gave Him an Ultimatum for Attending Our Wedding. I Can't Believe We're Considering It.

A couple faces conflict over whether to serve alcohol at their wedding to accommodate the groom's father's recovery from alcoholism, with parents suggesting compromises like bringing a support person instead of eliminating alcohol entirely.

3 weeks ago

I Keep Making Lingering Eye Contact With Someone at Church. It's Wrong on So Many Levels.

A harmless crush on a priest can be enjoyed as an energizing distraction without requiring action, provided it doesn't conflict with religious beliefs or lead to inappropriate confessions.

fromwww.mercurynews.com

8 months ago

Asking Eric: I didn't realize they were following my comments online

A sister's perception of past events may differ drastically, complicating attempts to reconcile.

#family-dynamics

8 months ago

Relationships

Help! I Can't Afford to Attend My Stepsister's Wedding. It's Her Fault.

Parenting

Help! My Brother-in-Law Ruins Every Special Family Occasion in the Same Horrible Way.

Parenting

Help! We Had a Special Family Tradition. Then Our Nephew's New Wife Put a Stop to It.

Relationships

Help! My Mother-in-Law Uses Me as a "Sounding Board" for the Most Revolting Topic.

8 months ago

Relationships

Help! I Can't Afford to Attend My Stepsister's Wedding. It's Her Fault.

Parenting

Help! My Brother-in-Law Ruins Every Special Family Occasion in the Same Horrible Way.

Parenting

Help! We Had a Special Family Tradition. Then Our Nephew's New Wife Put a Stop to It.

Relationships

Help! My Mother-in-Law Uses Me as a "Sounding Board" for the Most Revolting Topic.

Relationships

We Have One Rule in Our Kitchen. It's the Secret to Our Successful Marriage.

Relationships

Help! Something Dangerous Happens When My Husband and I Share a Bed.

Relationships

Help! My Husband Only Brushes His Teeth Once a Month. But That's Not Even the Worst Part.

Relationships

We Have One Rule in Our Kitchen. It's the Secret to Our Successful Marriage.

Relationships

Help! Something Dangerous Happens When My Husband and I Share a Bed.

Relationships

Help! My Husband Only Brushes His Teeth Once a Month. But That's Not Even the Worst Part.

My Co-Worker Only Wants to Talk About One Thing at Work. And It's Not Work.

A co-worker's constant references to her son can be frustrating and sometimes insensitive, especially in serious contexts.

Fundraising

I Have an Approach to Business Meetings That Might Be Deeply Off-Putting. I Can't Help It!

Navigating personal inquiries in professional settings can be challenging, especially when boundaries are tested.

I Work at a Toy Store. Most People Wouldn't Imagine Who Makes Up Half of Our Clientele.

Adult toy collections, known as 'kidults', are increasingly common and socially accepted.

NYC parents

I Teach Middle Schoolers. I'm Seeing Something in the Kids That's Getting Worse Every Year.

Teachers are facing increasing challenges with student behavior driven by societal issues.

Parenting

Help! My Husband Just Got Applauded for His Explosive Response to a Screaming Baby. But I'm Mortified.

Public outbursts, especially involving children, are inappropriate, regardless of the situation's frustration.

Help! I Was Eternally the Late Friend. Then I Discovered the Reason Why.

Understanding ADHD can change perceptions about procrastination and time management, leading to more compassion and proactive changes.

fromWest Side Rag

Ruthless Advice for Upper West Siders: All of the Answers With None of the Expertise

As non-readers of the DSM 5, we highly recommend the weather seek therapy immediately or at least reach out to us.

NYC parents

fromwww.npr.org

Dear Life Kit: My neighbor's Christmas lights are still up. Should I call the HOA?

Headlee advises that it’s better to talk to the neighbor directly rather than involving authorities, emphasizing empathy and understanding.

Arts

fromNew York Post

Dear Abby: My husband had an affair with my sister - now she's back in town

Reclaiming one's life after infidelity is crucial for closure.

Honesty about past betrayals can facilitate healing and assertiveness.

Parenting

I Work a Retail Job at the Mall. Parents Really Have the Wrong Idea About Our Store.

Retail workers face challenges with parents leaving children unattended in stores.

Help! Our Guest Bathroom Just Exploded, and My Husband Is on a Mission to Punish the Culprit.

I also wonder, if Rhonda had been a 300 pound, 7-foot-tall bodybuilding man, and the toilet seat had broken after his visit, would your husband be suggesting that you send a bill for the repair?

Parenting

Women in technology

One of Our Colleagues Ruins the Mood of Every Office Party With His Approach to "Fun"

Be mindful that workplace events can be seen differently by colleagues.

Avoid engaging with those whose behavior you find annoying, focusing instead on your own experience.

Health

11 months ago

My Wife is Sexually Obsessed With Our Recent Home Improvement. Please, Make It Stop.

Compromise in relationships is vital, especially regarding preferences for intimacy.

Communication is key to resolving intimacy disagreements and finding balance.