#allyship

#allyship

I'm transmasc but not out at work, and each time Alex is misgendered I also feel invalidated and even a bit unsafe. This hasn't impacted my work necessarily, but it has impacted how I view and feel comfortable with my co-workers. I know I'm expecting a lot from people with Harry Potter and Bible quotes in their offices, but I feel like they should at least be trying.

Our research, published in the European Journal of Work and Organizational Psychology, suggests that people often hesitate to intervene when co-workers are mistreated because they themselves feel disempowered in their organizations and experience distrust and polarization. Our findings run counter to the common assumption that people don't step up to support marginalized colleagues because they don't care or are unmotivated. Not seeing much action against inequity and injustice can drive this cynical idea.

I've spent the last 25 years since I transitioned being spoken by lawmakers, by media, by people who have never met me but feel entitled to decide what my life means. The pressure to explain, justify, or exist as a symbol in somebody else's mythology is constant. It's part of why my film, Becoming a Man in 127 EASY Steps, exists: to narrate a trans life from the inside, rather than explain it to outsiders.

Many of us idealize a day in which no one needs to "come out," when wherever someone falls on the gender or sexuality spectrum is accepted and embraced. Sadly, today is not that day - the world can be cruel (and often is) to anyone who doesn't fit into the heteronormative bubble. But if you're here, it probably means the last thing you want to do is contribute to the mental and emotional toll put on LGBTQ young people.

In a world obsessed with titles, deadlines and success metrics, it's easy to lose sight of who we are and why we work. After 25 years as a lawyer, mentor and leader, I've seen how small acts of courage, kindness and self-belief can be far more "legendary" than any promotion. Here are five lessons I've learned along the way - all inspired by the legends, lessons and light-bulb moments shared in my book.

After Kelly replied, "You're going to make me cry," Lees continued, "Honestly, not everyone is there speaking up for us. We're less than 0.5 percent of the population and we are under attack."

Allies can re-center positive attention on their colleagues' merit by loudly celebrating their strengths, thus fostering an inclusive and supportive environment.