Parenting
fromPsychology Today
6 hours agoStop Fixing, Start Strengthening: How to Raise Resilient Kids
Teaching children to navigate difficult emotions fosters resilience, confidence, and self-worth.
#child-observation
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
9 hours agoNobody teaches children how to know their own worth - we teach them to perform, to achieve, and to behave, and then wonder why so many adults reach fifty still measuring themselves against someone else's ruler - Silicon Canals
Self-worth is inherent and not based on achievements or external validation.
fromNew York Post
1 day agoEx-student of NJ teacher accused of sex with child reveals unsettling red flags in her behavior at school: 'Very weird'
"Everybody knew something wasn't right with her. She would flirt with all the boys on the football team, she would favor them. She would be rude to all the girls."
NYC parents
Mental health
fromIndependent
1 day agoAsking for a friend: 'My son has just been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. My husband also got tested and has ADHD. How will all this affect our relationship?'
Navigating the challenges of neurodiversity in a family can be overwhelming, especially with multiple diagnoses affecting communication and relationships.
#emotional-unavailability
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology says parents who provided everything materially and nothing emotionally aren't cold - they were loved the same way and genuinely had no idea there was another option - Silicon Canals
Emotionally unavailable parents often substitute material provision and gifts for emotional presence, translating affection into the only language they fluently speak.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoMost people don't realize that children who grow up without affection don't struggle with love as adults. They struggle with trusting it, because it never felt safe to depend on - Silicon Canals
Emotional unavailability stems from a lack of early affection, leading to difficulties in accepting love despite an inherent capacity for it.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology says parents who provided everything materially and nothing emotionally aren't cold - they were loved the same way and genuinely had no idea there was another option - Silicon Canals
Emotionally unavailable parents often substitute material provision and gifts for emotional presence, translating affection into the only language they fluently speak.
#parenting
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoResearch suggests the 1960s and 70s produced adults who could self-soothe, entertain themselves, and tolerate boredom - not because their parents were wise but because their parents were simply elsewhere - Silicon Canals
Modern parenting emphasizes structured activities, contrasting sharply with past generations' unstructured play, which may have fostered resilience and independence in children.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals
Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoParenting
Psychology says the 1960s and 70s accidentally produced one of the most emotionally durable generations in modern history - not through better parenting but through benign neglect that forced children to develop internal regulation instead of waiting for adult intervention - Silicon Canals
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoResearch suggests the 1960s and 70s produced adults who could self-soothe, entertain themselves, and tolerate boredom - not because their parents were wise but because their parents were simply elsewhere - Silicon Canals
Modern parenting emphasizes structured activities, contrasting sharply with past generations' unstructured play, which may have fostered resilience and independence in children.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals
Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says the 1960s and 70s accidentally produced one of the most emotionally durable generations in modern history - not through better parenting but through benign neglect that forced children to develop internal regulation instead of waiting for adult intervention - Silicon Canals
Children in the 70s thrived on unstructured play and minimal parental intervention, fostering independence and problem-solving skills.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours agoPeople who clean before the cleaner arrives, apologize when someone bumps into them, and pre-explain before anyone has asked for a justification all grew up in homes where taking up space without earning it first was treated as an act of aggression. - Silicon Canals
Cleaning before the cleaner reflects a deeper issue of feeling unworthy of help without prior justification.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology suggests people who adopt their parents' bad traits as they get older aren't becoming their parents - they're reverting to the most deeply installed operating system they have, the one that was running before they were old enough to choose a different one, and stress, age, and the slow erosion of self-monitoring are simply the conditions under which it boots back up - Silicon Canals
Behavioral patterns from childhood can resurface under stress, revealing deep-rooted psychological templates formed from early experiences.
#emotional-neglect
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals
Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals
Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoChildren who were praised for being smart rather than for working hard often become adults who avoid challenges - not from laziness but from a deep fear of being found ordinary - Silicon Canals
Praising children for being 'smart' can hinder their growth mindset and willingness to take risks.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI grew up thinking my mother was cold because she never said I love you. I'm in my 60s now and I finally understand she said it every single day. She said it in packed lunches and ironed uniforms and the way she sat outside the school fifteen minutes early so I'd never have to look for her. - Silicon Canals
Love can be expressed through actions rather than words, often leading to misunderstandings in family relationships.
Design
fromdesignboom | architecture & design magazine
2 weeks agoschool storage units transform into modular sensory furniture for early childhood education
TRIMINÓ is a modular furniture system for early childhood education that integrates sensory learning features into interactive storage units, supporting motor skills and literacy development through everyday use.
#child-development
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI'm 37 and my daughter just said sorry for laughing too loud and I recognized the exact moment a child starts editing herself because I remember the day I did it too, and I remember who taught me. - Silicon Canals
Children often self-regulate their joy, but this can lead to unnecessary apologies for natural expressions of happiness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPeople who were labeled 'the easy child' often became adults who confuse having no needs with being low maintenance, and the difference between those two things is about thirty years of unasked questions - Silicon Canals
Easy children often grow into adults who suppress their needs, leading to quiet suffering despite appearing content.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI'm 37 and my daughter just said sorry for laughing too loud and I recognized the exact moment a child starts editing herself because I remember the day I did it too, and I remember who taught me. - Silicon Canals
Children often self-regulate their joy, but this can lead to unnecessary apologies for natural expressions of happiness.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoChildren raised in the 1960s and 70s developed their resilience the same way muscle develops under resistance - not by being protected from the load but by being required to carry it, repeatedly, without assistance, until the carrying became the unremarkable default rather than the exceptional achievement - Silicon Canals
Independence and resilience were fostered in children of the '60s and '70s through unstructured play and learning from failure.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoChildren who were praised for being helpful and easy often become adults who are remarkably kind and deeply lonely at the same time - because they learned that being low-maintenance was how you earned love, and now they can't ask for what they need without feeling like a burden - Silicon Canals
Conditional praise can lead to emotional costs and a sense of conditional love in children, impacting their adult relationships and self-perception.
Miscellaneous
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoKids Today: Thoughts From Research, Practice, and the Classroom
Each generation faces unique challenges; today's youth deserve recognition for their perspectives rather than dismissal, as evidenced by clinical research, therapeutic practice, and educational settings.
Higher education
fromNew York Amsterdam News
1 month agoAs Mamdani expands child care, lessons from a Brooklyn early childhood center
FirstStepNYC demonstrates an integrated early education model combining school system resources, social services, and Head Start principles to support families from pregnancy through kindergarten entry.
fromMail Online
6 days agoHaving children DOESN'T make you happy, study claims
'These results do not support our hypothesis that parenthood is positively associated with hedonic wellbeing (levels of positive emotions) and life satisfaction,' the researchers, from the University of Nicosia in Cyprus, wrote.
Parenting
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoUnderstanding Childhood Dysregulation Profile
Childhood Dysregulation Profile describes a pattern of co-occurring mood, attention, and behavioral difficulties that signals risk for later mental health challenges, with early support improving long-term outcomes.
Education
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoTeachers can tell which children are truly loved and which are only taken care of-here are 7 signs they notice right away - Silicon Canals
Teachers can quickly detect whether children feel genuinely loved at home through subtle, consistent behavioral cues rather than material signs.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoWhat Homeschooling Taught Me
Like most Americans, my view of homeschooling was framed through the lens of abnormality. My own public-school education was my only frame of reference. Although my own experience wasn't great, it was familiar. It was the system I knew. As a college professor, I regularly saw the academic gaps my students carried with them from their public-school education. Yet even then, I struggled to imagine an alternative. My instinct was always to fix the existing system, not step outside of it.
Education
Parenting
fromBusiness Insider
3 weeks agoMy twins go to preschool at a nursing home. Its taught them about empathy and grief.
An intergenerational preschool program prioritizing empathy and community connection with seniors develops children's social-emotional skills beyond traditional academic readiness measures.
Education
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months agoMy youngest is starting school for the first time. How can I best preserve his relentless curiosity? | Shadi Khan Saif
Curiosity is both innate and nurtured, evident as a child drawn to books and a brother who cultivated a love for reading despite hardship.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoListen to Your Mother: What Children Learn by Eavesdropping
What makes me even crazier is that I know they can listen. I know this because they do all the time, mostly when they aren't supposed to. I can't tell you how many times I've been having an adult conversation with my husband and/or friends and my two children-who haven't listened to a word I've said all day-suddenly have very thoughtful and detailed questions
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago10 Things to Do That Can Make You a Better Parent
Saying yes to your child means loosening the reins and indulging them a little. It means being as flexible as you can while still setting clear limits as you normally would. For instance, let them make a fort from blankets, pillows, and couch cushions, knowing this will create more work for you, cleaning up later. Let them paint their bike. Let them invent a cookie recipe which you help them make and bake, knowing it will likely be barely edible. You get the idea.
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