#emotional-wounds

#emotional-wounds

To start resolving our hurt, it helps to pause and ask ourselves a different question: What kind of wound am I dealing with? Many painful experiences-rejection, disappointment, humiliation, betrayal, exclusion-do not leave traumatic injuries. They leave emotional wounds. These wounds are real and impactful, even when they do not necessarily involve threat, terror, or a nervous system focused on survival. And yet, they can linger for years, shaping how we see ourselves and others long after the event has passed.

It seems everyone, in one way or another, feels aggravated and damaged by it. I find this concerning. That's why I keep explaining that not every painful experience is or becomes a traumatic wound. Knowing how deep a wound goes-and what that implies for care-can spare people unnecessary labels and distress, help clinicians choose appropriate interventions, and free those who suffer from being defined solely by their pain.