Parenting
fromFast Company
1 day agoParents: A valuable source of AI intelligence
AI-assisted parenting tools are being developed by parents who understand the real challenges of childcare.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours agoPeople who clean before the cleaner arrives, apologize when someone bumps into them, and pre-explain before anyone has asked for a justification all grew up in homes where taking up space without earning it first was treated as an act of aggression. - Silicon Canals
Cleaning before the cleaner reflects a deeper issue of feeling unworthy of help without prior justification.
Mental health
fromIndependent
1 day agoAsking for a friend: 'My son has just been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. My husband also got tested and has ADHD. How will all this affect our relationship?'
Navigating the challenges of neurodiversity in a family can be overwhelming, especially with multiple diagnoses affecting communication and relationships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoMost people don't realize that children who grow up without affection don't struggle with love as adults. They struggle with trusting it, because it never felt safe to depend on - Silicon Canals
Emotional unavailability stems from a lack of early affection, leading to difficulties in accepting love despite an inherent capacity for it.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
21 hours agoPsychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals
Adapting to others' needs in childhood can lead to feeling disconnected and lost in adulthood.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoBehavioral scientists found that the people who become less likeable with age but more respected are operating on a principle most people understand intellectually but can't execute emotionally - that respect and likeability are often inversely correlated after 60, because likeability requires you to shrink and respect requires you to hold your shape, and most people spent their first six decades shrinking and their last two deciding that holding their shape matters more than fitting into someone else's fra
Standing up for oneself can lead to decreased likability, but it is a necessary part of emotional maturity and self-respect.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours agoPsychology suggests people who adopt their parents' bad traits as they get older aren't becoming their parents - they're reverting to the most deeply installed operating system they have, the one that was running before they were old enough to choose a different one, and stress, age, and the slow erosion of self-monitoring are simply the conditions under which it boots back up - Silicon Canals
Behavioral patterns from childhood can resurface under stress, revealing deep-rooted psychological templates formed from early experiences.
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Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day agoMy Daughter Made an Honest Mistake While Babysitting Her Cousins. My Sister Is Taking It Too Far.
Beatrice should take responsibility for her actions and communicate with her aunt about the incident.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals
Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoParenting
Psychology says the 1960s and 70s accidentally produced one of the most emotionally durable generations in modern history - not through better parenting but through benign neglect that forced children to develop internal regulation instead of waiting for adult intervention - Silicon Canals
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals
Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the 1960s and 70s accidentally produced one of the most emotionally durable generations in modern history - not through better parenting but through benign neglect that forced children to develop internal regulation instead of waiting for adult intervention - Silicon Canals
Children in the 70s thrived on unstructured play and minimal parental intervention, fostering independence and problem-solving skills.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
17 hours agoPsychology says people who slowly become unpleasant to be around as they get older didn't develop new flaws - they lost the motivation to manage the old ones, and the management, it turns out, was doing considerably more work than anyone around them understood while it was still running - Silicon Canals
People don't become worse with age; they simply stop managing their flaws as their energy to do so diminishes.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals
Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI'm 34 and I recently caught myself apologizing to a chair I bumped into, and my colleague laughed, but I didn't because I understood exactly where that reflex came from. When you grow up in a house where taking up space was a problem, you spend the rest of your life negotiating with furniture. - Silicon Canals
Emotional neglect in childhood leads to lifelong issues with self-worth, boundaries, and the need to apologize excessively.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals
Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI'm 34 and I recently caught myself apologizing to a chair I bumped into, and my colleague laughed, but I didn't because I understood exactly where that reflex came from. When you grow up in a house where taking up space was a problem, you spend the rest of your life negotiating with furniture. - Silicon Canals
Emotional neglect in childhood leads to lifelong issues with self-worth, boundaries, and the need to apologize excessively.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
22 hours agoChildren who were praised for being smart rather than for working hard often become adults who avoid challenges - not from laziness but from a deep fear of being found ordinary - Silicon Canals
Praising children for being 'smart' can hinder their growth mindset and willingness to take risks.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoChildren raised in the 1960s and 70s developed their resilience the same way muscle develops under resistance - not by being protected from the load but by being required to carry it, repeatedly, without assistance, until the carrying became the unremarkable default rather than the exceptional achievement - Silicon Canals
Independence and resilience were fostered in children of the '60s and '70s through unstructured play and learning from failure.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who grew up poor and became successful often can't fully enjoy it - not because they're ungrateful, but because some part of them never stopped waiting for it to disappear - Silicon Canals
Successful individuals often struggle with feelings of scarcity and anxiety about their financial stability, despite their achievements.
Higher education
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks agoTeachers Are the Architects of Human Potential
Schools in 50 years will likely shift from knowledge transmission to developing human potential, with teachers as facilitators fostering creativity, resilience, and adaptive thinking rather than standardized achievement.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPeople who were labeled 'too sensitive' often became adults who read rooms before anyone speaks, and the difference between those two things is about 20 years of misunderstanding - Silicon Canals
Sensitivity can evolve from a perceived weakness into a valuable skill for understanding emotional dynamics in various situations.
Education
fromLos Angeles Times
2 weeks agoGamified math. Video read-alouds. Why parents are saying no to screens in class
Parents across California are organizing to reduce excessive screen time in schools, citing concerns that digital learning replaces hands-on instruction and peer interaction during critical developmental years.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago9 subtle behaviors that reveal someone grew up in a household where money was discussed in whispers, and why those behaviors persist long after financial security has arrived - Silicon Canals
Financial behaviors are shaped by early experiences and trauma, not just knowledge or information gaps about money.
Education
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI asked a group of people in their 70s what they'd un-learn if they could and every single one named something they were taught before age 10 - not a fact, not a skill, a belief about themselves that was installed by a specific person in a specific room, and the fact that it's still running 60 years later without their permission is the thing that made half the room go quiet - Silicon Canals
Beliefs installed in childhood by authority figures persist into adulthood, shaping decisions and self-perception for decades without conscious awareness or permission.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who apologize constantly without realizing it are more damaged than they appear - because they internalize blame and absorb conflict, a survival response from childhood, which never switches off even when they're safe - Silicon Canals
Excessive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences of mistreatment and can lead to chronic self-blame in adulthood.
Miscellaneous
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoKids Today: Thoughts From Research, Practice, and the Classroom
Each generation faces unique challenges; today's youth deserve recognition for their perspectives rather than dismissal, as evidenced by clinical research, therapeutic practice, and educational settings.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says people who ask 'how can I learn to be more empathetic' already possess the one trait that matters most - self-awareness - while people who claim they're already empathetic rarely are - Silicon Canals
Self-awareness is essential for developing genuine empathy and emotional intelligence.
fromMail Online
6 days agoHaving children DOESN'T make you happy, study claims
'These results do not support our hypothesis that parenthood is positively associated with hedonic wellbeing (levels of positive emotions) and life satisfaction,' the researchers, from the University of Nicosia in Cyprus, wrote.
Parenting
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThe friends you made between 19 and 24 know a version of you that your current partner, your therapist, and your coworkers will never meet. And the grief isn't about losing those friends. It's about losing access to the person you were with them. - Silicon Canals
Friendships formed between ages 19 and 24 serve as an identity archive, reflecting a version of oneself that no longer exists.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoChildren who grew up watching one parent manage the other parent's mood became adults with an almost supernatural ability to read a room. The cost is that they read every room, all the time, even when no one is in danger. - Silicon Canals
Hypervigilance developed by children in emotionally unstable homes represents an adaptive survival skill that becomes costly to maintain after the danger passes.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoResearch says the 1960s and 70s accidentally produced one of the most emotionally durable generations in modern history - not through better parenting but through benign neglect that forced children to self-regulate, problem-solve, and develop emotional calluses that modern comfort has made nearly impossible to grow - Silicon Canals
Reduced independent activity and increased parental supervision since the 1960s correlates with rising youth mental health problems including anxiety, depression, and suicide rates.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoResearch suggests that children who grew up as the emotional translator between two parents often become adults who can read a room instantly but have almost no idea what they themselves are actually feeling - Silicon Canals
Children who become emotional caretakers for parents develop heightened ability to read others' emotions but often lose touch with their own feelings, creating a lasting pattern of external awareness paired with internal disconnection.
Parenting
fromBusiness Insider
3 weeks agoI wasn't sure if my daughter was ready to sleep over at a friend's on her own. I decided to join her.
A parent attended her daughter's first sleepover to ease both her and her friend's anxieties, resulting in a successful experience that led to reciprocal sleepovers between families.
Parenting
fromBusiness Insider
3 weeks agoMy twins go to preschool at a nursing home. Its taught them about empathy and grief.
An intergenerational preschool program prioritizing empathy and community connection with seniors develops children's social-emotional skills beyond traditional academic readiness measures.
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Parenting
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks agoWhat Do I Do If My Child Won't Talk About an Upsetting Time?
Children may not verbally process upsetting events for various developmentally appropriate or concerning reasons, requiring parents to identify the underlying cause through patient, non-judgmental engagement.
Education
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoTeachers can tell which children are truly loved and which are only taken care of-here are 7 signs they notice right away - Silicon Canals
Teachers can quickly detect whether children feel genuinely loved at home through subtle, consistent behavioral cues rather than material signs.
fromLos Angeles Times
1 month agoWhat it means to be 'ready' for kindergarten in California
The effort to get a snapshot of kindergarten readiness is part of the National Survey of Children's Health, which collected information from thousands of parents and guardians about their child in five areas - early learning, motor skills, social-emotional development, self-regulation and health. The goal was to answer an overall question: Is your child ready for school? Readiness in California is on par with the nation's average, which also puts kindergarten readiness at two-thirds of 3- to 5-year-olds.
Education
Education
fromFuturism
2 months agoNew Study Finds AI in Schools Is Undermining Kids' Social and Intellectual Development
Generative AI in schools currently poses greater risks than benefits, undermining children's cognitive development, learning engagement, memory retention, and social skill formation.
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoOnly children aren't lonely - psychology says they often develop these 7 exceptional qualities - Silicon Canals
Growing up, I heard it constantly: "Oh, you must have been so lonely as an only child." People would look at my friend Emma with this mix of pity and concern, as if she'd been raised by wolves instead of loving parents. They'd ask if she wished for siblings, assuming her childhood was some tragic tale of isolation and imaginary friends.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoListen to Your Mother: What Children Learn by Eavesdropping
What makes me even crazier is that I know they can listen. I know this because they do all the time, mostly when they aren't supposed to. I can't tell you how many times I've been having an adult conversation with my husband and/or friends and my two children-who haven't listened to a word I've said all day-suddenly have very thoughtful and detailed questions
Parenting
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
2 months agoMy Son Keeps Coming Home From Daycare With Something Outrageous. My Wife Wants to Ignore It.
Toddler bites and other minor illnesses are common in daycare; prioritize realistic risk assessment and weigh relationship strain against pursuing alternative childcare.
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