"Attached explains the basics of adult attachment theory, the psychological principle that categorizes people into four categories based on the way they relate to others."
It's easy to get caught up in what we believe we owe our parents. But we shouldn't forget what we owe ourselves, or our children. It's great that your child was able to communicate her discomfort to you. She has let you know that she 'really, really' doesn't want to visit your mom. And now I think she needs you to pay attention to those things.
The issue I'm facing is that my mother keeps trying to fix me up with other men! There have been no fewer than five separate occasions within the last six months where I have come over to my parents' place to find a man waiting there that she wants to introduce me to. Each time the guy has left angry and embarrassed (my mother conveniently failed to mention that I'm married), and so have I.
Parents hold a key that grants access to areas of their child's life that no one else can enter a foundational intimacy. However, more and more people are choosing to sever that bond and throw the key away. It's difficult to quantify how many children have decided to stop speaking to their parents, although some studies point to a steady increase in recent years.
"The smartest women with the happiest relationships are the useless women," Dianna Lee begins in her video. "As you can probably tell, I'm a highly capable woman. I'm capable throughout all areas of my life, through my schooling days, to my career, and I attacked my marriage life in exactly the same way. I just executed. I was fast, efficient, and I knew exactly what needed to get done. And in retrospect, it was so wrong."
