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#parental-violence

Social justice

James Garbarino, expert on childhood trauma, dies at 78 | Cornell Chronicle

A Near Impossible Trajectory for the Kid in the Shelter

A child in a shelter recognizes by age ten that parental addiction and mental illness, combined with institutional poverty, create systemic barriers to escaping generational hardship.

Parenting

My 4-Year-Old Saw Something No One Should See. My Husband Thinks He Should Be Over It by Now.

Parenting

When Childhood Trauma Shows Up in Parenting

Public health

Why Is Eradicating Adverse Childhood Experiences Critical?

Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) are a leading cause of death and significant economic burden, affecting billions globally.

fromCornell Chronicle

Social justice

James Garbarino, expert on childhood trauma, dies at 78 | Cornell Chronicle

A Near Impossible Trajectory for the Kid in the Shelter

A child in a shelter recognizes by age ten that parental addiction and mental illness, combined with institutional poverty, create systemic barriers to escaping generational hardship.

Parenting

My 4-Year-Old Saw Something No One Should See. My Husband Thinks He Should Be Over It by Now.

Parenting

When Childhood Trauma Shows Up in Parenting

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When Your Adult Child Says 'I Hate You' and Then Wants Money

Emotional outbursts from adult children often stem from overload, and parents should change their responses to reset dynamics.

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Parenting

My Wife's Sister Dropped Her 1-Year-Old Twins With Us Due to a Family Emergency. When She Texted Us an Update, I Was Floored.

23 hours ago

My Daughter Made an Honest Mistake While Babysitting Her Cousins. My Sister Is Taking It Too Far.

Beatrice should take responsibility for her actions and communicate with her aunt about the incident.

My Daughter Has Been Framed for Something She Didn't Do. My Husband Thinks She Should Just Accept the Punishment.

Middle schoolers should be involved in decisions about their conflicts and how to address misunderstandings with peers and school authorities.

7 Words Adult Children Say Before Cutting Off Parents

Disconnection often begins quietly, with feelings of not being understood leading to significant relationship breakdowns.

Psychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals

Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.

20 hours ago

When Your Adult Child Says 'I Hate You' and Then Wants Money

Emotional outbursts from adult children often stem from overload, and parents should change their responses to reset dynamics.

18 hours ago

My Wife's Sister Dropped Her 1-Year-Old Twins With Us Due to a Family Emergency. When She Texted Us an Update, I Was Floored.

Renata's manipulative behavior has destroyed trust, justifying a refusal to provide future childcare.

23 hours ago

My Daughter Made an Honest Mistake While Babysitting Her Cousins. My Sister Is Taking It Too Far.

Beatrice should take responsibility for her actions and communicate with her aunt about the incident.

My Daughter Has Been Framed for Something She Didn't Do. My Husband Thinks She Should Just Accept the Punishment.

Middle schoolers should be involved in decisions about their conflicts and how to address misunderstandings with peers and school authorities.

7 Words Adult Children Say Before Cutting Off Parents

Disconnection often begins quietly, with feelings of not being understood leading to significant relationship breakdowns.

Psychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals

Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.

People who clean before the cleaner arrives, apologize when someone bumps into them, and pre-explain before anyone has asked for a justification all grew up in homes where taking up space without earning it first was treated as an act of aggression. - Silicon Canals

Cleaning before the cleaner reflects a deeper issue of feeling unworthy of help without prior justification.

Start Strong But Never Finish? 4 Causes and 4 Solutions

Starting strong and quitting is common due to tedium, poor planning, and discouragement; recognizing patterns and seeking support can help overcome this.

Social justice

14 hours ago

Rise in number of girls being identified as victims in county lines exploitation, data shows

An increasing number of girls are identified as victims of county lines exploitation, rising from 15% to 22% of cases in one year.

Death, displacement and military duties: children plunged into crisis by Middle East war

The war in the Middle East has severely impacted millions of children, causing deaths, injuries, and mass displacements across the region.

fromLos Angeles Times

Southern California sisters face losing mom to brain cancer, father to deportation

A Big Bear handyman faces deportation while his wife battles Stage 4 brain cancer, prompting their daughters to seek legal assistance.

Higher education

Student who missed exams after being raped appeals against ruling in favour of UCD

A female medical student claims University College Dublin inadequately supported her after being raped and facing image-based abuse.

Most people don't realize that children who grow up without affection don't struggle with love as adults. They struggle with trusting it, because it never felt safe to depend on - Silicon Canals

Emotional unavailability stems from a lack of early affection, leading to difficulties in accepting love despite an inherent capacity for it.

Law

fromBoston.com

Mass. couple sentenced to prison for manslaughter in death of infant foster child

A couple was sentenced to prison for manslaughter after their foster child's death due to neglect and failure to seek medical care.

London politics

'We're tired of calling the police, nothing gets done'

Shopkeepers in south London face daily thefts, with many feeling police response is inadequate.

#domestic-violence

fromLos Angeles Times

Los Angeles

Two dead in Pomona police pursuit stemming from domestic violence call

SF politics

fromKqed

Domestic Violence Survivor Advocates Push S.F. to Fund Legal Counsel Voters Approved | KQED

Survivors of domestic violence in San Francisco face legal challenges and insufficient support despite the establishment of a new office for victim rights.

Asking for a friend: 'My partner got really angry and hit me. They apologised a few days later but now keep telling me I just need to get over it'

Experiencing physical violence from a partner creates feelings of isolation and confusion about the relationship's future.

Psychology

He Never Hit Her. Then He Killed Her

Public health

Domestic Violence Can Lead to Sibling Aggression and Abuse

fromLos Angeles Times

Los Angeles

Two dead in Pomona police pursuit stemming from domestic violence call

SF politics

fromKqed

Domestic Violence Survivor Advocates Push S.F. to Fund Legal Counsel Voters Approved | KQED

Survivors of domestic violence in San Francisco face legal challenges and insufficient support despite the establishment of a new office for victim rights.

Asking for a friend: 'My partner got really angry and hit me. They apologised a few days later but now keep telling me I just need to get over it'

Experiencing physical violence from a partner creates feelings of isolation and confusion about the relationship's future.

Psychology

He Never Hit Her. Then He Killed Her

Public health

Domestic Violence Can Lead to Sibling Aggression and Abuse

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fromPadailypost

Mom accused of killing baby son freed of ankle bracelet

The Santa Clara County Medical Examiner said the unnamed baby suffered extensive trauma to his face and neck, brain bleeding and a broken left arm.

US news

fromNew York Post

Video shows heart-wrenching moment NYC mom realizes her 7-month-old daughter was shot dead

"I was hugging [my son], and then when I looked to my left, my daughter was just there, lying there. She was shot in the head. She was just bleeding. It was just too much."

Brooklyn

UK politics

Hundreds of my abusers are still out there, says victim as grooming inquiry launched

Grooming gangs exploited young girls, with many perpetrators remaining unpunished despite some convictions.

'My son's nursery closed with just 29 days' notice - why?

We really had a good feel for the place, and the nursery manager at the time really sold us on the vibe. It's not a decision that's made lightly.

Fundraising

#coercive-control

UK news

If my boyfriend did what my pastor did, I believe police could investigate'. The campaign to close a serious gap in UK law | Barbara Speed

Rachael Reign's allegations against the UCKG highlight issues of control and coercion within religious groups, which are not covered by current coercive control laws.

Psychology

The Problem With Coercive Control

Relationships

Haranguing: Verbal Abuse Sessions in Domestic Violence

UK news

If my boyfriend did what my pastor did, I believe police could investigate'. The campaign to close a serious gap in UK law | Barbara Speed

Rachael Reign's allegations against the UCKG highlight issues of control and coercion within religious groups, which are not covered by current coercive control laws.

Psychology

The Problem With Coercive Control

Relationships

Haranguing: Verbal Abuse Sessions in Domestic Violence

more#coercive-control

Podcast

A Court Settlement Made Me a Millionaire. I've Barely Touched the Money.

Natalie received over a million dollars in a major abuse settlement after being sexually abused by her university gynecologist.

Psychology

Not everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals

Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.

Asking for a friend: 'My son has just been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. My husband also got tested and has ADHD. How will all this affect our relationship?'

Navigating the challenges of neurodiversity in a family can be overwhelming, especially with multiple diagnoses affecting communication and relationships.

Social justice

They're making them disappear again': families fear Mexico's missing are being erased

Over 130,000 people have disappeared in Mexico due to drug cartel violence, with authorities downplaying the crisis and families demanding accountability.

Is Mandated Reporting Racist? What Families Must Know

Low reporting standards and systemic racism lead to unjust CPS reports, disproportionately affecting Black and Brown families.

fromPadailypost

DHS says local mom was killed due to county's sanctuary policy

Homeland Security blames Santa Clara County's sanctuary policy for the murder of Kembery Chirinos-Flores by two undocumented Honduran men.

I Don't Let Anyone I Date Meet My Parents. That's Not a Red Flag. I Have a Very Good Reason Why.

Some individuals avoid introducing partners to difficult family members to protect them from negative experiences.

My Father Is Finally Rid of My Hellish Mother. But I'm Very Concerned by What He's Doing Now.

The letter-writer is concerned about her father's engagement to a younger woman after a long, unhappy marriage.

I Don't Let Anyone I Date Meet My Parents. That's Not a Red Flag. I Have a Very Good Reason Why.

Some individuals avoid introducing partners to difficult family members to protect them from negative experiences.

My Father Is Finally Rid of My Hellish Mother. But I'm Very Concerned by What He's Doing Now.

The letter-writer is concerned about her father's engagement to a younger woman after a long, unhappy marriage.

BREAKING | 7-month-old baby shot dead on walk with mom in Brooklyn, sources say | amNewYork

A 7-month-old child was shot dead in Brooklyn, possibly by a stray bullet, while being pushed in a stroller by their mother.

Law

fromThe Nation

fromwww.independent.co.uk

The Supreme Court Just Condemned Countless Kids to Psychiatric Abuse

The Supreme Court's ruling overturns Colorado's ban on conversion therapy, raising concerns about psychiatric abuse and substandard medical care for children.

#domestic-abuse

UK politics

Two-thirds' of domestic abuse survivors rejected from refuges due to shortages

Domestic abuse services in the UK face a crisis, with over 65% of refuge referrals rejected due to capacity issues.

Mental health

Adults underestimate risk of abuse posed to women by ex-partners, UK data shows

fromwww.independent.co.uk

Public health

Katie's story: her abusive ex-partner said kill yourself'. When she did, police dropped domestic violence inquiry

UK politics

Two-thirds' of domestic abuse survivors rejected from refuges due to shortages

Domestic abuse services in the UK face a crisis, with over 65% of refuge referrals rejected due to capacity issues.

Adults underestimate risk of abuse posed to women by ex-partners, UK data shows

The risk of abuse from ex-partners is significantly underestimated, with many UK adults failing to recognize this danger.

Public health

Katie's story: her abusive ex-partner said kill yourself'. When she did, police dropped domestic violence inquiry

What Happens When We Simultaneously Seek and Avoid Intimacy?

Loneliness has escalated to a public health crisis, significantly impacting mortality rates and emotional well-being.

Healing From Our Trauma Helps Shape Future Generations

Healing breaks generational trauma patterns and transforms relational dynamics and biology.

Mental health

When Trauma Silences a Child

Healing From Our Trauma Helps Shape Future Generations

Healing breaks generational trauma patterns and transforms relational dynamics and biology.

When Trauma Silences a Child

Narrative therapy helped a young Ukrainian boy regain his ability to speak after trauma, starting with his interaction with a guitar.

Psychology says people who grew up poor and became successful often can't fully enjoy it - not because they're ungrateful, but because some part of them never stopped waiting for it to disappear - Silicon Canals

Successful individuals often struggle with feelings of scarcity and anxiety about their financial stability, despite their achievements.

fromCalifornia Post

Child arrested after horrific bullying attack left schoolgirl, 12, dead

This arrest is an important step toward accountability, but it does not change the bigger truth: this tragedy was entirely preventable, attorney Robert Glassman of Panish Shea Ravipudi LLP wrote in a statement obtained by CBS News.

NYC parents

Not everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals

People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.

Relationships

Ask Allison: My husband won't talk about our IVF heartbreak and he drinks - and drives, most nights

Not everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals

People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.

Ask Allison: My husband won't talk about our IVF heartbreak and he drinks - and drives, most nights

Rapid engagement and marriage can lead to misunderstandings in relationships.

more#relationships

Privacy professionals

Child seen in sex abuse videos identified after researcher spots school badge

Internet Watch Foundation researchers identified a child sexual abuse victim after years of searching by recognizing her school uniform in images, enabling police to locate and help her.

London politics

Killed by the same abuser: Families demand answers

Family of missing woman Fiona Holm faced police inaction despite concerns about her boyfriend's behavior and previous violence.

Psychology

Psychology says people who apologize constantly without realizing it are more damaged than they appear - because they internalize blame and absorb conflict, a survival response from childhood, which never switches off even when they're safe - Silicon Canals

Excessive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences of mistreatment and can lead to chronic self-blame in adulthood.

The Divorce Diaries: 'He actually slapped me across the face on a night out, very early in, and I stupidly let it slide'

A woman shares her experience of marriage and divorce, highlighting early warning signs about her ex-husband's behavior.

Social justice

The Psychology of Sex Trafficking

Sex trafficking is a severe human rights violation, often misunderstood, with survivors criminalized instead of protected and rooted in societal norms.

Foster Care: Angels on a Battlefield

2.5 million children in the U.S. are homeless, highlighting a critical need for foster care and support.

Why Foster Children Fall Apart After Seeing the Birth Parent

Children in foster care often experience emotional turmoil after visits with birth parents, leading to regression and behavioral changes.

Foster Care: Angels on a Battlefield

2.5 million children in the U.S. are homeless, highlighting a critical need for foster care and support.

Why Foster Children Fall Apart After Seeing the Birth Parent

Children in foster care often experience emotional turmoil after visits with birth parents, leading to regression and behavioral changes.

Mother, Clinician, Witness: Healing Communities

Violence against children impacts the entire community, necessitating protective programs and trauma-informed care for meaningful change.

Psychology

fromHuffPost

8 Sneaky Signs You're Being Emotionally Manipulated

Emotional manipulation often manifests through subtle control, leading to confusion and anxiety in relationships.

London politics

'Why we want child abuse nursery held accountable'

Parents of children abused at a London nursery criticize Camden Council for refusing to investigate safeguarding failures, citing conflict of interest concerns.

The Day I Realized My Son Wasn't Defiant, He Was Ashamed

Understanding a child's emotional state is crucial; shame can manifest as feelings of worthlessness, impacting behavior and communication.

My Mom Got a Call That I Was in a Horrific Accident. What She Did Next Can't Be Undone.

Scammers exploit emotional vulnerabilities, making it crucial to educate and protect against future scams.

Handedness in Children of Traumatized Mothers

Higher maternal post-traumatic stress during pregnancy is linked to increased mixed-handedness in children.

What Estranged Parents Wish Others Understood

Estrangement from adult children creates a unique, unresolved grief for parents, marked by ambiguity and a lack of social recognition.

Two Signs You're Raising a Hyper-Sensitive Child

Parenting requires understanding and support for emotionally sensitive children who may react more intensely to situations than their peers.

I grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals

Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.

fromwww.ocregister.com

4 weeks ago

My dad tried to kill me,' dying California girl tells first responders, prosecutor says

An 81-year-old man is on trial for fatally stabbing his 11-year-old stepdaughter and attempting to kill his wife during a 2018 attack at their Garden Grove home.

Parental Burnout Is a Social Problem, Not a Personal Failure

Parental burnout has reached unprecedented levels, with over 40% of parents feeling exhausted and overwhelmed daily.

When Protection Becomes Punishment

Mandated reporting trainings emphasize legal compliance over understanding how CPS functions as a policing mechanism that disproportionately harms marginalized families.

Why Some Men Kill Their Wives in the Name of Love

Nearly 50,000 women were killed by intimate partners or family members in 2024, highlighting the severe issue of femicide.

What Parents Need to Know About Mental Health Crisis Care

Calling 911 for mental health crises can be fatal, especially for Black and disabled children, highlighting the need for alternative solutions.

fromLGBTQ Nation

Adoption is a beautiful way to build a family. But it's not one-size-fits-all. - LGBTQ Nation

Adoption has various paths, each with unique processes, costs, and timelines, requiring thorough understanding before proceeding.

Disclosing Abuse: How to Choose the Right Person to Tell

Many childhood abuse victims remain silent due to fear of judgment and disbelief, but choosing the right person to confide in can provide support.

'Instead of support, I was met with rejection': Mother jailed for not protecting her daughter from sexual abuse

A woman endured 13 years of rape by her father, with the case presented in court while her mother remained emotionally composed during testimony.

fromwww.businessinsider.com

When my daughter was born disabled, I had a hard time finding a Mom group that felt right for us

Building a support system is crucial for new mothers, especially when facing unexpected challenges like a child's disabilities.

#child-sexual-abuse

Miscellaneous

Man who sexually abused five of his children and locked them away for days without food is jailed for 20 years

UK news

Families take legal action over nursery worker's abuse

Public health

Do Sexual Abuse Offenders Target the Same Type of Victim?

Miscellaneous

Man who sexually abused five of his children and locked them away for days without food is jailed for 20 years

UK news

Families take legal action over nursery worker's abuse

Public health

Do Sexual Abuse Offenders Target the Same Type of Victim?

more#child-sexual-abuse

Can You Spot Emotional Abuse, Neglect, or Attunement?

Emotional neglect involves missing or misunderstanding a partner's feelings, while emotional abuse dismisses feelings and shifts blame, requiring emotional attunement to differentiate between them.

fromUs Weekly

Woman Killed Crying Baby by Stuffing Paper Towel Down Infant's Throat

I did it. I did everything. I put the paper towel in the baby's mouth because she was crying.

NYC parents

Language Matters When Talking About Child Sexual Abuse

Words such as 'relationship,' 'affair,' 'involvement,' or 'seeing each other' imply mutuality and consent. In the context of child sexual abuse, these implications are false. A child cannot legally or developmentally consent to sexual activity with an adult. Describing abuse using relational language risks distorting the inherent power imbalance and shifting perceived responsibility away from the adult perpetrator.

Psychology

When Conflict at Home Shapes a Child's World

Domestic conflict within homes significantly impacts children's psychological development, though it receives far less public attention than international warfare.

Public health

fromwww.aljazeera.com

Protecting children is a priority now is the time to prove it

A billion children suffer violence yearly; proven prevention strategies exist but urgent political action and scaled investments are required to meet 2030 targets.

fromPinkNews | Latest lesbian, gay, bi and trans news | LGBTQ+ news

'You don't need millions to adopt - kids just need love and a safe place'

A same-sex couple adopted two mixed-race sisters to prevent their separation in care, addressing the significant underrepresentation of Black and mixed-heritage children in adoption systems.

How to Talk to Kids About the Bad Stuff

Direct, honest communication with children about difficult events reduces fear and anxiety while building trust and understanding.

4 weeks ago

What Do I Do If My Child Won't Talk About an Upsetting Time?

Children may not verbally process upsetting events for various developmentally appropriate or concerning reasons, requiring parents to identify the underlying cause through patient, non-judgmental engagement.

How to Talk to Kids About the Bad Stuff

Direct, honest communication with children about difficult events reduces fear and anxiety while building trust and understanding.

4 weeks ago

What Do I Do If My Child Won't Talk About an Upsetting Time?

more#child-communication

Sexual Abuse in Families: Be Brave and Address the Harm

Sexual abuse is never the victim's fault; parents can and must address intrafamilial sexual abuse to break cycles of generational trauma and prevent further harm.

Public health

fromwww.mercurynews.com

South Bay center could help meet dire need for services for abused children

A Children's Advocacy Center will open in Morgan Hill to provide local trauma, medical, and forensic services to abused and neglected children and families.

Provoking & Recording in Domestic Abuse: Gaslighting in Action

He would back her into a corner and verbally abuse her for hours. And sometimes Sandra responded in ways that she now regrets-shouting at Gary, throwing things, and slamming doors in frustration. She separated from him to protect herself and the children from Gary's outbursts and coercive control. She was shocked when Gary filed for a protective order, claiming that she had abused him.

Financial Abuse Is More Common Than You Think

Financial abuse often accompanies other abuse, involves controlling access to money and spending, and can be reduced by clear boundaries and financial independence.

fromwww.npr.org