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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoThe hardest thing about being the calm one in a family is that your steadiness becomes load-bearing. Everyone leans on it, nobody asks what holds it up, and the day you finally crack, people don't comfort you. They panic. Because your collapse threatens the architecture, and the architecture was always more important than you were. - Silicon Canals
The calm family member often bears the burden of emotional labor, managing others' feelings while suppressing their own.
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1 day agoParents' umbilical cord dilemma: Donate or preserve, even if it may never be used
The probability that frozen tissue will benefit the person who froze it is remote. The chance of developing acute lymphoblastic leukemia, the most common childhood cancer, currently stands at one in 20,000.
Medicine
Mental health
fromIndependent
1 day agoAsking for a friend: 'My son has just been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. My husband also got tested and has ADHD. How will all this affect our relationship?'
Navigating the challenges of neurodiversity in a family can be overwhelming, especially with multiple diagnoses affecting communication and relationships.
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 days agoBeloved children's singer melts hearts with message for trans kids: "You are a beautiful light" - LGBTQ Nation
I see you, and it makes me so happy to see you. There is such a disconnect between what we say America is about and what it is right now. True freedom is the freedom to be who we are, and it hurts my heart so much that in some parts of this country, it is unsafe for trans people to do that right now.
SF LGBT
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Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 day agoWhen Your Adult Child Says 'I Hate You' and Then Wants Money
Emotional outbursts from adult children often stem from overload, and parents should change their responses to reset dynamics.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours agoThe hardest part of growing up lower middle class wasn't the lack of money. It was learning to want things quietly, because visible desire in a household running on tight margins felt like an accusation against the people who were already giving everything they had. - Silicon Canals
Emotional training around scarcity shapes behavior in lower middle class childhoods, teaching children to suppress desires to avoid adding stress to their families.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoYou know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals
Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
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Healthcare
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2 weeks agoFamilies sue SoCal hospital system after gender-affirming care for trans youth halted
Families in California have filed a lawsuit against Rady Children's Health for stopping gender-affirming care for patients under 19, citing discrimination.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoNot everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals
Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere's a generation of men who were taught that providing was the same as loving. And there's a generation of their children who spent years in therapy learning that those aren't the same thing, only to reach an age where they finally understand that for their fathers, inside the architecture they were given, it was. - Silicon Canals
Emotional estrangement between fathers and children stems from generational differences in expressing love and vulnerability.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe most painful thing about watching a parent age isn't the physical decline. It's the moment you catch them deferring to you on a decision they would have made without hesitation ten years ago, and you both feel the transfer of authority that neither of you agreed to. - Silicon Canals
The real challenge of aging parents lies in the subtle shifts of authority and uncertainty in their decision-making.
fromIndependent
1 week ago'It's a huge amount of money': Modern fertility medicine is a miracle - but it's also a booming business
Since the first IVF baby was born in 1978, technological advancement of reproductive medicine has enabled millions to have children, marking a significant milestone in medical history.
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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoNot everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals
People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals
Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.
Parenting
fromBusiness Insider
3 weeks agoI want another child, but my husband doesn't. I've considered leaving, but instead, I'm looking for other ways to feel fulfilled.
A couple faces conflict over having a second child, with the husband satisfied with one daughter while the wife desires another, requiring honest communication and therapy to navigate their differing desires.
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2 months agoI didn't give up, I let go. How I came to terms with not having children
Try hard enough, we are often told, and eventually you'll get what you want. But sometimes the hardest - and bravest - thing to do, is to stop trying. After years of hoping to start a family, including the painful rollercoaster of fertility treatment and a devastating miscarriage on Christmas day, Caroline Stafford, found the only way to find some kind of peace again was to accept it was not going to happen and to build a different future.
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Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months agoAnna longed for a second child. Coming to terms with secondary infertility meant letting go of her fixed notion of family | Bianca Denny
Secondary infertility caused Anna profound emotional distress, social isolation, relationship strain, and self-blame while intensifying preoccupation with conceiving a second child.
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoAre You Choosing a Donor or a Parent?
Over my decades of practice, seeing thousands of people who use donor conception to have their children, I have seen a steady increase in people who want to either co‑parent or who plan to use the sperm or eggs of someone they know and plan to call that person "mom" or "dad." While I have seen many of these beautiful arrangements work out well, many have not.
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