Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 hours agoWhy Confidence Doesn't Always Reflect True Self-Worth
Authentic self-worth is grounded in presence and self-acceptance, contrasting with fragile self-worth tied to external perceptions.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoIt took me until 37 to realize that almost all successful people let go of these 7 habits, but average performers keep clinging to them - Silicon Canals
Successful people abandon habits that keep others stuck, focusing instead on effectiveness and prioritizing their time.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
8 hours agoPsychology says people who were told they were gifted as children often grow into adults who avoid challenges - because their identity was built on being naturally good, not on getting better - Silicon Canals
Labeling children as 'gifted' can hinder their growth by tying their self-worth to innate talent rather than effort and improvement.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe people who are best at hiding unhappiness aren't the stoic ones or the quiet ones - they're the ones who became so skilled at giving everyone around them exactly enough warmth to never be looked at too closely - Silicon Canals
People often hide their struggles behind a facade of warmth, leading to loneliness despite appearing thriving.
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fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThe people who look most successful on the outside often have no idea what they're doing - they just learned early that confidence and competence look identical from a distance - Silicon Canals
The gap between perceived success and actual competence is significant, often leading to overconfidence in those with limited knowledge.
fromwww.businessinsider.com
4 days agoI was laid off twice from the same company. The second time was a gut punch but taught me not to take cuts personally.
When the CEO held a virtual town hall in 2020 and said there needed to be layoffs, I knew I would be one of the first to go because I served zero purpose at that point.
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Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
17 hours agoPsychology says people who constantly research self-improvement but never start aren't lazy - they've confused the feeling of learning with the feeling of changing - Silicon Canals
Learning about self-improvement can create a false sense of progress without actual change in behavior.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm 37 and the friendships in my life that have lasted are the ones where we stopped pretending - stopped curating what we showed each other, stopped performing the version of our lives that made sense on paper - and what replaced the pretending is the best thing I have built in the last decade - Silicon Canals
Authentic friendships emerge when individuals drop their facades and share their true struggles with each other.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology suggests the most attractive person in the room is almost never the one trying hardest to be - because effort in the direction of attractiveness is visible, and visibility of effort is the one thing that reliably cancels the effect it's trying to produce - Silicon Canals
Authenticity is more appealing than effortful perfection in social interactions.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals
Adapting to others' needs in childhood can lead to feeling disconnected and lost in adulthood.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoSome people don't fear failure. They fear succeeding and then being expected to sustain it, because the version of them that achieved it was running on adrenaline and desperation, and the person who shows up on Monday is someone quieter who doesn't know how to replicate what the emergency produced. - Silicon Canals
The fear of success stems from the pressure to replicate high performance, not from a desire to avoid good outcomes.
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Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology suggests people who stay calm during conflict aren't less emotional - they learned early that the person who controls the temperature of the room controls the outcome, and they stopped reacting and started choosing - Silicon Canals
Controlling emotional responses during conflict can significantly influence the outcome of the situation.
Psychology
fromEntrepreneur
2 weeks ago15 Questions That Reveal If You're the Problem at Work
Leadership effectiveness depends on emotional intelligence; when organizational problems arise, leaders must examine their own emotional awareness and interpersonal skills rather than blaming external factors.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology suggests people who stay calm during conflict aren't less emotional - they learned early that the person who controls the temperature of the room controls the outcome, and they stopped reacting and started choosing - Silicon Canals
Controlling emotional responses during conflict can significantly influence the outcome of the situation.
Psychology
fromEntrepreneur
2 weeks ago15 Questions That Reveal If You're the Problem at Work
Leadership effectiveness depends on emotional intelligence; when organizational problems arise, leaders must examine their own emotional awareness and interpersonal skills rather than blaming external factors.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who are nice on the surface but have no close friends aren't lonely because nobody wants them - they're lonely because the version of them that everyone wants is not the version that needs anything, and a self that never needs anything is a self that nobody ever gets close enough to actually know - Silicon Canals
Being nice can lead to emotional isolation and a lack of true connection with others.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoNot everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals
People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who slowly become unpleasant to be around as they get older didn't develop new flaws - they lost the motivation to manage the old ones, and the management, it turns out, was doing considerably more work than anyone around them understood while it was still running - Silicon Canals
People don't become worse with age; they simply stop managing their flaws as their energy to do so diminishes.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe people who say 'I'm fine with whatever you want to do' in every social situation aren't easygoing. They've simply never been in an environment where stating a preference didn't start a negotiation they couldn't afford to lose. - Silicon Canals
People who appear easygoing may actually be practicing conflict avoidance as a survival strategy learned from past experiences.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoMen who say "we" when referring to their favorite sports team aren't delusional - they've found one of the last remaining places in adult life where belonging is unconditional, identity is shared without negotiation, and nobody asks them to explain why it matters so much - Silicon Canals
Men's identification with their sports teams fosters a sense of community and identity without the need for qualifications or conditions.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 weeks agoAthlete mocked for saying she's traumatized from rooming with someone she later found out was trans - LGBTQ Nation
Former SJSU volleyball player Brooke Slusser faces social media criticism for claiming trauma from discovering a transgender teammate was trans, despite no negative incidents occurring during their friendship and cohabitation.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says people who command the most respect in a room aren't the loudest or most confident - they're the ones who can disagree without making others feel stupid for having believed something different - Silicon Canals
Respectful disagreement fosters genuine influence and encourages open dialogue.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThere's a specific kind of loyalty that keeps people in jobs, cities, and friendships years after the reason they stayed has disappeared. It's not inertia. It's that leaving would require admitting the time already spent wasn't building toward something, and that admission costs more than staying another year. - Silicon Canals
People remain in unfulfilling situations due to the fear of admitting past investments were unproductive, not because of passivity or fear of change.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the most self-centered people in any room aren't the ones who talk loudest - they're the ones who respond to every story you tell with a story about themselves, so automatically and so consistently that they've long since stopped noticing they do it - Silicon Canals
Conversational narcissism involves shifting focus in conversations back to oneself, often without awareness, hindering genuine connection.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI'm 34 and I just realized I've been performing competence at work for seven years because somewhere along the way I confused being impressive with being safe, and the exhaustion I thought was burnout was actually the weight of never once letting anyone see me learn something for the first time. - Silicon Canals
Performing competence can lead to self-erasure and social rewards, masking genuine capability with a polished exterior.
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoIs Sports Fandom Play?
In this playoff season, I try to shut my eyes to products featured in commercial time-outs. You've seen them? The cryptic medicines to treat unspecified ailments? The pickup trucks and beer brands that signal ruggedness and romantic success. Or more tempting, the gooey-delectable double-cheese-pepperoni pizzas with yet more cheese stuffed in the crust. But one other caught my ear for novel English usage. Namely, the new infinitive "to fan."
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Careers
fromEntrepreneur
2 weeks agoWhy Leaders Who Prioritize Mental Resilience Win in the Long Run
Leadership credibility requires internal alignment between culture, systems, and external messaging, with emotional resilience serving as an operational advantage rather than optional workplace benefit.
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks agoCross-Cultural Psychology in Baseball
The rules of the sport itself are pretty much the same around the world, but the behaviors of the people-both fans and players-often illustrate some of the key differences between collectivism and individualism. The emphasis on both hierarchical connectedness (vertical collectivism) and interconnectedness with others (horizontal collectivism) is apparent whenever I attend baseball games in Korea, in contrast to the MLB games that I have attended in the U.S.
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