Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day agoMy Mom Got a Call That I Was in a Horrific Accident. What She Did Next Can't Be Undone.
Scammers exploit emotional vulnerabilities, making it crucial to educate and protect against future scams.
#threat-intimidation
#threat-intimidation
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours agoNot everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals
Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
#communication
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
21 hours agoHow "Supercommunicators" Make Conversations Work
There are three conversation types: practical, emotional, and social, with emotional intelligence playing a key role in effective communication.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who are cold through text but warm in person aren't being inconsistent - they're showing you exactly where their warmth lives, which is in the room, in the eye contact, in the unrepeatable presence of another human being, and the medium that removes all of those things removes most of what they have to give - Silicon Canals
People's communication styles reflect their emotional energy, not their intentions or feelings towards others.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who command the most respect in a room aren't the loudest or most confident - they're the ones who can disagree without making others feel stupid for having believed something different - Silicon Canals
Respectful disagreement fosters genuine influence and encourages open dialogue.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who are cold through text but warm in person aren't being inconsistent - they're showing you exactly where their warmth lives, which is in the room, in the eye contact, in the unrepeatable presence of another human being, and the medium that removes all of those things removes most of what they have to give - Silicon Canals
People's communication styles reflect their emotional energy, not their intentions or feelings towards others.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who command the most respect in a room aren't the loudest or most confident - they're the ones who can disagree without making others feel stupid for having believed something different - Silicon Canals
Respectful disagreement fosters genuine influence and encourages open dialogue.
#cybersecurity
Information security
fromThe Hacker News
3 days ago3 Reasons Attackers Are Using Your Trusted Tools Against You (And Why You Don't See It Coming)
Cyber attackers increasingly exploit legitimate tools within environments, making detection difficult and expanding the attack surface organizations must manage.
UK news
fromwww.theguardian.com
4 days agoIf my boyfriend did what my pastor did, I believe police could investigate'. The campaign to close a serious gap in UK law | Barbara Speed
Rachael Reign's allegations against the UCKG highlight issues of control and coercion within religious groups, which are not covered by current coercive control laws.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe people who say 'I'm fine with whatever you want to do' in every social situation aren't easygoing. They've simply never been in an environment where stating a preference didn't start a negotiation they couldn't afford to lose. - Silicon Canals
People who appear easygoing may actually be practicing conflict avoidance as a survival strategy learned from past experiences.
Information security
fromSecuritymagazine
3 days agoThe Rising Tide of Executive Protection: Corporations Ramp Up Security in an Era of Heightened Threats
Companies are increasingly investing in executive protection due to rising threats, making it a strategic necessity for business continuity and resilience.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who apologize constantly without realizing it are more damaged than they appear - because they internalize blame and absorb conflict, a survival response from childhood, which never switches off even when they're safe - Silicon Canals
Excessive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences of mistreatment and can lead to chronic self-blame in adulthood.
fromPsychology Today
1 week agoEmbracing the Warrior-Guardian Paradox in Modern Policing
The warrior and guardian are not competing philosophies between which a department must choose. They are complementary capacities every officer needs - and every agency must develop, sustain, and honor equally.
Social justice
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoResearch suggests people who feel more empathy for dogs than humans aren't broken - their empathy is fully intact, it's just been directed toward the only available recipient that has never weaponized it, and a person whose empathy has been weaponized enough times eventually stops handing it to anyone who could do it again - Silicon Canals
Empathy can be selective, often directed more towards animals than humans due to psychological and biological factors.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI stopped explaining myself when I apologize and the reactions taught me exactly which people in my life had been treating my explanations as retractions. To them, sorry with a reason attached meant sorry didn't really count, and sorry without one meant I was finally admitting fault on their terms. - Silicon Canals
Apologies without explanations reveal who truly listens and who seeks loopholes.
#manipulation
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI'm 44 and the most powerful thing I ever learned about dealing with manipulative people is that silence - actual, sustained, unapologetic silence - makes them unravel in ways that confrontation never does - Silicon Canals
Silence can effectively disrupt manipulative dynamics by refusing to engage in confrontational exchanges.
#emotional-abuse
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPeople who go completely silent during an argument aren't giving you the silent treatment. They learned early that anything they said while emotional would be used as evidence against them later, so silence became the only statement that couldn't be misquoted. - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict can be a strategic choice rooted in childhood experiences of emotional expression being weaponized.
#emotional-intelligence
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoBehavioral scientists found that the most emotionally intelligent people in a room are often the quietest, not because they have nothing to say but because they learned early that observation protects you in ways that speaking never did - Silicon Canals
Quiet individuals in professional settings often possess high emotional intelligence, using silence as a strategic tool for observation and understanding.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoNot everyone who goes quiet during an argument is shutting down. Some of them are running a calculation they learned in childhood where speaking while emotional guaranteed that what they said would be used against them later, and the silence is protective custody for their own words. - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict can indicate a calculated emotional response rather than passive aggression or shutdown.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPeople who go quiet when they're hurt instead of raising their voice learned somewhere very early that their anger wasn't received as information. It was received as an inconvenience. So they stopped sending the signal and started absorbing the damage, and they've been doing it so long they sometimes mistake silence for calm - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict often indicates deeper emotional pain rather than composure or passive aggression.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoBehavioral scientists found that the most emotionally intelligent people in a room are often the quietest, not because they have nothing to say but because they learned early that observation protects you in ways that speaking never did - Silicon Canals
Quiet individuals in professional settings often possess high emotional intelligence, using silence as a strategic tool for observation and understanding.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoNot everyone who goes quiet during an argument is shutting down. Some of them are running a calculation they learned in childhood where speaking while emotional guaranteed that what they said would be used against them later, and the silence is protective custody for their own words. - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict can indicate a calculated emotional response rather than passive aggression or shutdown.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPeople who go quiet when they're hurt instead of raising their voice learned somewhere very early that their anger wasn't received as information. It was received as an inconvenience. So they stopped sending the signal and started absorbing the damage, and they've been doing it so long they sometimes mistake silence for calm - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict often indicates deeper emotional pain rather than composure or passive aggression.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says if someone secretly dislikes you they'll almost never say it out loud - but their body will, in the microseconds before they've decided what their face is supposed to be doing, and learning to read those moments is one of the more uncomfortable social skills available to anyone willing to develop it - Silicon Canals
Microexpressions reveal true emotions faster than conscious control, providing insights into feelings that words may conceal.
Information security
fromSecuritymagazine
3 weeks agoDiscussing Use of Force in Security: A Challenging Discussion?
Use of force in security cannot be entirely avoided but should be deployed only as a last resort when lesser options fail, requiring comprehensive training in tactics, de-escalation, and legal authority.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPeople who go quiet when they're angry aren't giving you the silent treatment. They learned somewhere early that their anger wasn't safe to express at full volume, so they built a system where silence is the only container strong enough to hold it without consequences. - Silicon Canals
Silence can be a tool for containing emotions, especially anger, rather than a manipulation tactic.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoNot everyone who avoids conflict is afraid of confrontation. Some people finally realized that the person across from them doesn't want resolution, they want an audience, and refusing to perform is the most confrontational thing you can do. - Silicon Canals
Silence can be a deliberate choice in conflict, not a sign of weakness or fear.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoSocial psychologists say the reason people behave differently in lifts isn't awkwardness - it's that the brain processes the enclosed space and forced proximity as a social contract violation, and the silence, the phone checking, and the floor staring are all calibrated avoidance strategies designed to signal "I acknowledge you exist but I am not a threat" without using a single word - Silicon Canals
Elevator behavior reflects a complex social negotiation through nonverbal signals, indicating awareness without threat.
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