Parenting
fromFast Company
1 day agoParents: A valuable source of AI intelligence
AI-assisted parenting tools are being developed by parents who understand the real challenges of childcare.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours agoPsychology suggests people who adopt their parents' bad traits as they get older aren't becoming their parents - they're reverting to the most deeply installed operating system they have, the one that was running before they were old enough to choose a different one, and stress, age, and the slow erosion of self-monitoring are simply the conditions under which it boots back up - Silicon Canals
Behavioral patterns from childhood can resurface under stress, revealing deep-rooted psychological templates formed from early experiences.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours agoPsychology says people who drop their friends as soon as they get into a new relationship aren't choosing love over friendship - they're revealing that the friendships were always filling a need the relationship now fills, and the difference between a friend and a placeholder is something most people only discover when the relationship arrives and the friends quietly disappear - Silicon Canals
Friendships often fade when one partner enters a romantic relationship, revealing the superficial nature of some connections.
Mental health
fromIndependent
1 day agoAsking for a friend: 'My son has just been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. My husband also got tested and has ADHD. How will all this affect our relationship?'
Navigating the challenges of neurodiversity in a family can be overwhelming, especially with multiple diagnoses affecting communication and relationships.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
15 hours agoChildren who were praised for being smart rather than for working hard often become adults who avoid challenges - not from laziness but from a deep fear of being found ordinary - Silicon Canals
Praising children for being 'smart' can hinder their growth mindset and willingness to take risks.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoMost people don't realize that children who grow up without affection don't struggle with love as adults. They struggle with trusting it, because it never felt safe to depend on - Silicon Canals
Emotional unavailability stems from a lack of early affection, leading to difficulties in accepting love despite an inherent capacity for it.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology suggests people who stay calm during conflict aren't less emotional - they learned early that the person who controls the temperature of the room controls the outcome, and they stopped reacting and started choosing - Silicon Canals
Controlling emotional responses during conflict can significantly influence the outcome of the situation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 hours agoPsychology says people who reply to messages within seconds aren't just efficient - they've built their sense of safety around being reachable, because somewhere in their past, being slow to respond had consequences - Silicon Canals
Instant responses to messages often stem from a psychological need to mitigate perceived threats rather than mere efficiency.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
14 hours agoPsychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals
Adapting to others' needs in childhood can lead to feeling disconnected and lost in adulthood.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoChildren raised in the 1960s and 70s developed their resilience the same way muscle develops under resistance - not by being protected from the load but by being required to carry it, repeatedly, without assistance, until the carrying became the unremarkable default rather than the exceptional achievement - Silicon Canals
Independence and resilience were fostered in children of the '60s and '70s through unstructured play and learning from failure.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoBehavioral scientists found that the people who become less likeable with age but more respected are operating on a principle most people understand intellectually but can't execute emotionally - that respect and likeability are often inversely correlated after 60, because likeability requires you to shrink and respect requires you to hold your shape, and most people spent their first six decades shrinking and their last two deciding that holding their shape matters more than fitting into someone else's fra
Standing up for oneself can lead to decreased likability, but it is a necessary part of emotional maturity and self-respect.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 hours agoPsychology says people who let their pets sleep in their bed aren't clingy or emotionally stunted - they've found one of the only relationships in modern life that offers unconditional presence without the performance anxiety that makes human connection so exhausting - Silicon Canals
Needing comfort from pets is not a weakness; it can enhance emotional well-being and reduce anxiety.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals
Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals
Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.
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Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals
Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
17 hours agoMy Daughter Made an Honest Mistake While Babysitting Her Cousins. My Sister Is Taking It Too Far.
Beatrice should take responsibility for her actions and communicate with her aunt about the incident.
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoParenting
Psychology says the 1960s and 70s accidentally produced one of the most emotionally durable generations in modern history - not through better parenting but through benign neglect that forced children to develop internal regulation instead of waiting for adult intervention - Silicon Canals
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals
Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the 1960s and 70s accidentally produced one of the most emotionally durable generations in modern history - not through better parenting but through benign neglect that forced children to develop internal regulation instead of waiting for adult intervention - Silicon Canals
Children in the 70s thrived on unstructured play and minimal parental intervention, fostering independence and problem-solving skills.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago9 subtle behaviors that reveal someone grew up in a household where money was discussed in whispers, and why those behaviors persist long after financial security has arrived - Silicon Canals
Financial behaviors are shaped by early experiences and trauma, not just knowledge or information gaps about money.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
20 hours agoPsychology says people who grew up poor and became successful often can't fully enjoy it - not because they're ungrateful, but because some part of them never stopped waiting for it to disappear - Silicon Canals
Successful individuals often struggle with feelings of scarcity and anxiety about their financial stability, despite their achievements.
fromNature
4 days agoDopaminergic mechanisms of dynamical social specialization - Nature
Social foraging strategies illustrate the balance between competition and cooperation, where individuals either produce resources or exploit the efforts of others, navigating ecological and social constraints.
Psychology
Miscellaneous
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoKids Today: Thoughts From Research, Practice, and the Classroom
Each generation faces unique challenges; today's youth deserve recognition for their perspectives rather than dismissal, as evidenced by clinical research, therapeutic practice, and educational settings.
fromMail Online
5 days agoHaving children DOESN'T make you happy, study claims
'These results do not support our hypothesis that parenthood is positively associated with hedonic wellbeing (levels of positive emotions) and life satisfaction,' the researchers, from the University of Nicosia in Cyprus, wrote.
Parenting
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoUnderstanding Childhood Dysregulation Profile
Childhood Dysregulation Profile describes a pattern of co-occurring mood, attention, and behavioral difficulties that signals risk for later mental health challenges, with early support improving long-term outcomes.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago7 behavioral patterns people display when they were raised by a parent who loved them deeply but had no idea how to express it without criticism - Silicon Canals
Critical parents can love deeply yet struggle to express it without criticism, leading to complex emotional patterns in their children.
Education
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoTeachers can tell which children are truly loved and which are only taken care of-here are 7 signs they notice right away - Silicon Canals
Teachers can quickly detect whether children feel genuinely loved at home through subtle, consistent behavioral cues rather than material signs.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoHow Feelings Lead to Hitting
But I would like to take a different approach. I would like to suggest that we can make some headway by considering that human behaviors are caused by their feelings, and if we can put words to the feelings (verbalization), we will go a long way to stopping physical punishment.
Mental health
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPsychology says the phrase you repeat most often to your children is almost never one you chose - it's one that was installed in you by these 6 childhood experiences, and most parents don't hear it until someone else points it out - Silicon Canals
Parents unconsciously repeat phrases and parenting patterns from their own childhoods, automatically transmitting inherited communication styles to their children without awareness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoAdults who had to follow tons of rules as kids end up with these 8 surprising habits they can't shake - Silicon Canals
Growing up in highly structured, rule-heavy households shapes distinct adult habits—rigid punctuality, rebellious lateness, and other predictable and surprising patterns.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoListen to Your Mother: What Children Learn by Eavesdropping
What makes me even crazier is that I know they can listen. I know this because they do all the time, mostly when they aren't supposed to. I can't tell you how many times I've been having an adult conversation with my husband and/or friends and my two children-who haven't listened to a word I've said all day-suddenly have very thoughtful and detailed questions
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