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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours ago

The hardest thing about being the calm one in a family is that your steadiness becomes load-bearing. Everyone leans on it, nobody asks what holds it up, and the day you finally crack, people don't comfort you. They panic. Because your collapse threatens the architecture, and the architecture was always more important than you were. - Silicon Canals

The calm family member often bears the burden of emotional labor, managing others' feelings while suppressing their own.
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
15 hours ago

My teenage daughter's OCD keeps getting worse. What can I do? | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

Adolescence often triggers OCD, leading to compulsive behaviors that interfere with daily life and emotional well-being.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
5 hours ago

Coercive Control: How Predatory Parents Fracture Attachment

Coercive control weaponizes children against protective parents, causing deep psychological harm and undermining secure attachments essential for healthy development.
US news
fromwww.npr.org
11 hours ago

More teens are getting hooked on gambling. Parents say it often goes undetected

Gambling addiction among boys is rising, with 36% of U.S. boys aged 11 to 17 having gambled in the past year.
#family-dynamics
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 days ago

I Don't Let Anyone I Date Meet My Parents. That's Not a Red Flag. I Have a Very Good Reason Why.

Some individuals avoid introducing partners to difficult family members to protect them from negative experiences.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago

My Parents Already Pay for My Middle Aged Sister's Life. Then She Dared Ask for Something More.

Estranged siblings can complicate estate management, but planning can mitigate potential issues for surviving family members.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

My Father Is Finally Rid of My Hellish Mother. But I'm Very Concerned by What He's Doing Now.

The letter-writer is concerned about her father's engagement to a younger woman after a long, unhappy marriage.
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago
Parenting

My Sister Told Our Sibling a Lie About Her Wedding. The Reveal Is Going to Be Crushing.

Discriminating against a child with Tourette syndrome at a family wedding can lead to significant emotional harm and conflict.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 days ago

I Don't Let Anyone I Date Meet My Parents. That's Not a Red Flag. I Have a Very Good Reason Why.

Some individuals avoid introducing partners to difficult family members to protect them from negative experiences.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago

My Parents Already Pay for My Middle Aged Sister's Life. Then She Dared Ask for Something More.

Estranged siblings can complicate estate management, but planning can mitigate potential issues for surviving family members.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

My Father Is Finally Rid of My Hellish Mother. But I'm Very Concerned by What He's Doing Now.

The letter-writer is concerned about her father's engagement to a younger woman after a long, unhappy marriage.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago

My Sister Told Our Sibling a Lie About Her Wedding. The Reveal Is Going to Be Crushing.

Discriminating against a child with Tourette syndrome at a family wedding can lead to significant emotional harm and conflict.
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Why Is Eradicating Adverse Childhood Experiences Critical?

Nearly 90 percent of suicide attempts among high school students are attributable to ACEs, as are 80 percent of adult suicides, translating to 109 suicides per day.
Public health
Mindfulness
fromBuzzFeed
2 days ago

21 Less Obvious Young Person Habits That Can Silently Harm People Later In Life

Constant availability to others is psychologically damaging and undermines personal boundaries.
#addiction-treatment
SOMA, SF
fromThe Nation
4 days ago

The Hidden Crisis of Addiction Treatment

The story of Donovan Doyle highlights systemic failures in addiction treatment leading to preventable deaths.
SOMA, SF
fromThe Nation
4 days ago

The Hidden Crisis of Addiction Treatment

The story of Donovan Doyle highlights systemic failures in addiction treatment leading to preventable deaths.
Medicine
fromTruthout
4 days ago

Our Prison-Like Clinic System Is Thwarting Effective Opioid Addiction Treatment

Methadone is essential for opioid addiction treatment, yet its distribution is heavily regulated by law enforcement, complicating access for those in need.
Wellness
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

When "I'm Trying to Be Good" Isn't So Innocent

Diet talk reinforces harmful beliefs about body image, health, and worth, impacting body dissatisfaction and promoting negative comparisons.
NYC parents
fromwww.businessinsider.com
5 days ago

I started raising my grandson just a few months into my retirement. My wife and I want to give him a good life, but it's financially draining.

Martin Odum and his wife are raising their grandson Noah, who has spina bifida, after previously raising their granddaughter.
#parenting
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

When Your Adult Child Says 'I Hate You' and Then Wants Money

Emotional outbursts from adult children often stem from overload, and parents should change their responses to reset dynamics.
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago
Parenting

My Wife's Sister Dropped Her 1-Year-Old Twins With Us Due to a Family Emergency. When She Texted Us an Update, I Was Floored.

Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

My Daughter Made an Honest Mistake While Babysitting Her Cousins. My Sister Is Taking It Too Far.

Beatrice should take responsibility for her actions and communicate with her aunt about the incident.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals

Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and I recently told my son that I was proud of him for the first time in his adult life, and the look on his face told me everything about the cost of assuming that providing for someone communicates the same thing as telling them they matter - Silicon Canals

Verbal expressions of pride are crucial for emotional connection between parents and children.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

7 Words Adult Children Say Before Cutting Off Parents

Disconnection often begins quietly, with feelings of not being understood leading to significant relationship breakdowns.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

When Your Adult Child Says 'I Hate You' and Then Wants Money

Emotional outbursts from adult children often stem from overload, and parents should change their responses to reset dynamics.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

My Wife's Sister Dropped Her 1-Year-Old Twins With Us Due to a Family Emergency. When She Texted Us an Update, I Was Floored.

Renata's manipulative behavior has destroyed trust, justifying a refusal to provide future childcare.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

My Daughter Made an Honest Mistake While Babysitting Her Cousins. My Sister Is Taking It Too Far.

Beatrice should take responsibility for her actions and communicate with her aunt about the incident.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals

Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and I recently told my son that I was proud of him for the first time in his adult life, and the look on his face told me everything about the cost of assuming that providing for someone communicates the same thing as telling them they matter - Silicon Canals

Verbal expressions of pride are crucial for emotional connection between parents and children.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

7 Words Adult Children Say Before Cutting Off Parents

Disconnection often begins quietly, with feelings of not being understood leading to significant relationship breakdowns.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours ago

Psychology says the most emotionally strong people aren't the ones who never fall apart - they're the ones who fall apart privately, reassemble without fanfare, and never use their recovery as a reason for anyone else to feel guilty - Silicon Canals

Emotional strength involves acknowledging feelings and recovering privately, not denying vulnerability or pretending to be unbreakable.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Start Strong But Never Finish? 4 Causes and 4 Solutions

Starting strong and quitting is common due to tedium, poor planning, and discouragement; recognizing patterns and seeking support can help overcome this.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 days ago

I Told My Friend Some Private Things About My Wife. Now I'm in Big Trouble.

Maintaining long-term friendships can be challenging when past grievances affect perceptions in a marriage.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Not everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals

Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Why Sobriety Feels Flat (and How to Bring Back the Spark)

Drinking behavior is driven by habit loops, and removing alcohol without replacing rituals can hinder sobriety efforts.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

When the Body Heals: Recovery From Relational Stress

Emotional stressors can lead to chronic stress, affecting immunity and increasing autoimmune disease risk, but healing can occur after relational stress ends.
Mental health
fromIndependent
1 day ago

Asking for a friend: 'My son has just been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. My husband also got tested and has ADHD. How will all this affect our relationship?'

Navigating the challenges of neurodiversity in a family can be overwhelming, especially with multiple diagnoses affecting communication and relationships.
#adhd
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

How to Stop Taking Things Personally When You Have ADHD

ADHD can intensify the tendency to take things personally due to emotional processing and past experiences.
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago
Mental health

Why Making Friends as an Adult With ADHD Can Feel So Hard

Adults with ADHD often find forming genuine friendships challenging due to neurological factors affecting attention and emotional intensity.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

How to Stop Taking Things Personally When You Have ADHD

ADHD can intensify the tendency to take things personally due to emotional processing and past experiences.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Why Making Friends as an Adult With ADHD Can Feel So Hard

Adults with ADHD often find forming genuine friendships challenging due to neurological factors affecting attention and emotional intensity.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

This Theory Explains Why Neurodivergents Are Burning Out

Neurodivergent individuals experience higher burnout rates, necessitating accommodations to balance job demands and resources.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

How to Cultivate Adult Friendships

Negative beliefs about rejection hinder relationship building, while consistent interactions and practicing social skills foster connections and reduce anxiety.
Medicine
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

My Schizophrenia Recovery Today

Schizophrenia recovery is possible through persistent treatment; the author achieved full symptom remission after initial total disability diagnosis using clozapine therapy.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

Why Behavior Change Alone Won't Fix Your Relationship

Behavioral therapy changes observable actions, while emotionally focused therapy emphasizes emotional engagement for lasting relational change.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

I Tried to Quit Drinking for Good, This Is What I Got Wrong

Quitting alcohol requires many small decisions at choice points rather than one single decision, where you choose between moving toward your values or away from discomfort.
#relationships
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Not everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals

People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.
Relationships
fromIndependent
6 days ago

Ask Allison: My husband won't talk about our IVF heartbreak and he drinks - and drives, most nights

Rapid engagement and marriage can lead to misunderstandings in relationships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Not everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals

People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.
Relationships
fromIndependent
6 days ago

Ask Allison: My husband won't talk about our IVF heartbreak and he drinks - and drives, most nights

Rapid engagement and marriage can lead to misunderstandings in relationships.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

3 Signs You're Carrying Someone Else's Anxiety

Empathy can lead to emotional overload for highly empathic individuals, causing them to absorb and internalize others' emotions.
#addiction
Mental health
fromwww.bbc.com
6 days ago

'I nearly broke trying to help my partner with addiction issues'

Addiction impacts both the individual and their loved ones, requiring personal growth and boundaries for recovery.
Mental health
fromwww.bbc.com
6 days ago

'I nearly broke trying to help my partner with addiction issues'

Addiction impacts both the individual and their loved ones, requiring personal growth and boundaries for recovery.
Cocktails
fromFast Company
1 month ago

In recovery? Here's how to handle social drinking situations in the workplace

Professionals in recovery from alcohol addiction can maintain sobriety in workplace drinking cultures by setting boundaries, avoiding overexplanation, and recognizing that colleagues care less about abstinence than feared.
Social justice
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

What if Addiction Isn't the Problem?

Addiction's lack of clear definition undermines regulatory efforts against corporations; reframing addiction as a common human state rather than inherently harmful could better address actual harms and protect children from exploitative design.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm 66 and my wife Donna pointed out that I fix things around the house the morning after every argument. Not because I'm avoiding the conversation. Because in my family, repair was always physical. You didn't say sorry. You replaced the broken shelf. You re-grouted the tiles. You showed up with actions because words were a foreign language nobody in the house had learned to speak. - Silicon Canals

Apologies can be structural actions rather than just verbal expressions, especially for men raised in environments where emotions were not openly discussed.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The most painful thing about watching a parent age isn't the physical decline. It's the moment you catch them deferring to you on a decision they would have made without hesitation ten years ago, and you both feel the transfer of authority that neither of you agreed to. - Silicon Canals

The real challenge of aging parents lies in the subtle shifts of authority and uncertainty in their decision-making.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

People who always offer to help but never ask for it aren't generous in the way you think. They've built an entire identity around being needed because somewhere early they learned that usefulness was the only reliable protection against being left. - Silicon Canals

Compulsive helpers often act out of fear rather than generosity, stemming from childhood experiences that condition them to seek safety through being needed.
Miscellaneous
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

When the Family Helper Needs Help

Family helpers or overfunctioners take on excess responsibility at the expense of their own well-being, often leading to burnout, frustration, and isolation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

People who always laugh at their own pain aren't just funny. They survived childhoods where being sad meant being a burden, and that had nothing to do with resilience, and their humor is a dissociation technique that everyone mistakes for strength - Silicon Canals

Some individuals cope with pain by making jokes immediately, masking deeper emotional struggles rooted in childhood environments that discourage expressing feelings.
#mental-health
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago
Mental health

Recovering From Family Dysfunction for the Brave

Responding to family dysfunction with compassion, self-compassion, and forgiveness preserves mental health better than cancelling relatives or dwelling on past hurts.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

Clinging to Safety: The Hidden Logic of Eating Disorders

Disordered eating can provide temporary safety from stress, but recovery requires gradual steps and compassionate support.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Parental Burnout Is a Social Problem, Not a Personal Failure

Parental burnout has reached unprecedented levels, with over 40% of parents feeling exhausted and overwhelmed daily.
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

People With Bipolar and BPD Struggle in Mental Healthcare

There is a unique kind of pain in losing your mind, not just once, but over and over. Losing your perception of reality, of your emotions, of your closest relationships-both across months and multiple times a day. Knowing deep down that something is wrong but being unable to stop it.
Mental health
Mental health
fromLos Angeles Times
4 days ago

Autistic people are more likely to experience suicidal crisis. 988 is changing to serve them better

The 988 Lifeline is a crucial resource for suicide prevention, but autistic individuals face unique challenges when using it.
Parenting
fromLGBTQ Nation
6 days ago

Adoption is a beautiful way to build a family. But it's not one-size-fits-all. - LGBTQ Nation

Adoption has various paths, each with unique processes, costs, and timelines, requiring thorough understanding before proceeding.
#estrangement
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

What Estranged Parents Wish Others Understood

Estrangement from adult children creates a unique, unresolved grief for parents, marked by ambiguity and a lack of social recognition.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

What Estranged Parents Wish Others Understood

Estrangement from adult children creates a unique, unresolved grief for parents, marked by ambiguity and a lack of social recognition.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

Mother, Clinician, Witness: Healing Communities

Violence against children impacts the entire community, necessitating protective programs and trauma-informed care for meaningful change.
Parenting
fromBuzzFeed
6 days ago

Women Are Getting Very, Very Honest About How Their Partner Changed After They Became A Mom

Postpartum experiences reveal varying partner behaviors, ranging from supportive to abusive.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Caring for the Part of You That Wants to Die

Suicide ideation affects 15.6% of U.S. adults, with significant risk factors including mental disorders, trauma, and social circumstances.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

The Day I Realized My Son Wasn't Defiant, He Was Ashamed

Understanding a child's emotional state is crucial; shame can manifest as feelings of worthlessness, impacting behavior and communication.
#sobriety
Mental health
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago

Endless Free Time Can Lead to Dire Consequences for Me. I Now Have a Lot of It.

Structuring free time is crucial for maintaining sobriety and avoiding negative habits.
Mental health
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago

Endless Free Time Can Lead to Dire Consequences for Me. I Now Have a Lot of It.

Structuring free time is crucial for maintaining sobriety and avoiding negative habits.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

What Parents Need to Know About Mental Health Crisis Care

Calling 911 for mental health crises can be fatal, especially for Black and disabled children, highlighting the need for alternative solutions.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

When Your Adult Child Is Stuck, and Helping Isn't Helping

Parents of struggling adult children experience confusion and frustration from ineffective parenting approaches, while quiet shame intensifies when comparing their situation to others' apparent success.
Public health
fromwww.bbc.com
2 months ago

Safe spaces needed for drug-addicted children, say grieving mums

State provision for under-18 residential drug treatment is inadequate, leaving many adolescents without timely, effective care.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

What Does It Mean to Own Your Addiction?

True addiction recovery requires understanding the story behind addictive behaviors rather than simply erasing or disowning them as unwanted parts of oneself.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks ago

The real reason some families go silent for years and then reunite as if nothing happened has nothing to do with forgiveness - therapists say it's one of these 4 patterns and only one of them is actually healthy - Silicon Canals

Family reunions after prolonged silence typically follow four distinct patterns, with only one fostering healthy relationships; most involve avoiding rather than resolving underlying conflicts.
Public health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Why Do Academics Often Dismiss 12-Step Recovery?

Twelve-step programs serve millions worldwide, offering extensive recovery support and effectiveness despite widespread criticism from some social scientists.
Mental health
fromApartment Therapy
3 weeks ago

How I Found My Way to a New "Me" After Leaving an Abusive Marriage

A domestic violence survivor navigates complex grief after her abuser's suicide, rebuilding her life through therapy and family support while learning to separate trauma from cherished memories.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Sexual Abuse in Families: Be Brave and Address the Harm

Sexual abuse is never the victim's fault; parents can and must address intrafamilial sexual abuse to break cycles of generational trauma and prevent further harm.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Son Is Accusing Me of Sleeping With the Mom Next Door. He's Determined to Do Something About It.

Most recently he has decided that I am having an affair with Clara, the (happily married heterosexual) woman next door. While Clara and I are good friends and I enjoy her company, there is nothing romantic between us. He is furious with me and has all but cut off his friendships with the kids next door, refusing to step foot inside their home even though our families used to eat together once or twice a week.
Parenting
Mental health
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Quit Drinking Years Ago, All Thanks to One Approach. I'm Afraid of What People Will Think.

AA can produce profound positive change while sharing superficial features with cults; emphasize voluntary, therapeutic, and noncoercive aspects when explaining benefits.
#alcoholism
Mental health
fromBusiness Insider
2 months ago

I began drinking at 14 and continued for 55 years. I'm sober at 70.

Alcohol began as an escape from family problems and escalated into risky behaviors, blackouts, a car crash, and professional treatment.
fromPopsugar
2 months ago

Alcohol Used to Mask My Social Anxiety - Here's What I'm Learning Without It

One of the biggest surprises of not drinking was realizing how much social anxiety I have. And I'm a pretty social person. Back in 2022, after COVID pushed me into remote work, I noticed something: my only social life outside work usually involved drinks at a bar. Unlike school or office life, home meant being clear-headed; out meant being drunk.
Mental health
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Addiction: Hope, IFS, and Common Treatment Miscalculations

Addictive behaviors function as survival tactics by protective subpersonalities that soothe underlying emotional pain; generalist therapists can use IFS to engage.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Family Therapy: Overcome Core Family Challenges

Family therapy involving significant family members improves communication, rebuilds trust, and effectively supports youth and families facing mental health crises and life transitions.
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