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fromIndependent
2 weeks agoCiaran Cannon on his daughter who was stillborn: 'She would be 23 now. I often wonder what she would look like? And how would her presence have changed the rest of us?'
Ciarán Cannon reflects on his political career and embraces his passion for music amidst a toxic public life.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI asked 11 hospice nurses what dying people talk about in their final weeks and not one mentioned career achievements. Every single answer pointed to the same category of regret, and it had nothing to do with what they did or didn't accomplish. - Silicon Canals
Dying patients consistently regret unrepaired relationships and missed connections rather than professional achievements, revealing a fundamental misalignment between what modern life optimizes for and what ultimately matters.
Arts
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 weeks agoAlmost human': life-size replicas of the dead help mend broken hearts in India
A Kolkata workshop creates lifesize replicas of deceased loved ones using clay, fiberglass, and silicon, helping families process grief by keeping realistic figures of the dead in their homes.
fromIrish Independent
2 weeks agoMother who lost family in Buncrana pier tragedy ten years ago thanks community as hundreds attend memorial walk
"I need to honour them in the best way and in every way that I can. Everybody is here supporting Rioghnach-Ann too and she knows her brothers are living on in a really good way in their memory."
Fundraising
#pet-grief
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPets
Psychology says people who grieve a pet more intensely than they've grieved some relatives aren't being dramatic - the bond activates these 6 attachment pathways that human relationships often can't access, and the grief is unfiltered because the love was - Silicon Canals
Pets
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology says people who grieve a pet more intensely than they've grieved some relatives aren't being dramatic - the bond activates these 6 attachment pathways that human relationships often can't access, and the grief is unfiltered because the love was - Silicon Canals
Pet grief is psychologically valid because animals provide uncomplicated love and constant presence that human relationships often cannot match.
Public health
fromwww.theguardian.com
4 weeks agoA death scholar on why we need to stop being naive about dying: I always hear, Can't you just put me into a nice meadow?'
Australia will experience peak death around 2040 as baby boomers age, doubling annual death rates and straining healthcare systems, while end-of-life control and autonomy become increasingly valued among those with resources.
fromIndependent
3 weeks agoOn death and dying: 'You could tell that Mammy's soul had left her body because she didn't look the same. It shocked me'
When Dympna Little lost her beloved mother Lily Little to ovarian cancer in December 2024, it was her online community - she posts comedy videos as @dimplestilskin on Instagram and TikTok - who provided unexpected support and understanding of the experience of grief.
Social media marketing
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoI'm 44 and I haven't cried since my father's funeral three years ago - not because I've healed but because somewhere between the eulogy and the drive home my body decided that was the last time and I've been waiting ever since for the next wave to come and it just won't and the numbness is worse than the grief ever was - Silicon Canals
Dr. Bessel van der Kolk writes in 'The Body Keeps the Score' that trauma doesn't just live in our minds - it reshapes how our bodies respond to emotion. Sometimes, when we experience significant loss, our nervous system essentially decides that feeling is too dangerous and shuts down the whole operation.
Mental health
Miscellaneous
fromdesignboom | architecture & design magazine
4 weeks agoregula tschumi on funerary culture as a living visual language in southern ghana
Ga-Adangme figurative coffins function as embedded cultural expressions reflecting belief systems, lineage, social hierarchy, and family identity through ritual objects and commemorative practices.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychologists explain that the grief of not having children doesn't follow the stages people expect because there is no single loss to process. It's a recurring absence that resurfaces at every milestone, every holiday, every quiet evening, and the pain isn't that it keeps happening once but that it keeps happening in new forms for the rest of your life. - Silicon Canals
Grief from childlessness is a unique, ongoing loss without a single event or clear moment of acceptance, manifesting through countless ordinary moments that unexpectedly trigger profound emotional weight.
Parenting
fromBusiness Insider
1 month agoI was the primary caregiver for my mother until she died. The responsibilities didn't end with her death.
Caregiving extends beyond a person's lifetime through managing their memory, finances, and legacy with the same dignity and respect shown during their life.
fromVulture
1 month agoHarry Styles Really Likes 'Cremation Songs'
I really like cremation songs. As the belt started, it just went 'the long and winding road,' and it made me laugh. It feels so inappropriate because of how abrupt it was. And then I just started thinking about inappropriate cremation songs.
Music
fromDeconstructing Yourself
1 month agoStay with the Grief
Today I saw images of students leaving their school with their hands raised in the air, hours after cowering in fear and terror in barricaded classrooms. Nine dead and twenty-seven wounded in the tiny Rocky Mountain town of Tumbler Ridge. The mayor, Darryl Krakowka, said, "I have lived here for 18 years. I probably know every one of the victims." And this in Canada, which often seems to us Americans like a bastion of sanity and normalcy in comparison with our madness.
Mindfulness
fromPinkNews | Latest lesbian, gay, bi and trans news | LGBTQ+ news
2 months agoValentino's partner shares their final words in touching funeral moment
I did not really plan to speak today. "I was not convinced I'd be able to. And I'm still not quite sure I can get through this, so please bear with me." Valentino, you were the person I spoke to, not the person I spoke about. You were beside me when words were not needed. Life was not always perfect, but it was real. One day at a time, for more than 40 years, all strung together, became extraordinary because we were living them together. This is what I'll miss about you most. I know how many people loved you, and I'm grateful for that, but what we shared was ours alone, and I will hold that carefully for the rest of my life. I don't say goodbye today, I say thank you. For choosing me, for walking with me, and for leaving me changed forever. Thank you.
Fashion & style
fromNew York Daily News
2 months agoBrooklyn man killed by hit-and-run driver was grieving recent death of wife
Nearly every day since Elvin Sanchez's wife died a couple of months ago after a long battle with diabetes, he could be found at the home of the elderly couple in the apartment next door, grabbing a meal and talking about the love of his life. Even on the day he died - when Sanchez was fatally struck crossing Linden Blvd. in East New York less than an hour into the near year - his neighbors had dinner on the table later that day
New York City
fromIrish Independent
2 months ago'Watching Grace take her last breath was worst pain imaginable' - vigil held for scrambler victim as man due in court
On Monday evening, Grace's mother Siobhán held a sign with a picture of her daughter with the words "justice for Grace" written on it as she led the walk from Valley Park estate to Plunkett Green. "Justice for Grace, justice for my daughter," Ms Lynch said as she walked the route. "Justice for Grace, get the scramblers off the streets."
Miscellaneous
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoWhy the Grief Ripples So Deeply When an Advocate Dies
'They're dead.' In disbelief, my response was unfiltered. 'What?' Followed by the F word. A wave of emotion rushed through me. My chest tightened. My body went cold. I could not immediately find the words to offer condolences, not because I did not feel them deeply, but because inside, my many parts were experiencing a collective shock. When you live with dissociative identity disorder (DID), news like this does not land in one place. It ricochets across all parts within.
Mental health
fromSlate Magazine
2 months agoOvercoming Grief Through Ritual
When we think of rituals, we tend to think of face masks and wellness trends. But there are actually ways to use rituals to help heal grief and deal with stressful times. On this episode, Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are joined by ritual expert Betty Ray to talk about creative ways to help children process grief and big emotions, how to use ritual to create safety and expression, and much more.
Mental health
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