#roommate-matchmaking

#roommate-matchmaking

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The cost rose a lot following the pandemic. And some of that was supply chain issues that really increased the costs, and then they didn't quite come back down. And now tariffs are also impacting some products. These costs are part of the reason the amount of new rental housing stock is shrinking.

Existential isolation is the recognition that no matter how close you get to another human being, there remains a gap between your inner experience and theirs that can never be fully bridged. Psychologist Irvin Yalom wrote about it extensively - this sense that we each enter the world alone and leave it alone, and that even in our most intimate moments, we are fundamentally separate.

By that point in our relationship, Al and I recognized that we live completely opposite lifestyles at home. I like creature comforts and wanted my dream lakeside home in Portugal. Al was interested in becoming even more self-sufficient, living off-grid if possible. Al already owned about an acre of land in Portugal. He put a yurt on the land, and now lives there without running water and with only limited solar power.

When we were married, this was an enormous problem. We never went out with other couples or had dinner parties together because he was never available after 5 or 6 p.m. I went everywhere by myself: theatre, films, museums, opera. Even our vacations did not align, so I traveled alone. It is ironic that one of the things that ruined our marriage - opposite schedules, which meant we rarely saw each other - was the exact reason we could happily cohabitate for two-plus decades.

I have everything I once believed would make life feel whole: a loving family, dependable friends, financial stability, my own apartment, and a car that starts every morning. My closets hold more clothes and shoes than I need. The fridge is full. These are countless people can only dream of. And yet, I am lonely. Nationwide, that loneliness is not unusual. A from 2022 showed nearly 40% of adults experience moderate to severe loneliness. Proof that material comfort doesn't guarantee emotional connection.

A few decades ago I was briefly, unwisely, involved with a young woman, 14 years my junior, whom I met in an online "chat room," way back when those were a thing. A yearlong bicoastal romance ensued, with a few visits back and forth. She was 27 and I was 42. It ended after a year when I neither phoned nor sent flowers on Valentine's Day.

They text daily, sleep together, cook on Sundays, and know each other's friends. When she asks what they are building, he says he dislikes labels and is not ready for anything more. She stays anyway. She feels anxious, loyal, confused, and quietly ashamed for wanting a relationship. When it ends, there is no breakup, only silence where daily connection used to be. Grief and self-doubt consume her, but she feels ashamed because they were never "official."

I met an incredible woman on a random outing to London while I was living life in slow motion, alone in a quiet English seaside town. I fell in love in a way that surprised me, both in its speed and its certainty. I knew it was her. The relationship unfolded across train rides, weekends, and the growing realization that what I thought was a temporary chapter in my life was quietly becoming its center.