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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
49 minutes agoNobody teaches children how to know their own worth - we teach them to perform, to achieve, and to behave, and then wonder why so many adults reach fifty still measuring themselves against someone else's ruler - Silicon Canals
Self-worth is inherent and not based on achievements or external validation.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoMost people don't realize that children who grow up without affection don't struggle with love as adults. They struggle with trusting it, because it never felt safe to depend on - Silicon Canals
Emotional unavailability stems from a lack of early affection, leading to difficulties in accepting love despite an inherent capacity for it.
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 days agoBeloved children's singer melts hearts with message for trans kids: "You are a beautiful light" - LGBTQ Nation
I see you, and it makes me so happy to see you. There is such a disconnect between what we say America is about and what it is right now. True freedom is the freedom to be who we are, and it hurts my heart so much that in some parts of this country, it is unsafe for trans people to do that right now.
SF LGBT
#emotional-health
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals
Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoTough it out' was the only emotional instruction a whole generation of men ever received - and now they're sitting in retirement wondering why their body aches and nobody calls - Silicon Canals
Retirement brings a realization of emotional neglect and the need for deeper connections among men.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI grew up in the 1970s and the closest thing I had to therapy was my uncle telling me to 'walk it off' after I broke my collarbone - and that phrase became my entire emotional philosophy for the next fifty years - Silicon Canals
Some emotional wounds cannot be healed by simply ignoring them; they require acknowledgment and processing.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoNot everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals
Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoNot everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals
People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who grew up poor and became successful often can't fully enjoy it - not because they're ungrateful, but because some part of them never stopped waiting for it to disappear - Silicon Canals
Successful individuals often struggle with feelings of scarcity and anxiety about their financial stability, despite their achievements.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoChildren raised in the 1960s and 70s developed their resilience the same way muscle develops under resistance - not by being protected from the load but by being required to carry it, repeatedly, without assistance, until the carrying became the unremarkable default rather than the exceptional achievement - Silicon Canals
Independence and resilience were fostered in children of the '60s and '70s through unstructured play and learning from failure.
Privacy professionals
fromwww.bbc.com
2 weeks agoChild seen in sex abuse videos identified after researcher spots school badge
Internet Watch Foundation researchers identified a child sexual abuse victim after years of searching by recognizing her school uniform in images, enabling police to locate and help her.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoYou can tell someone had a tough childhood if they apologize for taking up space - not in the dramatic way, but in the small daily way, the sorry before the question, the thank you after the ordinary kindness, the slight surprise every time someone is simply decent to them, as though decency was never something they learned to expect - Silicon Canals
Some individuals habitually apologize, reflecting deeper issues of self-worth and the learned behavior of minimizing their presence in social situations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who apologize constantly without realizing it are more damaged than they appear - because they internalize blame and absorb conflict, a survival response from childhood, which never switches off even when they're safe - Silicon Canals
Excessive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences of mistreatment and can lead to chronic self-blame in adulthood.
#empathy
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day agoHow to Help Someone Have an Empathy Makeover
Empathy can be developed through structured reflection and practice, enhancing mental health and relationship dynamics.
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology
Research suggests people who feel more empathy for dogs than humans aren't broken - their empathy is fully intact, it's just been directed toward the only available recipient that has never weaponized it, and a person whose empathy has been weaponized enough times eventually stops handing it to anyone who could do it again - Silicon Canals
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoResearch suggests people who feel more empathy for dogs than humans aren't broken - their empathy is fully intact, it's just been directed toward the only available recipient that has never weaponized it, and a person whose empathy has been weaponized enough times eventually stops handing it to anyone who could do it again - Silicon Canals
Empathy can be selective, often directed more towards animals than humans due to psychological and biological factors.
fromPsychology Today
3 days agoPeople With Bipolar and BPD Struggle in Mental Healthcare
There is a unique kind of pain in losing your mind, not just once, but over and over. Losing your perception of reality, of your emotions, of your closest relationships-both across months and multiple times a day. Knowing deep down that something is wrong but being unable to stop it.
Mental health
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals
Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPeople who always laugh at their own pain aren't just funny. They survived childhoods where being sad meant being a burden, and that had nothing to do with resilience, and their humor is a dissociation technique that everyone mistakes for strength - Silicon Canals
Some individuals cope with pain by making jokes immediately, masking deeper emotional struggles rooted in childhood environments that discourage expressing feelings.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoChildren who were called 'the responsible one' often became adults who can't rest without guilt - not because they love productivity but because somewhere a five-year-old version of them still believes that if they stop holding everything together it will all fall apart - Silicon Canals
Freedom from responsibility can feel terrifying after a lifetime of being the responsible one.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPeople who turned out genuinely kind despite a tough childhood didn't learn kindness - they absorbed its absence so completely that its presence became the one thing they couldn't withhold from anyone who needed it, not as a decision, but as the only response available to a person formed the way they were formed - Silicon Canals
Kindness often stems from experiencing adversity, leading to deep empathy rather than being solely a product of a nurturing environment.
fromInside Higher Ed | Higher Education News, Events and Jobs
3 weeks agoYouth Suicide Rates Decline, Risks Remain
The number of suicides per 100,000 young people ages 10 to 24 declined by nearly 12 percent, from 11 to 9.7, between 2021 and 2024. The decrease was driven largely by reductions among young men, whose suicide levels fell by nearly 15 percent, while suicides among young women declined by about 2 percent.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoLanguage Matters When Talking About Child Sexual Abuse
Words such as 'relationship,' 'affair,' 'involvement,' or 'seeing each other' imply mutuality and consent. In the context of child sexual abuse, these implications are false. A child cannot legally or developmentally consent to sexual activity with an adult. Describing abuse using relational language risks distorting the inherent power imbalance and shifting perceived responsibility away from the adult perpetrator.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoThe Powerful Impact of Peer Victimization on Teen Depression
Being a target of negative experiences by one's peers has consistently been related to decreased self-worth, poor engagement in school, and worse grades among children and adolescents. One of the most consistent of these consequences is depressive symptoms. Put simply, kids' mental health is strongly impacted by being picked on by their classmates at school. Our recently published study examined data from over 100,000 Brazilian adolescents to disentangle how pernicious the effect of being victimized was on reports of symptoms of depression.
Mental health
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