Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day agoI Once Thought Parents Were to Blame for What My Family Is Going Through. Now I Realize How Wrong I Was.
Focusing on one small change at a time can help manage chaos in a busy household.
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Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoResearch suggests the 1960s and 70s produced adults who could self-soothe, entertain themselves, and tolerate boredom - not because their parents were wise but because their parents were simply elsewhere - Silicon Canals
Modern parenting emphasizes structured activities, contrasting sharply with past generations' unstructured play, which may have fostered resilience and independence in children.
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoParenting
Psychology says the 1960s and 70s accidentally produced one of the most emotionally durable generations in modern history - not through better parenting but through benign neglect that forced children to develop internal regulation instead of waiting for adult intervention - Silicon Canals
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoResearch suggests the 1960s and 70s produced adults who could self-soothe, entertain themselves, and tolerate boredom - not because their parents were wise but because their parents were simply elsewhere - Silicon Canals
Modern parenting emphasizes structured activities, contrasting sharply with past generations' unstructured play, which may have fostered resilience and independence in children.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says the 1960s and 70s accidentally produced one of the most emotionally durable generations in modern history - not through better parenting but through benign neglect that forced children to develop internal regulation instead of waiting for adult intervention - Silicon Canals
Children in the 70s thrived on unstructured play and minimal parental intervention, fostering independence and problem-solving skills.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 hour agoThe emptiness many people feel after 70 isn't the absence of purpose - it's the absence of an audience, and those are completely different problems with completely different solutions - Silicon Canals
Retirement often leads to a loss of audience, not purpose, causing feelings of uselessness among retirees.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
22 hours agoPsychology says boomers who learned to 'just get on with it' aren't emotionally stunted - they built a coping architecture that millennials are now paying therapists to reconstruct - Silicon Canals
UK spending on private therapy has risen over 40% in a decade, with millennials as the largest demographic seeking treatment for emotional issues.
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours agoThe thing boomers know now that younger generations are still learning the hard way - that the people who make you feel small usually need the room you're taking up - Silicon Canals
The people who need you to shrink are dealing with their own stuff. After decades of running my own electrical contracting business, I've worked in hundreds of homes. Rich people, poor people, and everyone in between. You know what I noticed? The people who treated me like I was beneath them were always the ones fighting their own battles.
Careers
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours agoThe children who grew up in the 60s and 70s didn't become the toughest generation because their childhoods were harder - they became the toughest generation because their childhoods were honest, and honest is different from hard because hard can be survived passively but honest requires you to look at what is actually in front of you and deal with it as it is - Silicon Canals
Childhood experiences of honesty and reality foster resilience and strength, contrasting with modern tendencies to shield children from uncomfortable truths.
Higher education
fromFortune
22 hours agoGen Z is rewriting the American Dream, and their parents are funding it-using tuition money for down payments, instead | Fortune
Parents are prioritizing homeownership over college tuition for their children due to rising costs and uncertain returns on education.
fromLGBTQ Nation
8 months agoGOP senator who said trans people put girls at "risk" just helped a relative who raped a 13-year-old - LGBTQ Nation
The new law allows accused rapists 18 years old and younger to receive a reduced third-degree felony charge of unlawful sexual activity if they're enrolled in high school, avoiding jail time and sex offender registration.
SF parents
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoThe generation that prided itself on never needing anyone raised a generation that goes to therapy twice a week - and the distance between those two facts is where most family pain actually lives - Silicon Canals
Generational differences in mental health attitudes create family tension between parents who valued silence and independence versus adult children who openly discuss mental health and seek therapy.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours agoNobody talks about why Gen Z's refusal to overwork triggers boomers so deeply - it's not laziness they're seeing, it's a generation making a choice they never felt they had - Silicon Canals
Generational differences in work ethic stem from contrasting views on the meaning and value of work.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoThe generation that prided itself on never needing anyone raised a generation that goes to therapy twice a week - and the distance between those two facts is where most family pain actually lives - Silicon Canals
Generational differences in mental health attitudes create family tension between parents who valued silence and independence versus adult children who openly discuss mental health and seek therapy.
Social justice
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 week agoIs calling a woman auntie' ageist harassment or a mark of respect? It's a trickier question than you think | Lola Okolosie
Respecting how individuals wish to be addressed is essential, as demonstrated by the tribunal ruling in favor of Ilda Esteves against Charles Oppong.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
20 hours agoMost families have one person everyone loves but nobody genuinely listens to - and psychology says that person almost always knows exactly who they are, has known for decades, and long ago stopped hoping anyone else would figure it out - Silicon Canals
Family dynamics often lead to certain voices being unheard, creating an invisible hierarchy that affects communication and connection.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
20 hours agoMost families have one person everyone loves but nobody genuinely listens to - and psychology says that person almost always knows exactly who they are, has known for decades, and long ago stopped hoping anyone else would figure it out - Silicon Canals
Family dynamics often lead to certain voices being unheard, creating an invisible hierarchy that affects communication and connection.
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Parenting
fromFortune
6 days agoTwo-thirds of parents say their adult Gen Z kids still rely on them financially for support-even though it's putting them under strain | Fortune
Many Gen Zers rely on parental financial support, causing strain on both generations' finances amid a challenging job market and high living costs.
Parenting
fromFortune
6 days agoTwo-thirds of parents say their adult Gen Z kids still rely on them financially for support-even though it's putting them under strain | Fortune
Many Gen Zers rely on parental financial support, causing strain on both generations' finances amid a challenging job market and high living costs.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoTough it out' was the only emotional instruction a whole generation of men ever received - and now they're sitting in retirement wondering why their body aches and nobody calls - Silicon Canals
Retirement brings a realization of emotional neglect and the need for deeper connections among men.
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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoThere's a specific kind of guilt that belongs to people who left difficult families and built better lives. It's not survivor's guilt exactly. It's the knowledge that your peace required a distance that someone who raised you experiences as abandonment, and there is no version of the story where everyone is okay. - Silicon Canals
Family estrangement often leads to complex guilt that doesn't fit traditional narratives of victimhood or ingratitude.
fromwww.mercurynews.com
1 month agoRelationships
Dear Abby: I said I was sorry about my text, but they still won't let me see my grandchild
A grandmother was excluded from seeing her grandchildren after sending an angry text; apologies didn't restore access, and reconciliation may require accepting limited control.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoThere's a specific kind of guilt that belongs to people who left difficult families and built better lives. It's not survivor's guilt exactly. It's the knowledge that your peace required a distance that someone who raised you experiences as abandonment, and there is no version of the story where everyone is okay. - Silicon Canals
Family estrangement often leads to complex guilt that doesn't fit traditional narratives of victimhood or ingratitude.
#happiness
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoRelationships
I'm 73 and my husband asked me what makes me happy and I gave him the answer I thought he wanted to hear - our kids, our grandkids, our home - but the real answer is I genuinely don't know anymore because I've spent forty years editing my joy to fit other people's expectations - Silicon Canals
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI'm 73 and my husband asked me what makes me happy and I gave him the answer I thought he wanted to hear - our kids, our grandkids, our home - but the real answer is I genuinely don't know anymore because I've spent forty years editing my joy to fit other people's expectations - Silicon Canals
Editing joy to fit others' expectations can lead to losing sight of what truly makes one happy.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe hardest thing about being the calm one in a family is that your steadiness becomes load-bearing. Everyone leans on it, nobody asks what holds it up, and the day you finally crack, people don't comfort you. They panic. Because your collapse threatens the architecture, and the architecture was always more important than you were. - Silicon Canals
The calm family member often bears the burden of emotional labor, managing others' feelings while suppressing their own.
NYC parents
fromwww.businessinsider.com
1 week agoI started raising my grandson just a few months into my retirement. My wife and I want to give him a good life, but it's financially draining.
Martin Odum and his wife are raising their grandson Noah, who has spina bifida, after previously raising their granddaughter.
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoThe most profound disconnect between boomers and younger generations isn't about avocado toast or laziness - it's that boomers inherited an economy designed to reward time invested, while millennials and Gen Z are navigating one that rewards attention captured, and the skill sets don't translate - Silicon Canals
Generational tension arises from differing economic realities between baby boomers and younger generations, affecting perceptions of work and success.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoNobody tells you that expecting instant replies is a relatively new social norm - and that an entire generation learned to communicate in ways that never required it - Silicon Canals
Instant communication has created pressure that undermines meaningful relationships, which thrived in a slower-paced era of correspondence.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoChildren raised in the 1960s and 70s developed their resilience the same way muscle develops under resistance - not by being protected from the load but by being required to carry it, repeatedly, without assistance, until the carrying became the unremarkable default rather than the exceptional achievement - Silicon Canals
Independence and resilience were fostered in children of the '60s and '70s through unstructured play and learning from failure.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a generation of men who were taught that providing was the same as loving. And there's a generation of their children who spent years in therapy learning that those aren't the same thing, only to reach an age where they finally understand that for their fathers, inside the architecture they were given, it was. - Silicon Canals
Emotional estrangement between fathers and children stems from generational differences in expressing love and vulnerability.
Social media marketing
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3 weeks agoPSA: Your Gran Misses Your Instagram Posts | Muse by Clios
One-third of social media users post less than a year ago, while still spending over two hours daily scrolling, as algorithmic feeds prioritize ads and influencer content over authentic peer connections.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe most painful thing about watching a parent age isn't the physical decline. It's the moment you catch them deferring to you on a decision they would have made without hesitation ten years ago, and you both feel the transfer of authority that neither of you agreed to. - Silicon Canals
The real challenge of aging parents lies in the subtle shifts of authority and uncertainty in their decision-making.
London politics
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 weeks agoGenerational divide isn't as wide as you think | Letters
Intergenerational narratives are more complex than surface-level rivalry suggests, with significant commonalities between generations but stark inequality emerging around climate change and economic opportunity.
Wellness
fromBusiness Insider
3 weeks agoI moved back in with my parents at 30 and am still here 10 years later. I used to feel embarrassed but now I see it as a privilege.
Moving home after burnout provided Diana Choi financial stability and mental health recovery, enabling her to launch her K-beauty brand Vibes of Grace while strengthening family relationships over a decade.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI'm 66 and my wife Donna pointed out that I fix things around the house the morning after every argument. Not because I'm avoiding the conversation. Because in my family, repair was always physical. You didn't say sorry. You replaced the broken shelf. You re-grouted the tiles. You showed up with actions because words were a foreign language nobody in the house had learned to speak. - Silicon Canals
Apologies can be structural actions rather than just verbal expressions, especially for men raised in environments where emotions were not openly discussed.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoPsychology says the generation that survived the most hardship is also the least equipped to talk about it - and their children are paying the therapy bills for that silence - Silicon Canals
Unprocessed trauma from the Greatest Generation created intergenerational emotional wounds passed through silence rather than communication, requiring descendants to seek therapy to break the cycle.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology explains people who grew up in the 1960s aren't just private - they struggle to open up from being raised in an era when family problems stayed behind closed doors - Silicon Canals
Generational emotional suppression in men stems from cultural norms that discourage expressing feelings, leading to difficulties in emotional communication.
Women in technology
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoAs a boomer, I'm shocked by gen Z's attitude towards women something has gone very wrong | Joan Smith
Nearly a third of Gen Z men across 29 countries believe wives should obey husbands, contradicting assumptions that younger generations are more liberal than older ones.
Digital life
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoI used to think my parents were behind the times - now I'm in my 60s and I realize they understood things my generation is only starting to figure out - Silicon Canals
Family dinners together create irreplaceable bonds and communication that modern convenience erodes, requiring intentional commitment to preserve family connection.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoThe generation that fixed everything, asked for nothing, and held every family together is now being told their values are outdated - psychology says the opposite is true - Silicon Canals
Older generations' values of resilience, duty, and sacrifice correlate with better mental health outcomes than modern avoidance of discomfort, according to psychological research.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoPsychology says the families where nothing was ever discussed are the ones producing the adults who can't stop talking about everything - and both generations think the other one is the problem - Silicon Canals
Families that suppress meaningful conversation often produce adults who compulsively overshare, as a reaction to years of being unheard and emotionally dismissed.
History
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoPeople who grew up in the 60s and 70s usually have these 10 qualities that younger generations find remarkable - Silicon Canals
Adults raised in the 1960s-70s retain practical repair skills, strong memory, resourcefulness, and work approaches that often impress younger generations.
UK news
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoI grew up in the 70s and didn't realize these 8 childhood experiences were unusual until I talked to younger generations - Silicon Canals
1970s childhoods involved unsupervised outdoor freedom that fostered independence, problem-solving, and risk assessment, unlike today's highly supervised childhoods.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoMy parents are in their 60s and watching them begin to slow down is the first thing in my adult life that research can't help me process - Silicon Canals
Adult children experience role reversal with aging parents, navigating the emotional complexity of shifting from receiving guidance to providing support while preserving parental independence.
Relationships
fromBusiness Insider
1 month agoMy 5 kids are all adults. It takes a monumental effort to get everyone in the same room at the same time.
Geographically dispersed families struggle to maintain connection despite modern communication tools, with in-person gatherings remaining irreplaceable for building and strengthening family bonds.
Parenting
fromBusiness Insider
3 weeks agoAmerica's grandparents are raising their grandkids and delaying retirement. Some expect to work until they die.
Grandparents increasingly serve as primary caregivers for grandchildren due to parental inability, forcing them to work longer and delay retirement while managing significant financial and caregiving burdens.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoMy boomer father has never once asked me how I'm really doing - he asks about my job, my car, my house, my kids - and I've realized he isn't avoiding depth on purpose, he simply wasn't taught that his child might need something from him that isn't practical, and that gap is where our entire relationship quietly breaks down - Silicon Canals
Men raised to prioritize practical provision over emotional connection often lack skills to engage in meaningful personal conversations with their children.
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks agoGrandparenting Today in the Age of AI
Grandparenting today means navigating a parenting landscape that's changing faster than ever. From sleep training debates to screen-time guidelines, advice evolves quickly-and it can be hard to know when to speak up and when to step back. Thoughtfully used, artificial intelligence (AI) can be a quiet ally for grandparents, helping you stay current with evidence-based parenting guidance, sort through worries before they escalate, and choose language that supports rather than undermines your adult children.
Parenting
fromThe Nation
2 months agoIf Something Happens to Me: A Letter to My Daughter
There are nights when we lie in your bed, fairy lights glowing above us, the city humming softly outside, and you tell me what has been sitting with you all day. Side by side under your pink quilt, you know I am all yours. It was during one of those nights when you asked me a question I couldn't answer right away.
Social justice
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
2 months ago"We deserve wrinkles": The fight for trans youth is a fight for a future with trans elders in it - LGBTQ Nation
Restrictive laws and federal proposals limit transgender and nonbinary youths' access to best-practice health care, increasing mental-health harms and suicide risk.
fromHuffPost
2 months agoThe Surprising Reactions Grandparents Have To Modern Parenting Trends
"My kids are so invested in their children it's beautiful! They use gentle parenting techniques, even with challenging personalities; provide them with healthy outlets and nurture their friends as well. They're 100% better than I was - but I had to do it alone with five children. I'd choose my kid's parenting over mine, every time!" - Anne W.
Relationships
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago8 things boomers swore they'd never become that they've slowly turned into anyway-and their kids see it even if they don't - Silicon Canals
A generation that once embraced change has become resistant to technology and critical of younger generations while repeating the same behaviors they condemned.
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