Psychology
fromPsychology Today
10 hours agoWhy Confidence Doesn't Always Reflect True Self-Worth
Authentic self-worth is grounded in presence and self-acceptance, contrasting with fragile self-worth tied to external perceptions.
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Careers
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours agoI'm 66 and I spent forty years being extremely good at my job and last spring I realized I had optimized my entire existence for the approval of people I didn't particularly like - Silicon Canals
Professional dedication can sometimes mask a deeper need for approval from others, leading to personal sacrifices and a loss of self-identity.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours agoPsychology says people who were told they were gifted as children often grow into adults who avoid challenges - because their identity was built on being naturally good, not on getting better - Silicon Canals
Labeling children as 'gifted' can hinder their growth by tying their self-worth to innate talent rather than effort and improvement.
#identity
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoRetirement
I spent a decade building a career I thought I wanted, a house I thought I needed, and a persona I thought would finally make me real - and one Saturday morning over coffee I sat with the quiet certainty that I had built all of it for someone who no longer lived inside me - Silicon Canals
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology
Psychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals
Digital life
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThere's a specific kind of exhaustion that belongs to people who are fluent in three versions of themselves. One for work, one for family, one for the person they actually are at 11pm when everyone has finally stopped needing something. - Silicon Canals
Fluency across multiple identities is essential in modern life, but it comes with a hidden cost of constant translation.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI spent a decade building a career I thought I wanted, a house I thought I needed, and a persona I thought would finally make me real - and one Saturday morning over coffee I sat with the quiet certainty that I had built all of it for someone who no longer lived inside me - Silicon Canals
Building a life based on societal expectations can lead to a personal crisis when the facade becomes unsustainable.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals
Adapting to others' needs in childhood can lead to feeling disconnected and lost in adulthood.
Digital life
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThere's a specific kind of exhaustion that belongs to people who are fluent in three versions of themselves. One for work, one for family, one for the person they actually are at 11pm when everyone has finally stopped needing something. - Silicon Canals
Fluency across multiple identities is essential in modern life, but it comes with a hidden cost of constant translation.
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Artificial intelligence
fromwww.businessinsider.com
21 hours agoWorkers are feeling AI anxiety and that they might be training their replacements
Workers fear AI will replace their jobs, with 30% believing their roles may become obsolete.
Marketing tech
fromHR Brew
3 days agoAI is changing how people look for jobs, forcing recruiters to keep up
AI is transforming SEO and recruitment strategies, requiring adaptation to new search behaviors and tools.
Artificial intelligence
fromFortune
2 days agoAI adoption isn't the hard part, it's building employee agency | Fortune
AI empowers non-coders to execute ideas, requiring companies to foster safe, effective environments for employee agency and innovation.
Growth hacking
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThe people who look most successful on the outside often have no idea what they're doing - they just learned early that confidence and competence look identical from a distance - Silicon Canals
The gap between perceived success and actual competence is significant, often leading to overconfidence in those with limited knowledge.
fromwww.businessinsider.com
4 days agoI was laid off twice from the same company. The second time was a gut punch but taught me not to take cuts personally.
When the CEO held a virtual town hall in 2020 and said there needed to be layoffs, I knew I would be one of the first to go because I served zero purpose at that point.
Marketing
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Women in technology
fromFast Company
3 days agoAI isn't just reshaping productivity and threatening to kill jobs. It's changing how we lead, communicate, and treat each other. It's also creating a new gender gap
Generative AI is reshaping communication, trust, and cultural interactions beyond productivity and efficiency concerns.
#retirement
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychologists explain that people who feel neglected in retirement aren't necessarily being ignored - they're experiencing the sudden absence of the role-based relationships that made them feel valued for forty years - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to feelings of invisibility and loss of identity as relationships formed at work fade away.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm 66 and I woke up last Thursday and realized I couldn't name a single thing I was looking forward to - not because nothing good was happening but because I'd trained myself to find meaning in being needed and nobody needs me anymore - Silicon Canals
Finding purpose in being needed can lead to a loss of personal desires and identity after retirement.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI watched my dad retire with every financial box checked and then go back to work within a year - and it wasn't until he said 'I miss being useful' that I understood what we never talk about when we talk about retirement - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to a loss of identity and purpose, as many individuals struggle with the absence of their professional roles.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe people who are best at hiding unhappiness aren't the stoic ones or the quiet ones - they're the ones who became so skilled at giving everyone around them exactly enough warmth to never be looked at too closely - Silicon Canals
People often hide their struggles behind a facade of warmth, leading to loneliness despite appearing thriving.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPeople who clean before the cleaner arrives, apologize when someone bumps into them, and pre-explain before anyone has asked for a justification all grew up in homes where taking up space without earning it first was treated as an act of aggression. - Silicon Canals
Cleaning before the cleaner reflects a deeper issue of feeling unworthy of help without prior justification.
fromIndependent
2 weeks agoThis Working Life: 'It has been interesting to see how much your status and self-perspective are tied up with your job'
I was 17 when I went to study law in UCD in 1990. At school in Boyle, Co Roscommon, I was interested in science and biology, but I did not take up the CAO offer to study genetics in Queen's as I was scared of maths.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who are nice on the surface but have no close friends aren't lonely because nobody wants them - they're lonely because the version of them that everyone wants is not the version that needs anything, and a self that never needs anything is a self that nobody ever gets close enough to actually know - Silicon Canals
Being nice can lead to emotional isolation and a lack of true connection with others.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoYou know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals
Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoNot everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals
People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoSome people don't fear failure. They fear succeeding and then being expected to sustain it, because the version of them that achieved it was running on adrenaline and desperation, and the person who shows up on Monday is someone quieter who doesn't know how to replicate what the emergency produced. - Silicon Canals
The fear of success stems from the pressure to replicate high performance, not from a desire to avoid good outcomes.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says the most isolating part of retirement isn't being alone - it's realizing that most of your relationships were held together by proximity, routine, and utility, not genuine curiosity about who you are - Silicon Canals
Most relationships are maintained by physical proximity rather than genuine connection, a truth that becomes evident in retirement.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThere's a specific kind of loyalty that keeps people in jobs, cities, and friendships years after the reason they stayed has disappeared. It's not inertia. It's that leaving would require admitting the time already spent wasn't building toward something, and that admission costs more than staying another year. - Silicon Canals
People remain in unfulfilling situations due to the fear of admitting past investments were unproductive, not because of passivity or fear of change.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals
Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
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Careers
fromwww.businessinsider.com
5 days agoI was a laid-off software engineer who pivoted into blue-collar work because of AI. One year in, I couldn't be happier.
Tabby Toney transitioned from software engineering to welding after being laid off, finding job security and satisfaction in her new career.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThe people who say 'I'm fine with whatever you want to do' in every social situation aren't easygoing. They've simply never been in an environment where stating a preference didn't start a negotiation they couldn't afford to lose. - Silicon Canals
People who appear easygoing may actually be practicing conflict avoidance as a survival strategy learned from past experiences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPeople who were labeled 'too sensitive' often became adults who read rooms before anyone speaks, and the difference between those two things is about 20 years of misunderstanding - Silicon Canals
Sensitivity can evolve from a perceived weakness into a valuable skill for understanding emotional dynamics in various situations.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says the reason aging people feel like they don't matter isn't about what they've lost - it's that society defines mattering as productivity and visibility, and the moment you step outside those narrow roles, your value becomes invisible even to people who love you - Silicon Canals
Retirement and aging can lead to feelings of invisibility and worthlessness due to society's narrow definitions of productivity.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThere's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals
People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI'm 34 and I just realized I've been performing competence at work for seven years because somewhere along the way I confused being impressive with being safe, and the exhaustion I thought was burnout was actually the weight of never once letting anyone see me learn something for the first time. - Silicon Canals
Performing competence can lead to self-erasure and social rewards, masking genuine capability with a polished exterior.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says the people who actually escape loneliness don't do it by finding more people - they do it by finally dropping the version of themselves that made real connection impossible in the first place - Silicon Canals
Loneliness stems from a lack of genuine connection, not merely from being alone or having many acquaintances.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoThe Dangers of Over-Identifying With Your Job
Work-based identities can provide a strong sense of purpose. Such identities give a sense of uniqueness and yet simultaneously belonging-uniqueness from those outside our profession but belonging with those within it. We may enjoy a sense of community among those in the same profession and feel we are a part of something larger than ourselves.
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