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fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago
Retirement

I spent a decade building a career I thought I wanted, a house I thought I needed, and a persona I thought would finally make me real - and one Saturday morning over coffee I sat with the quiet certainty that I had built all of it for someone who no longer lived inside me - Silicon Canals

Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says the reason most people never truly change isn't laziness - it's that they've built an identity around their flaws that they don't know who they'd be without them - Silicon Canals

People struggle to change not due to laziness, but because their flaws are integrated into their identity, making change feel like a threat to the self.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

How Do I Become the Real Me?

Most people define themselves by internalized external perceptions rather than discovering their authentic self until crisis forces introspection.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

I Am No One, and That's Changed Everything

Realizing the self is not defined solely by roles or achievements enables psychological flexibility and deeper, less attached relationships with self and others.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I spent a decade building a career I thought I wanted, a house I thought I needed, and a persona I thought would finally make me real - and one Saturday morning over coffee I sat with the quiet certainty that I had built all of it for someone who no longer lived inside me - Silicon Canals

Building a life based on societal expectations can lead to a personal crisis when the facade becomes unsustainable.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says the reason most people never truly change isn't laziness - it's that they've built an identity around their flaws that they don't know who they'd be without them - Silicon Canals

People struggle to change not due to laziness, but because their flaws are integrated into their identity, making change feel like a threat to the self.
Right-wing politics
fromwww.mediaite.com
1 day ago

Shilling For the Illiberal Left': Tim Miller Gets Eviscerated After Defending Hasan Piker

Tim Miller defended Hasan Piker's acceptance in the Democratic Party, sparking controversy and debate about bigotry and tribalization in politics.
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
4 days ago

The manosphere is dead and no one cares about Andrew Tate any more': the poet taking on toxic masculinity

Sam Browne uses performance poetry to address mental health and masculinity, aiming to change perceptions and support men in their struggles.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I'm 37 and I realized I wasn't actually a good person the day my wife said "you're kind to strangers and cruel to the people closest to you" - and the worst part wasn't the accusation, it was that I couldn't argue because I'd been using up all my patience on people who didn't matter and coming home empty - Silicon Canals

Kindness should be abundant at home, not rationed for public interactions, to foster authentic connections with loved ones.
Books
fromThe Atlantic
6 days ago

How Long Can You Live Your Ideals?

Pat Calhoun chooses parenthood over radicalism, paralleling Elsa Haddish's struggle between her militant past and raising her daughter safely.
#introspection
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

Your Most Horrifying Thoughts May Not Mean What You Think

Intrusive sexual thoughts are a common form of OCD, often misidentified and not indicative of actual desire.
fromwww.dw.com
1 week ago

'Looksmaxxing': The manosphere beauty cult

Looksmaxxing influencers promise isolated young incels that they can improve their lives and sexual market value through rigorous diets, steroids, and even plastic surgery. The trend promotes painful procedures under the guise of male beautification.
Social media marketing
#ai
fromThe Walrus
1 week ago

The Walrus Debate: Can Politics be Civil Again? | The Walrus

The Walrus Debate asks a timely question: Can Politics Be Civil Again? It brings together former political leaders to model respectful disagreement and explore dialogue's role in rebuilding public trust.
Canada news
Right-wing politics
fromThe Walrus
4 days ago

The War Against Misinformation Is Over. The Lies Won | The Walrus

The Canadian government's approach to hate crimes raises concerns about freedom of expression and potential overreach in regulating protests.
Philosophy
fromThe Atlantic
1 week ago

The People Who Think Introspection Is Dumb

William Shatner's space experience led him to reflect on humanity's insignificance and the need to cherish life on Earth.
Right-wing politics
fromWIRED
5 days ago

The Promise of 'Woke 2' Is Fueling a Leftist Fever Dream

Donald Trump's 2024 victory was seen as a rejection of 'woke' ideology, leading to a culture of offensive speech without fear of consequences.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 44 and I just realized that every time someone asks me how I'm doing I say 'I'm fine' automatically - not because I'm lying but because I genuinely don't know the answer to that question - Silicon Canals

Automatic responses to greetings can prevent genuine self-reflection and connection.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says people who are intellectually curious but socially selective aren't antisocial - they've simply reached a level of self-awareness where they'd rather be alone than accommodate conversations that require them to shrink their thinking - Silicon Canals

Selective social withdrawal can lead to positive outcomes like creativity, contrasting with the negative perceptions often associated with being antisocial.
Canada news
fromwww.mediaite.com
2 weeks ago

Rogan and Canada's Conservative Leader Roast Trump's 51st State Talk: I Just Wish He'd Knock That S**t Off'

Trump's rhetoric about making Canada the 51st state unified Canadian opposition and boosted the Liberal Party's electoral prospects, according to discussion between Joe Rogan and Conservative Leader Pierre Poilievre.
Right-wing politics
fromwww.mediaite.com
1 week ago

Joe Rogan Rips MAGA Fringe as Bunch of F*cking Dorks' Lumped With Real Patriots'

Joe Rogan criticized the MAGA movement, labeling many supporters as uninteresting and unintelligent while questioning Trump's approach to the Iran war.
fromwww.mediaite.com
3 weeks ago

Joe Rogan Battles Guest Over Epstein Conspiracy Theories

At a certain point in time, when enough circumstantial evidence that's f*cking weird like the cameras being down and the guards being asleep, Rogan said as Shellenberger stepped in. The professor noted the cameras had issues prior, and prison guards falling asleep is not uncommon.
US news
Humor
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 weeks ago

Louis Theroux: Inside the Manosphere review why doesn't he focus more on the impact on women?

Louis Theroux's documentary on the manosphere adopts a more direct, confrontational approach than his typical style, moving beyond performative naivety to meaningfully challenge online misogyny influencers and their anti-women red pill ideology.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Practicing Radical Curiosity: Rethinking Who You Are

Challenging the inner voice and fostering self-compassion are essential for cultivating radical curiosity toward ourselves and others.
Right-wing politics
fromwww.mediaite.com
1 week ago

Raging Antisemitism' and Pornography': Conservative Radio Star Erick Erickson GOES OFF on Elon Musk's Special Hell'

Elon Musk's management of X has led to increased misinformation and antisemitism, harming the Christian witness among influencers.
Social media marketing
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

Research suggests people who never post on social media aren't antisocial or insecure - they display these 8 cognitive strengths that come from building identity internally rather than through external validation loops - Silicon Canals

Silent social media consumers who observe without posting develop deeper information processing and stronger public-private boundaries, displaying cognitive advantages over constant sharers.
fromwww.theguardian.com
4 weeks ago

You get credit for how big your penis is': Louis Theroux on manosphere, marriage and misunderstandings

Theroux, 55, might be north London dad in appearance—specs, grey T-shirt, black jeans, sneakers—but he's the grandmaster of both the immersive documentary and interview form. The son of American writer Paul Theroux (a nepo baby before they existed), he has built a 30year career in television, much of it at the BBC, making a virtue of being a socially awkward verbivore, hypercurious, super-funny.
Podcast
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Beyond Suspicion: Why We Doubt Greatness-and What It Says About Us

Mental mastery and team trust are crucial for success in cycling, transcending past performance and skepticism.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
1 month ago

Joe Rogan calls trans people "f**king perverts" & blames them for school shootings - LGBTQ Nation

Joe Rogan made derogatory statements about transgender people, denied institutional oppression they face, and promoted debunked pseudoscientific theories about transgender identity.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Ideas We Aren't Ready to Understand-Yet

Collect ideas you don't understand but sense are important, as they trigger deeper cognitive processing and eventual insight through incubation.
Philosophy
fromHarvard Gazette
3 weeks ago

Where have all the public intellectuals gone? - Harvard Gazette

Public intellectuals are essential in democratic cultures to articulate unformed ideas and help citizens understand their values, but conditions supporting intellectual life in America are eroding due to social and economic shifts.
fromGarden Therapy
4 weeks ago

5 Gentle Ways to Start Talking to People Again - Garden Therapy

Social anxiety, more often than not, is about inexperience. Most of us only go out for dinner or have an event once a week, and that becomes our entire social outlet. So when we do interact with someone new, it feels high-stakes. You feel pressured to say the perfect thing.
Relationships
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

I listened to 170 hours of Joe Rogan's podcast trust me, he hasn't turned against Trump | Michael Marshall

Rogan frames the presence of ICE as a direct response to mass fraud in Minnesota, justifies ICE's need for total anonymity to carry out their work, warns one of the real problems is that ICE might wrongly be seen as villains, and expresses sympathy for ICE agents. While lamenting Good's shooting as unfortunate, Rogan says she seemed crazy and out of her fucking mind, speculating she was a deliberate agitator.
Podcast
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

Psychology says people who genuinely don't care what others think aren't rude or selfish - they've reached a level of inner peace that comes from finally valuing their own judgment over external validation - Silicon Canals

Psychological autonomy—making decisions from internal values rather than external approval—is a developmental achievement that predicts well-being and mental health.
US politics
fromThe Atlantic
1 month ago

When Caring Becomes Counterculture

Trump's tariff policies reflect his desire for unchecked presidential power rather than sound economic strategy, and his Supreme Court defeat reveals deeper concerns about executive authority than trade policy.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

'Inside the Manosphere' Reveals the Turmoil of Self-Esteem

Albert Ellis argued that self-esteem based on ranking is unstable and creates anxiety, advocating instead for unconditional self-acceptance as a path to emotional stability.
#indoctrination
Philosophy
fromBig Think
1 month ago

The philosophy of indoctrination and how to fix it

Indoctrination occurs when beliefs are sealed off from questioning through prepackaged instructions that frame scrutiny as irrational or immoral, preventing rational evaluation of counterevidence.
Science
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

The New Book From One of Our Most Popular Nonfiction Writers Takes On the Mystery That's Haunted Philosophers for Millennia

Consciousness remains elusive; psychedelic experiences provide provocative but contested windows into how conscious worlds appear.
fromwww.mediaite.com
1 month ago

Jerry Springer of Political Television': Ben Shapiro Slams Piers Morgan For Hosting America Haters' Like Dave Smith

Piers Morgan, who has sort of made a mockery of the entire industry by putting on screen whatever dregs are still willing to go on [his show]... He had on Dave Smith, who has, you know, apparently, his job is to never tell jokes but to instead, give poorly-informed foreign policy takes... And to also hate America.
Right-wing politics
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks ago

Why Feedback Is a Window and Mirror to Growth

Feedback activates defensive responses because it's often interpreted as judgment about identity rather than observable behavior impact, shaped by the relational field between people.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Why Changing Your Mind Is a Critical Strength Not a Weakness

Critical thinking requires willingness to reconsider views; changing one's mind reflects intellectual integrity, not weakness or personal failure.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

We Don't Know How Little We Know

This is a tough time for politics in America. But it's an extremely interesting time for those of us who wrestle with the nature of reality. As a psychiatrist who has treated people with psychosis for over 20 years, I have lived in the uncomfortable space between their experience of reality and mine and I have worked to change beliefs that are some of the most resistant to change: delusions.
US politics
Psychology
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

Our consciousness is under siege': Michael Pollan on chatbots, social media and mental freedom

Human consciousness faces threats from algorithmic manipulation and political intrusion, requiring deliberate practices to protect our internal mental freedom and attention.
Media industry
fromThe New Yorker
2 months ago

What Bari Weiss Wants

Bari Weiss, founder of The Free Press, was appointed editor-in-chief of CBS News by David Ellison, surprising observers and promising institutional changes.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

Matthew Kelly: Something extinct I'd bring back to life? Wokeness a good thing that's been hijacked'

Born in Lancashire, Matthew Kelly, 75, studied drama at Manchester Polytechnic and acted at the Liverpool Everyman. He moved into TV, presenting Game for a Laugh in the 80s, You Bet! in the 90s and Stars in their Eyes from 1993 to 2004. Having returned to the stage, he received an Olivier award in 2004 for his role in Of Mice and Men in London's West End.
Television
fromThe Walrus
2 months ago

Evan Solomon Wants Canada to Trust AI. Can We Trust Evan Solomon? | The Walrus

L ast September, nearly 6,500 people-including start-up founders, investors, and researchers-gathered at the Palais des congrès in Montreal for All In, Canada's largest artificial intelligence event. After passing through a security checkpoint, they lounged on plush furniture and posed in front of a luminous "ALL IN" sign. Everyone wore a lanyard with a QR code that could be scanned to connect through an app, a sort of modern-day business card. Kiosks showcased AI companies; smooth jazz flowed and so did coffee.
Miscellaneous
LGBT
fromThe Walrus
1 month ago

Heated Rivalry Holds Up a Mirror to My Deepest Self | The Walrus

Heated Rivalry's queer Slavic portrayal triggered a personal reckoning and exposed Eastern Europe's political manipulation and censorship of LGBTQ+ visibility.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

Tim Dowling: I've already used up all my optimism for the year. What now?

I am sitting in my office shed, cut off from the house by a driving rain. The misery and boredom of the English winter is, I have to admit, beginning to get to me. I spent January talking about the days getting longer, and used up all my optimism. For the last 10 minutes I've been scrolling through the website of my American home town newspaper, which is full of pictures of the recent snowfall over a foot, with more predicted in the coming days. Extreme weather has a tendency to make me homesick I hate to miss a hurricane.
UK news
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Who Would You Be if No One Was Watching?

The spotlight effect causes people to edit their lives for an imaginary audience, creating unnecessary suffering through overestimated judgment from others.
#jeffrey-epstein
Television
fromThe Walrus
1 month ago

Heated Rivalry Is Millennial Optimism Porn | The Walrus

Heated Rivalry's first season uses a disorienting 2008–2017 timeline to evoke 2010s millennial optimism and portray growing LGBTQ+ acceptance in hockey culture.
Books
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

His favourite book was by Jordan Peterson, which was a massive ick': how books perform on dating apps

Book mentions on dating profiles act as fast cultural signals of taste, personality and worldview that shape attraction and matching on dating apps.
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

Jordan Peterson says if you want to stay mentally strong, stop doing these 8 habits that weaken your mind - Silicon Canals

Peterson believes that avoiding difficult conversations is one of the fastest ways to weaken your mind. And honestly, he's right. I used to be the king of avoidance. If something felt uncomfortable, I'd find every excuse to dodge it. "It's not the right time," I'd tell myself. Or my personal favorite: "Maybe the problem will just go away." Spoiler alert: It never did.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Link Between Thinking and Being

Metaphors are linked to how we experience the world around us, according to seminal work by researchers George Lakoff and Mark Johnson. In English, we "move forward" with our lives and don't "retreat into" the past. We speak about people who are "cold as ice" and "heavy" matters we need to resolve. Some of these metaphorical expressions are more than just, well, expressions-they are actually based on our sensory experiences. This mind-body link is called "embodied cognition."
Science
fromDefector
2 months ago

Bari Weiss Is The Symptom | Defector

"My general view here," the CBS News editor-in-chief wrote in a memo before shelving the now-infamous 60 Minutes report on El Salvador's CECOT concentration camp, "is that we do our viewers the best service by presenting them with the full context they need to assess the story. In other words, I believe we need to do more reporting here." Expediency, personal prerogative, servility to power, all smuggled under the cover of journalistic scruple:
Media industry
US politics
fromwww.esquire.com
2 months ago

Pete Hegseth and the War on Canadian Sex Toys

Tariff changes and removal of the de minimis exemption caused Bonjibon's international sex-toy shipments to be held, returned, and even inspected by U.S. authorities.
fromThe Walrus
2 months ago

Can Canadian Culture Survive the Age of AI Slop? | The Walrus

H ave you heard Solomon Ray's new album Faithful Soul? It's number one on the gospel charts-and entirely AI generated, just like the musical artist behind it. The idea that a hit Spotify artist might not be human is a satire of the attention economy itself: an ecosystem once based on authenticity and connection now topped by a synthetic voice engineered for maximum uplift. What does "soul" even mean when it's made by software trained on real music?
Canada news
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

The quiet power of people who stopped explaining themselves - Silicon Canals

Over-explaining stems from childhood invalidation and becomes a survival mechanism that eventually leads to emotional exhaustion and withdrawal from communication.
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Jordan Peterson says people who succeed in almost everything they do tell themselves the truth about these 7 personal weaknesses - Silicon Canals

Ever wonder why some people seem to crush it in every area of life while others stay stuck in the same patterns year after year? According to Jordan Peterson, clinical psychologist and author of "12 Rules for Life," the difference comes down to one brutal practice: Telling yourself the truth about your weaknesses. Not the comfortable half-truths we usually feed ourselves. The real, uncomfortable, sometimes painful truth.
Philosophy
Books
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

7 must-read books for mastering the art of not caring what others think - Silicon Canals

Selective caring and choosing whose opinions matter reduces anxiety, builds genuine self-confidence, and frees energy for personal values, relationships, and growth.
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Psychology says the people who feel like they're falling behind in life are usually holding themselves to a timeline that was never theirs to begin with - Silicon Canals

Developmental psychology has long studied what researchers call 'social clocks,' a term coined by psychologist Bernice Neugarten in the 1960s. Neugarten's research found that societies create implicit timetables for major life events: when you should finish school, when you should be established in a career, when you should have children, when you should own property. People who hit these milestones 'on time' reported less stress.
Psychology
Canada news
fromwww.cbc.ca
2 months ago

Conservative MP calls cancellation of his campus event an attack on free speech | CBC News

A Conservative MP's planned public event at York University was cancelled after the student centre said it did not meet venue booking requirements.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Reimaging Psychology or Revitalizing the Humanities?

The psychological humanities integrates psychological science with art and literature to create a more comprehensive understanding of human behavior and improved mental health care practices.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Awakening Your Inner Authority

Knowing grants a sense of safety and certainty. It provides us with knowledge and a degree of control-the direction we believe we need to go and the way to get there. Yet, considering the chaos, anxiety, distress, loneliness, and existential challenges that most of us live with, we continue clinging to what we were taught to believe is "the truth." And while safety and certainty are illusory, we cling to them in powerful ways.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Road From Rebellion to Reverence

By the time people reach their seventh decade, they have learned many lessons. From a psychological standpoint, they understand what really matters. They have learned what to let go of. They know what they need to be happy. They also acknowledge the importance of being kinder to themselves and how relationships and experiences are more important than possessions. They tend to reflect on lessons learned and often recover more easily from adversity. They also focus on wanting the best for their loved ones.
Mindfulness
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Embracing Intellectual Humility in Political Conversations

Intellectual humility recognizes knowledge limits, seeks other perspectives, and restrains certainty, tribalism, extremism, and contempt in political judgment.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

When Answers Cost Less than Thought

Back in the day, a simple fact rang true: understanding required construction. If you wanted clarity, you had to build it from the inside out. You struggled with ambiguity and lived with uncertainty longer than was comfortable. But after all, you were building something. Importantly, this "cognitive building" didn't appear fully formed but emerged brick by brick and thought by thought. That work wasn't a barrier to thought; it was the architecture of thought itself.
Artificial intelligence
fromApaonline
2 months ago

Why We Should Doubt that Academic Philosophy Benefits the Broader Public

A professional philosopher outside the academy walls can act as a popularizer (the goal here is to make philosophy more accessible to the general public), an applied ethicist (the major task is to offer an analysis of various specific moral issues that arise within a society), and a public intellectual (I limit this role to questions that have political connotation). Of course, there are overlaps between these roles and they certainly do not exhaust all possible forms of public engagement of a professional philosopher.
Philosophy
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Do Not Renounce Your Ability to Think

AI's humanlike interfaces can shift humans from active thinkers to passive recipients, undermining effortful thinking, depth of cognition, and meaningful relationships.
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

You know someone lacks intellectual depth when these 8 habits dominate their communication style - Silicon Canals

I've interviewed over 200 people for articles, from startup founders to burned-out middle managers, and I've discovered something fascinating: intellectual depth isn't about fancy degrees or knowing obscure facts. It shows up in how we communicate. When certain habits dominate someone's style, it reveals a concerning lack of curiosity and critical thinking that goes beyond just being annoying-it fundamentally limits their ability to engage with the world meaningfully.
Philosophy
fromApaonline
1 month ago

Something Stupid Like Philosophy

They escaped persecution in the form of violent antisemitism and came to Canada with next to nothing. They built their lives from the ground up and understood, through lived experience, what the normalization of cruelty did to the human spirit, how quickly people can be swayed by the opinions of the day, and how easily one could forfeit the human capacity to stop and truly think about what one is doing.
Philosophy
Philosophy
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

8 things people do trying to seem intellectual that actually make educated people cringe - Silicon Canals

Performative intellectualism—jargon, name-dropping, and overcomplication—undermines credibility; genuine intelligence communicates simply and uses precision only when necessary.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The One Question That Changes How You See Your Life

Persistent dissatisfaction often arises from familiar, tolerable routines rather than intolerable circumstances; assessing whether one can consent to an unchanged future reveals true contentment.
fromFast Company
2 months ago

Why everything you think about yourself could be an illusion

For most of my life, I thought of myself as a fixed entity: This is me. These are my traits. This is who I am. I assumed I was essentially that same person who loved sugary cereal at age 8, fried chicken at 12, and tequila at 21, and who still loves those things now, even if my stomach disagrees. But this is an illusion. Neuroscience, physics, and Buddhism all agree: There is nothing fixed about us-not even close.
Philosophy
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