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I'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals

Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.

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Psychology says people who've mastered not caring aren't detached - they went through a period of caring so much it nearly broke them, and came out the other side with a much shorter list - Silicon Canals

Mastering the art of not caring comes from exhaustion, not indifference, after deeply caring and learning what deserves emotional energy.

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I'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals

Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.

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Stop Pretending to Be Happy

Emotional acceptance leads to healthier processing of feelings, while suppression prolongs negative emotions and creates incongruence between feelings and expressions.

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1 hour ago

My Blissful, Unbothered Life as a 'Do Not Disturb' Maximalist

Ignoring push notifications through Do Not Disturb mode can enhance life quality by reducing distractions and setting boundaries.

Real estate

2 hours ago

Neuroscience reveals that the feeling of home isn't about geography or architecture. It's a nervous system state. People who never learned to feel safe in the presence of others carry a portable homelessness that no mortgage, renovation, or relocation has ever been shown to resolve. - Silicon Canals

Home is not just a physical space; it's about the ability of one's nervous system to settle in the presence of others.

Books

10 hours ago

Is Recovery Too Serious to Be Funny?

Recovery literature often overlooks humor, focusing instead on serious tones despite the potential for laughter in the journey.

17 hours ago

Why We Distinguish Suicide Clusters From Pacts

On February 1, 2026, a man associated with Ivaylo Kalushev received a message from him: 'Goodbye, friend, we are very tired and have no more strength.' The next day, police found the bodies of three middle-aged men at Kalushev's burnt lodge in western Bulgaria.

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Careers

10 hours ago

I was always the reliable one - the one who showed up, remembered, rearranged, and absorbed - and it took me until 58 to wonder whether anyone would have come looking if I'd stopped - Silicon Canals

Being the reliable one can lead to personal neglect and invisibility in relationships.

Medicine

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13 hours ago

The Dangers of Unlimited Health Advice

Health anxiety can be exacerbated by interactions with chatbots like ChatGPT, leading to obsessive behavior and emotional distress.

Exercise

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Do You Have "Shortcut Syndrome"? Here's How to Fix It.

Challenging oneself is essential for personal growth, but not all challenges suit everyone, especially in a frictionless modern life.

I Don't Want to Be Fixed, I Just Want to Be Heard

Couples often fight over whose reality is valid, but what they truly desire is to be heard without judgment or correction.

Higher education

What a Humanities Education Can Teach Us About Happiness

College should focus on teaching students to think and live well, not just job training.

Writing

The children who grew up in the 60s and 70s didn't become the toughest generation because their childhoods were harder - they became the toughest generation because their childhoods were honest, and honest is different from hard because hard can be survived passively but honest requires you to look at what is actually in front of you and deal with it as it is - Silicon Canals

Childhood experiences of honesty and reality foster resilience and strength, contrasting with modern tendencies to shield children from uncomfortable truths.

Philosophy

Was I Ever Really Young?

Youth is characterized by openness and curiosity, which can be cultivated at any age through conscious choices.

Humor

The people who laugh hardest at their own pain aren't resilient. They learned early that if they set the tone for how their suffering was received, nobody else could decide it was worse than they were prepared to admit. The humor isn't processing. It's perimeter control. - Silicon Canals

Humor can mask emotional pain, allowing individuals to control perceptions rather than genuinely cope with distress.

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Psychology says the most damaging people in your life are rarely the obviously cruel ones - they're the ones who were kind just often enough to keep you doubting your own perception - Silicon Canals

Intermittent reinforcement creates confusion and self-doubt, making it difficult for individuals to recognize toxic relationships.

Why Healing Yourself Can Trigger Survivor's Guilt

Healing can create survivor's guilt when it distances individuals from dysfunctional loved ones.

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Mindfulness

Psychology says being unbothered isn't emotional distance - it's the result of finally understanding which battles were never yours to fight - Silicon Canals

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People who are extremely good at reading a room often have no idea how to simply be in one. The scanning never stops. The social radar that everyone admires is the same system that prevents them from ever fully arriving anywhere, because arriving would require turning it off. - Silicon Canals

Emotional intelligence often acts as a surveillance system that hinders genuine connection rather than enhancing it.

Psychology says being unbothered isn't emotional distance - it's the result of finally understanding which battles were never yours to fight - Silicon Canals

Being unbothered is about recognizing which conflicts are not yours, not emotional detachment.

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People who are extremely good at reading a room often have no idea how to simply be in one. The scanning never stops. The social radar that everyone admires is the same system that prevents them from ever fully arriving anywhere, because arriving would require turning it off. - Silicon Canals

Emotional intelligence often acts as a surveillance system that hinders genuine connection rather than enhancing it.

Psychology suggests the adults most likely to spend their 60s and 70s in genuine contentment aren't the ones who achieved the most - they're the ones who stopped the earliest needing their life to mean something to anyone else, and that stopping, whenever it happened and for whatever reason, was the first day the actual life began - Silicon Canals

Happiness comes from being true to oneself rather than seeking validation from others.

When Existence Becomes the Only Claim to Worth

Redefining success as corruption can protect self-worth and prevent shame.

The Hidden Cost of Success

Success can lead to self-abandonment when internal signals are overridden, resulting in a disconnection from oneself despite external achievements.

Philosophy

When Existence Becomes the Only Claim to Worth

Redefining success as corruption can protect self-worth and prevent shame.

The Hidden Cost of Success

Success can lead to self-abandonment when internal signals are overridden, resulting in a disconnection from oneself despite external achievements.

Running Toward a Better Brain

Aerobic fitness and lifestyle choices can slow age-related brain changes and improve brain health across the adult lifespan.

Misery Does Not Need Your Company

Negative self-talk and perfectionism contribute to misery, while self-acceptance fosters contentment and joy.

Psychology says people who feel a persistent low-level sadness they cannot attribute to any specific cause aren't depressed in the clinical sense - they're experiencing the accurate emotional response to a life that has drifted, incrementally and without announcement, away from the one they meant to live, and the sadness is not a symptom, it is a signal, and signals are not treated, they are followed - Silicon Canals

Low-grade melancholy may signal a disconnect between current life and expectations, rather than being a symptom of depression.

Psychology says boomers who learned to 'just get on with it' aren't emotionally stunted - they built a coping architecture that millennials are now paying therapists to reconstruct - Silicon Canals

UK spending on private therapy has risen over 40% in a decade, with millennials as the largest demographic seeking treatment for emotional issues.

Mental health

How to Find a Certified Sports Psychiatrist

What Does Mental Well-Being Look Like?

Mental health should be viewed positively, focusing on well-being rather than just the absence of illness.

When a Diagnosis Becomes Your Entire Identity

Diagnosis can aid understanding and community, but over-identifying with it can harm personal growth and self-identity.

Misery Does Not Need Your Company

Negative self-talk and perfectionism contribute to misery, while self-acceptance fosters contentment and joy.

Psychology says people who feel a persistent low-level sadness they cannot attribute to any specific cause aren't depressed in the clinical sense - they're experiencing the accurate emotional response to a life that has drifted, incrementally and without announcement, away from the one they meant to live, and the sadness is not a symptom, it is a signal, and signals are not treated, they are followed - Silicon Canals

Low-grade melancholy may signal a disconnect between current life and expectations, rather than being a symptom of depression.

Psychology says boomers who learned to 'just get on with it' aren't emotionally stunted - they built a coping architecture that millennials are now paying therapists to reconstruct - Silicon Canals

UK spending on private therapy has risen over 40% in a decade, with millennials as the largest demographic seeking treatment for emotional issues.

How to Find a Certified Sports Psychiatrist

Athletes increasingly prioritize mental health, necessitating specialized support from sports psychiatrists who understand performance-related psychological pressures.

What Does Mental Well-Being Look Like?

Mental health should be viewed positively, focusing on well-being rather than just the absence of illness.

When a Diagnosis Becomes Your Entire Identity

Diagnosis can aid understanding and community, but over-identifying with it can harm personal growth and self-identity.

When Nothing Is Wrong, but Something Still Isn't Right

Consistency in daily habits can lead to significant improvements in health symptoms.

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Psychology says people who genuinely enjoy being alone aren't missing the need for connection - they've located the one condition under which their full self is available, and that condition happens to require an empty room, and there is nothing wrong with that except that the world was not designed with them in mind and has been making them feel guilty about it ever since - Silicon Canals

Society often mislabels the need for solitude as a deficiency, while those who recharge alone are more emotionally stable and focused.

Before You Share Your Body, Ask: Do They Know You?

Physical intimacy often occurs before emotional intimacy, highlighting a paradox in relationships where vulnerability is avoided despite physical closeness.

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3 hours ago

Scientists say 7 days of meditation can rewire your brain

Seven days of meditation and mind-body techniques significantly altered brain function, immunity, and metabolism, resembling psychedelic experiences achieved naturally.

The people who are best at hiding unhappiness aren't the stoic ones or the quiet ones - they're the ones who became so skilled at giving everyone around them exactly enough warmth to never be looked at too closely - Silicon Canals

People often hide their struggles behind a facade of warmth, leading to loneliness despite appearing thriving.

Is Too Much Information Fueling Your Anxiety?

Anxiety disorders have increased significantly, likely due to technology's impact on information overload and intolerance of uncertainty.

Psychology says the most emotionally strong people aren't the ones who never fall apart - they're the ones who fall apart privately, reassemble without fanfare, and never use their recovery as a reason for anyone else to feel guilty - Silicon Canals

Emotional strength involves acknowledging feelings and recovering privately, not denying vulnerability or pretending to be unbreakable.

Fighting Your Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors Is Why You're Stuck

Struggling against BFRBs empowers them; releasing the struggle allows for self-compassion and engagement in meaningful activities.

What I Know About You Based on How Many of Your Friends Are Becoming Therapists

Many people are pursuing therapy careers, reflecting a broader existential crisis and changing values in society.

When Therapy Doesn't Work

Therapy can lead to negative experiences, with clients reporting issues such as therapists' misbehavior and perceived incompetence.

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2 hours ago

What I Know About You Based on How Many of Your Friends Are Becoming Therapists

Many people are pursuing therapy careers, reflecting a broader existential crisis and changing values in society.

When Therapy Doesn't Work

Therapy can lead to negative experiences, with clients reporting issues such as therapists' misbehavior and perceived incompetence.

Research suggests that self-compassion after failure - not self-criticism - is what predicts whether someone tries again, which means being hard on yourself isn't discipline, it's the thing that ends it - Silicon Canals

Self-compassion, not self-criticism, fosters resilience and encourages individuals to recover and try again after failure.

Psychology says the people who look back at the end of their lives with the least regret aren't the ones who made the fewest mistakes - they're the ones who were most fully present for the life they were actually living, who didn't spend it waiting for a better version to begin, who loved the people in front of them rather than the idea of people, and who understood, early enough to act on it, that this was always the whole thing and there was never going to be another one - Silicon Canals

Presence, not perfection, leads to a life without regret at the end.

fromIndependent

7 hours ago

Living with agoraphobia: 'At my worst, I couldn't step outside my front door - I felt trapped'

Karina Mongan, 22, from Dublin, battles severe agoraphobia, which has previously left her housebound, and is determined to overcome it again.

23 hours ago

2 Reasons You Keep Breaking Promises to Yourself

Promises to others are more likely to be kept due to social expectations and the potential impact on relationships.

Psychology says people who constantly research self-improvement but never start aren't lazy - they've confused the feeling of learning with the feeling of changing - Silicon Canals

Learning about self-improvement can create a false sense of progress without actual change in behavior.

17 hours ago

The Quiet Pain of Growing Up With a Workaholic Parent

Growing up with a workaholic parent can lead to emotional struggles in adulthood, including intimacy issues and internalized distress.

Psychology suggests the most reliable sign that someone had a difficult childhood isn't what they tell you about it - it's how startled they look when you are simply kind to them without a reason, as though kindness without a transaction attached is something the body recognizes as unusual before the mind has finished deciding what to do with it - Silicon Canals

Kindness can trigger confusion in those with a history of trauma due to learned survival responses from past experiences.

Psychology says the most important life lesson isn't learning to make better decisions - it's learning to live peacefully with the ones you can't undo - Silicon Canals

Irreversible choices shape our lives and learning to coexist with them is crucial for mental well-being.

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I spent most of my twenties believing that needing less than other people was a strength. It took a decade of watching people who actually asked for things get them to realize I hadn't transcended need, I had just gotten so good at preemptive refusal that nobody ever had the chance to say yes - Silicon Canals

Avoidant attachment can prevent meaningful connections by valuing self-sufficiency over emotional engagement, leading to a life of preemptive refusal.

What You Should Know About Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria

RSD is a reaction to perceived criticism, particularly in individuals with ADHD, leading to immediate emotional responses like rage or depression.

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Psychology suggests people who were never taken seriously as children grow into adults who either compulsively over-explain or go completely silent - and both responses are the same wound wearing different clothes - Silicon Canals

Over-explaining often stems from trauma and anxiety, leading to chronic justification of one's presence in conversations.

Mental Time Travel Is Our Ticket for a Healthier Society

Short-term thinking can lead to regrets; mental time travel enhances decision-making and benefits organizations through Future Design.

23 hours ago

Is Searching for Memories of Childhood Trauma Helpful?

Understanding suffering through trauma is appealing but can distract from the need for compassion and treatment regardless of its cause.

How to Get Chummy With Your Discomfort

Regulating emotions and reactions is essential for managing life's challenges effectively.

Managing New Online Compulsive Behaviors and Addictions

Addictive behaviors have become prevalent due to the accessibility of technology, impacting individuals' lives and relationships.

Finding Calm Amid the Chaos of Modern Life

Heightened anxiety among Americans can be managed by grounding in values and setting clear boundaries.

From Coping to Compulsion: Stress, Alcohol, and the Brain

Alcohol disrupts brain systems that help manage stress and decision-making, potentially leading to relapse in alcohol use disorder.

Nobody teaches children how to know their own worth - we teach them to perform, to achieve, and to behave, and then wonder why so many adults reach fifty still measuring themselves against someone else's ruler - Silicon Canals

Self-worth is inherent and not based on achievements or external validation.

Psychology says people who want to change their lives but never start aren't lazy - they're waiting for a feeling of readiness that behavioral science confirms almost never arrives on its own - Silicon Canals

Feeling ready to act is often a byproduct of taking action, not a prerequisite.

Start Strong But Never Finish? 4 Causes and 4 Solutions

Starting strong and quitting is common due to tedium, poor planning, and discouragement; recognizing patterns and seeking support can help overcome this.

Psychology says people who want to change their lives but never start aren't lazy - they're waiting for a feeling of readiness that behavioral science confirms almost never arrives on its own - Silicon Canals

Feeling ready to act is often a byproduct of taking action, not a prerequisite.

Start Strong But Never Finish? 4 Causes and 4 Solutions

Starting strong and quitting is common due to tedium, poor planning, and discouragement; recognizing patterns and seeking support can help overcome this.

When the Body Heals: Recovery From Relational Stress

Emotional stressors can lead to chronic stress, affecting immunity and increasing autoimmune disease risk, but healing can occur after relational stress ends.

The hardest thing about being the calm one in a family is that your steadiness becomes load-bearing. Everyone leans on it, nobody asks what holds it up, and the day you finally crack, people don't comfort you. They panic. Because your collapse threatens the architecture, and the architecture was always more important than you were. - Silicon Canals

The calm family member often bears the burden of emotional labor, managing others' feelings while suppressing their own.

How Are You? There's a Good Chance You Might Not Even Know

Emotional awareness and proactive self-management are essential for breaking outdated behavioral patterns.

Psychology says people who mellow out as they get older aren't the ones who suffered less - they're the ones who decided, at some point and without always knowing they were deciding, that the suffering was going to make them more open rather than less, and that decision, remade daily in small ways that nobody notices, is the entire difference - Silicon Canals

Emotional responses to life's challenges can change over time, leading to greater peace and stability despite ongoing difficulties.

Psychology says the reason older people stop caring isn't emotional withdrawal - it's that they've finally learned to distinguish between what actually matters and what they were only caring about out of social obligation - Silicon Canals

Older individuals prioritize emotional connections over superficial relationships as they age, focusing on what truly matters in their lives.

Not everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals

Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.

Psychology says people who reply to messages within seconds aren't just efficient - they've built their sense of safety around being reachable, because somewhere in their past, being slow to respond had consequences - Silicon Canals

Instant responses to messages often stem from a psychological need to mitigate perceived threats rather than mere efficiency.

This Theory Explains Why Neurodivergents Are Burning Out

Neurodivergent individuals experience higher burnout rates, necessitating accommodations to balance job demands and resources.

Psychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals

Adapting to others' needs in childhood can lead to feeling disconnected and lost in adulthood.

You know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals

Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.

Dangerous Social Trends Do Not Advance Your Potential

You have control over your own thoughts and actions, but not over others' choices or behaviors.

Psychology says adults who struggle with procrastination aren't avoiding the task - they're avoiding the version of themselves who might fail at it - Silicon Canals

Procrastination often stems from a fear of failure rather than laziness or poor time management.

All Out Anxiety

Anxiety disorders affect 11% of children in the USA, impacting daily functioning and often leading to overestimation of danger.

The Emotional Cost of Masking Anxiety in Our Daily Life

Hiding anxiety through competence leads to exhaustion, loneliness, and limits genuine connection.

All Out Anxiety

Anxiety disorders affect 11% of children in the USA, impacting daily functioning and often leading to overestimation of danger.

The Emotional Cost of Masking Anxiety in Our Daily Life

Hiding anxiety through competence leads to exhaustion, loneliness, and limits genuine connection.

Psychology says the loneliest people in life aren't the ones nobody likes - they're the kind, helpful people everyone appreciates but nobody thinks to check on because they seem so self-sufficient - Silicon Canals

Highly capable, helpful individuals often feel lonely because their strength creates an illusion that they do not need support.

Why a Loved One Might Not Engage in Mental Health Treatment

Treatment engagement improves when it aligns with a person's life goals and identity.

Psychology says people who apologize constantly without realizing it are more damaged than they appear - because they internalize blame and absorb conflict, a survival response from childhood, which never switches off even when they're safe - Silicon Canals

Excessive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences of mistreatment and can lead to chronic self-blame in adulthood.

The Pitfalls of Being a People-Pleaser

Voicing opinions is essential; people-pleasing can lead to neglecting personal needs and preferences.

The Destructive Illusion of Perfectionism

Perfectionism in weddings creates emotional pressure and detracts from the joy of celebrating love and connection.

People who were labeled 'too sensitive' often became adults who read rooms before anyone speaks, and the difference between those two things is about 20 years of misunderstanding - Silicon Canals

Sensitivity can evolve from a perceived weakness into a valuable skill for understanding emotional dynamics in various situations.

Caring for the Part of You That Wants to Die

Suicide ideation affects 15.6% of U.S. adults, with significant risk factors including mental disorders, trauma, and social circumstances.

The Negativity Bias Impacts Everything in Our Lives

Humans are evolutionarily predisposed to focus on negativity for survival, but this can lead to harmful cognitive patterns.

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When It Feels Safer to Expect the Worst

Expecting the worst as a protective strategy keeps people stuck in threat-anticipation mode, narrowing possibilities, while hope expands potential by enabling goal pursuit and forward movement.

The Negativity Bias Impacts Everything in Our Lives

Humans are evolutionarily predisposed to focus on negativity for survival, but this can lead to harmful cognitive patterns.

2 weeks ago

When It Feels Safer to Expect the Worst

Expecting the worst as a protective strategy keeps people stuck in threat-anticipation mode, narrowing possibilities, while hope expands potential by enabling goal pursuit and forward movement.

You Don't Have to Think or Feel Positive for Good Mental Health

Labeling thoughts and emotions as positive or negative creates false associations with goodness and badness, hindering genuine emotional regulation and mental health.

How to Stop Taking Things Personally When You Have ADHD

ADHD can intensify the tendency to take things personally due to emotional processing and past experiences.

Mental health

You're in Medical School, So You Can't Have ADHD. Wrong!

High-achieving adults with ADHD face stigma and dismissal of their struggles due to misconceptions about intelligence and ADHD.

How to Stop Taking Things Personally When You Have ADHD

ADHD can intensify the tendency to take things personally due to emotional processing and past experiences.

You're in Medical School, So You Can't Have ADHD. Wrong!

High-achieving adults with ADHD face stigma and dismissal of their struggles due to misconceptions about intelligence and ADHD.

3 Signs You're Carrying Someone Else's Anxiety

Empathy can lead to emotional overload for highly empathic individuals, causing them to absorb and internalize others' emotions.

Emotion Beliefs and Well-being

Beliefs about managing emotions significantly impact individual well-being and emotional struggles.

3 weeks ago

How Beliefs About Depression Can Harm

Beliefs about depression's nature significantly impact treatment outcomes, with biological explanations potentially hindering recovery through reduced agency and pessimism.

3 weeks ago

When Feeling Good Feels Wrong

Dampening minimizes positive emotions through automatic negative thoughts, and specific dampening patterns relate distinctly to different depressive symptoms rather than depression as a whole.

4 weeks ago

Why Mental Health Language Is Everywhere Now

Mental health terminology has migrated from clinical settings into everyday conversation, reducing stigma and increasing awareness, but clinical meanings shift in common speech, requiring precision for effective care and public discourse.

The Deception of Depression

Depression is insidious. For people suffering from depression, joy is elusive. Depression is not only a general feeling of sadness or being down and out. It is a serious condition and needs attention. People suffering from depression cannot just get over it and move on. They need support, healing, and to discover the epicenter of their pain.

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When a Diagnosis Becomes Your Identity

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How to Stop Your Diagnosis From Defining You

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When a Diagnosis Becomes Your Identity

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How to Stop Your Diagnosis From Defining You

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When it comes to mental health labels, we need to tread lightly | Letters

Social inequality and hardship drive much mental ill-being; cautious, neurodiversity-informed therapeutic approaches and careful use of diagnostic labels can aid mentalisation and prevention.

People With Mental Illness Are Too Easily 'Othered'

Anyone who is under psychiatric care, or loves someone who is, may want to read the book The Devil's Castle: Nazi Eugenics, Euthanasia, and How Psychiatry's Troubled History Reverberates Today, by Susanne Paola Antonetta. If you care about history, particularly the history of eugenics, you may be interested as well. The book may offer us more respect for the mind, for consciousness, and its diversity.

Psychology

Living Well With Psychosis: Is It Possible?

Recovery-oriented cognitive therapy combines CBT principles with recovery-focused goals to help people with psychosis regain hope, pursue meaningful life goals, and improve functioning.