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Nine Lessons on My Path From Engagement to Leadership

Curiosity is foundational in the arts, as demonstrated by the Menil Collection's exhibition, which transformed a gallery into an education room through public programs.

Arts

7 hours ago

I'm 66 and I spent forty years being extremely good at my job and last spring I realized I had optimized my entire existence for the approval of people I didn't particularly like - Silicon Canals

Professional dedication can sometimes mask a deeper need for approval from others, leading to personal sacrifices and a loss of self-identity.

3 hours ago

Before You Share Your Body, Ask: Do They Know You?

Physical intimacy often occurs before emotional intimacy, highlighting a paradox in relationships where vulnerability is avoided despite physical closeness.

5 hours ago

Nobody teaches children how to know their own worth - we teach them to perform, to achieve, and to behave, and then wonder why so many adults reach fifty still measuring themselves against someone else's ruler - Silicon Canals

Self-worth is inherent and not based on achievements or external validation.

I'm 37 and the friendships in my life that have lasted are the ones where we stopped pretending - stopped curating what we showed each other, stopped performing the version of our lives that made sense on paper - and what replaced the pretending is the best thing I have built in the last decade - Silicon Canals

Authentic friendships emerge when individuals drop their facades and share their true struggles with each other.

Mindfulness

11 hours ago

Psychology says people who constantly research self-improvement but never start aren't lazy - they've confused the feeling of learning with the feeling of changing - Silicon Canals

Learning about self-improvement can create a false sense of progress without actual change in behavior.

Tech industry

Goodbye, middle managers. Hello, 'player-coaches' and 'org leads.'

Meta and Block are redefining managerial roles to embrace AI, with Meta introducing 'org leads' and Block using 'player-coaches'.

Fundraising

How giving starts progress and leadership scales it

Volatility and accountability are transforming philanthropy, requiring leadership to drive impactful change.

Business

Your CEO gives you the ick. Now what?

Emily's perception of her CEO's integrity is compromised after discovering his affair, affecting her confidence in promoting company values.

What to do after a life-defining mistake

The only thing worse than making a mistake is keeping it bottled up inside. Learning from the mistakes of others could help you embark on the healing journey of sharing and working through a mistake of your own, with someone you trust.

Books

Bootstrapping

Clear Job Responsibilities Helps You Grow Faster - Here's How

Deliberate governance design is essential as companies grow to avoid confusion and inefficiency.

Agile

fromMedium

Best Way to Onboard Team To Claude Code

Onboarding a team to Claude Code enhances efficiency in design and development tasks, optimizing its use for prototyping and code reviews.

Women in technology

It's not just the pay gap. This disparity also holds working women back

Women face a hidden time gap due to unpaid labor at home, impacting their career advancement opportunities.

Productivity

Many productivity programs solve the wrong problem. This is what leaders should do instead

Organizations face work design problems rather than productivity issues, leading to temporary solutions that fail to address underlying conflicts in problem-solving approaches.

Parenting

fromScary Mommy

Is Your Kid's Friend A Good Influence? Experts Share 6 Green Flags

Positive friendships build confidence and happiness in children, providing essential support throughout their development.

Higher education

Should You Serve on the Board of Your Alma Mater?

Higher education is essential for the U.S. economy and requires significant institutional change to adapt to current challenges.

Remote teams

fromInfoQ

How to Handle Trusts and Psychological Safety When Scaling Organizations

Trust must be built team by team; it cannot be replicated as organizations scale.

Growth hacking

The people who look most successful on the outside often have no idea what they're doing - they just learned early that confidence and competence look identical from a distance - Silicon Canals

The gap between perceived success and actual competence is significant, often leading to overconfidence in those with limited knowledge.

Writing

fromSocial Media Examiner

The unexpected childhood activity that predicted my career path

A childhood fascination with weddings evolved into a career in wedding planning, driven by a desire to streamline chaotic logistics.

Online marketing

LinkedIn Is Rewriting the Rules of Visibility : Social Media Examiner

LinkedIn content is increasingly being indexed by AI tools, impacting lead generation and engagement strategies.

fromWarpweftandway

Upcoming Collaborative Learning Events

The first event is a roundtable on "Zhuangzi: Fate, Desires, Transformation" on April 6th at 9:00am Beijing time.

Philosophy

Graphic design

fromItsnicethat

in 1 week

"You may need to step down in order to segue"

A degree is not necessary to become a designer; understanding fundamentals and tools is essential.

I was laid off twice from the same company. The second time was a gut punch but taught me not to take cuts personally.

When the CEO held a virtual town hall in 2020 and said there needed to be layoffs, I knew I would be one of the first to go because I served zero purpose at that point.

Marketing

Science

fromNature

Daily briefing: Women's academic careers are knocked by parenthood much more than men's

Childcare responsibilities significantly hinder women's academic careers compared to men's, impacting job opportunities and publication rates.

3 hours ago

Leveraging Failure And Feedback For Rapid Adaptive Learning Growth

Learning from failure leads to faster skill acquisition and better retention in corporate training.

9 things people who command respect at work do that have nothing to do with their title or seniority - Silicon Canals

Respect at work is earned through listening and accountability, not through titles or positions.

Not everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals

Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.

I'm 34 and have always struggled to maintain close friendships - and the most uncomfortable thing I have ever admitted to myself is that I have been the one who made them hard to maintain, not through cruelty or carelessness but through a consistent and barely conscious tendency to keep just enough distance that nobody could ever get close enough to disappoint me - Silicon Canals

Sabotaging friendships by maintaining surface-level connections prevents deeper relationships and emotional intimacy.

How to Cultivate Adult Friendships

Negative beliefs about rejection hinder relationship building, while consistent interactions and practicing social skills foster connections and reduce anxiety.

The hardest friendships to maintain aren't the ones with conflict. They're the ones where both people are growing but in different directions, and neither person is wrong, and there's no argument to have, just a slow widening that nobody caused and nobody can fix. - Silicon Canals

Friendships often end due to gradual emotional distance rather than specific events, highlighting the importance of recognizing blameless drift.

Are Your Friends Ideal?

Friendships reflect valued qualities, but rarely align perfectly with ideals, especially for those with higher Dark Triad traits.

I'm 34 and have always struggled to maintain close friendships - and the most uncomfortable thing I have ever admitted to myself is that I have been the one who made them hard to maintain, not through cruelty or carelessness but through a consistent and barely conscious tendency to keep just enough distance that nobody could ever get close enough to disappoint me - Silicon Canals

Sabotaging friendships by maintaining surface-level connections prevents deeper relationships and emotional intimacy.

How to Cultivate Adult Friendships

Negative beliefs about rejection hinder relationship building, while consistent interactions and practicing social skills foster connections and reduce anxiety.

The hardest friendships to maintain aren't the ones with conflict. They're the ones where both people are growing but in different directions, and neither person is wrong, and there's no argument to have, just a slow widening that nobody caused and nobody can fix. - Silicon Canals

Friendships often end due to gradual emotional distance rather than specific events, highlighting the importance of recognizing blameless drift.

Are Your Friends Ideal?

Friendships reflect valued qualities, but rarely align perfectly with ideals, especially for those with higher Dark Triad traits.

Start Strong But Never Finish? 4 Causes and 4 Solutions

Starting strong and quitting is common due to tedium, poor planning, and discouragement; recognizing patterns and seeking support can help overcome this.

#mentorship

Real estate

fromwww.housingwire.com

How mentorship, not recruiting alone, builds strong loan officers

Mentorship is essential for developing reliable loan officers, as it provides real-time learning and judgment skills that recruiting alone cannot offer.

fromBig Think

Venture

How to be a great mentor in business and life

Higher education

The Mentor I Didn't Know I Needed at 60 - And Why Every Leader Needs One

Careers

I've Been Promised a Promotion for Five Years. It's Finally Happening, But There's One Big Problem.

Real estate

fromwww.housingwire.com

How mentorship, not recruiting alone, builds strong loan officers

Mentorship is essential for developing reliable loan officers, as it provides real-time learning and judgment skills that recruiting alone cannot offer.

fromBig Think

Venture

How to be a great mentor in business and life

Higher education

The Mentor I Didn't Know I Needed at 60 - And Why Every Leader Needs One

Careers

I've Been Promised a Promotion for Five Years. It's Finally Happening, But There's One Big Problem.

How to Treat Your Successes Like Renewable Resources

Success can create pressure and lead to misaligned goals for entrepreneurs, making them feel obligated rather than fulfilled.

Productivity

How (and why) to give your team time to think

Teams are optimized for activity over creativity, leading to a lack of innovative breakthroughs.

Mindfulness

I'm 37 and I realized I wasn't actually a good person the day my wife said "you're kind to strangers and cruel to the people closest to you" - and the worst part wasn't the accusation, it was that I couldn't argue because I'd been using up all my patience on people who didn't matter and coming home empty - Silicon Canals

Kindness should be abundant at home, not rationed for public interactions, to foster authentic connections with loved ones.

Higher education

Being a Late Career Professor

Late-career academics can play diverse and productive roles, challenging the notion of them as 'dead wood' in academia.

Growth hacking

The 3-Step Talent Audit That Keeps Your Leadership Team Aligned and Performing

Treat talent as capital to enhance team performance and strategic alignment.

Continuous Learning Cultures: What High Performing Organizations Do Differently

Organizations must adopt a continuous learning culture to keep pace with rapid changes in technology and evolving job roles.

How to Help Someone Have an Empathy Makeover

Empathy can be developed through structured reflection and practice, enhancing mental health and relationship dynamics.

Some people don't fear failure. They fear succeeding and then being expected to sustain it, because the version of them that achieved it was running on adrenaline and desperation, and the person who shows up on Monday is someone quieter who doesn't know how to replicate what the emergency produced. - Silicon Canals

The fear of success stems from the pressure to replicate high performance, not from a desire to avoid good outcomes.

fromInside Higher Ed | Higher Education News, Events and Jobs

Attrition and Career Ladders

AI displacement may lead to more conversations about job loss and career ladder challenges for newcomers.

I Stopped Fixing Problems and Built a Team That Solves Them Using a Three-Question Rule

Shifting from solving to questioning fosters team ownership and accelerates growth.

Yes, it's possible to lead without dominating. Here's how

Modern leadership requires balancing authority with openness, fostering shared ownership while delivering results, and avoiding the pitfalls of dominance.

Higher education

Why Great Leaders Build Other People's Legacies First - And How It Strengthens Your Own Impact

Bootstrapping

I Stopped Fixing Problems and Built a Team That Solves Them Using a Three-Question Rule

Shifting from solving to questioning fosters team ownership and accelerates growth.

Yes, it's possible to lead without dominating. Here's how

Modern leadership requires balancing authority with openness, fostering shared ownership while delivering results, and avoiding the pitfalls of dominance.

Higher education

Why Great Leaders Build Other People's Legacies First - And How It Strengthens Your Own Impact

more#leadership

Partnership on the Spiritual Path

Devon Hase states, 'People are trying desperately to fix, optimize, or escape their way out of relationship difficulty - and suffering more for the effort. Social media has made this worse! We're surrounded by images of perfect partnerships while quietly drowning in our own ordinary struggles.' This highlights the pressure couples feel in the age of social media.

Mindfulness

How "Supercommunicators" Make Conversations Work

There are three conversation types: practical, emotional, and social, with emotional intelligence playing a key role in effective communication.

I Told My Friend Some Private Things About My Wife. Now I'm in Big Trouble.

Maintaining long-term friendships can be challenging when past grievances affect perceptions in a marriage.

What Is Lifelong Learning? Definition, Key Principles, And Examples Explained

Lifelong learning is essential for personal and professional growth in a rapidly changing world.

fromDear Media

How to Re-Enter the Workforce After a Career Break

You have more to offer than you think; focus on your strengths and take action in your job search.

Why Making Friends as an Adult With ADHD Can Feel So Hard

Adults with ADHD often find forming genuine friendships challenging due to neurological factors affecting attention and emotional intensity.

Women in technology

How to Be Seen for the Work You Actually Want to Be Doing

Opportunities depend on strategic visibility, ensuring work is seen and valued, rather than solely on consistent performance and effort.

What Are Young People's Most Important Life Goals?

Life History Theory emphasizes the tradeoffs individuals make in allocating energy to survival, growth, and reproduction, highlighting the competitive nature of energy acquisition.

Psychology

When Your Partner Doesn't Share Your Spiritual Path

Partners need common values and autonomy, while exploring codependency mindfully.

My New Boss Has Some Unfortunate Corporate Mannerisms. I'm Having an Involuntary Reaction to It.

Corporate-speak can create barriers in communication, leading to feelings of condescension and stress in workplace relationships.

Teaching Executives to Shed Trauma Responses

Stress and burnout are increasing in the workforce, exacerbated by past trauma affecting employee behavior and productivity.

Growth hacking

fromBig Think

How to build a manager development program from scratch

Darktrace built a scalable manager development program training 75% of global managers across 20 cohorts in under two years using a three-person team and a four-tier curriculum framework.

17 ideas on coaching new managers

Not every employee should move to management; coaching individual contributors is essential for their growth and success.

Marketing

3 weeks ago

19 ways to approach networking

Personal networking drives business growth and leadership development through genuine relationships, idea validation, talent recruitment, and learning from experienced peers.

Interpersonal Learning Explained For Instructional Designers: Definition, Characteristics, And Workplace Applications

Interpersonal learning is essential for modern organizations, emphasizing collaboration and knowledge sharing through interaction among individuals.

There's a specific kind of loyalty that keeps people in jobs, cities, and friendships years after the reason they stayed has disappeared. It's not inertia. It's that leaving would require admitting the time already spent wasn't building toward something, and that admission costs more than staying another year. - Silicon Canals

People remain in unfulfilling situations due to the fear of admitting past investments were unproductive, not because of passivity or fear of change.

I'm Going to Face an Inevitable Question at Job Interviews. The Answer Will Cost Me.

Addressing job loss due to performance issues requires honesty and focus on future opportunities.

When Executive Presence Backfires

Executive presence is essential for senior leaders, characterized by confidence and decisiveness, influencing career advancement and performance evaluations.

Higher education

fromTODAY.com

3 weeks ago

Most College Kids Skip This 1 Simple Habit. An Expert Says It Can Help Land a Dream Job

Building meaningful relationships with professors, advisers, and mentors during college is more important for career success than grades and resumes alone.

#career-development

fromInfoQ

Careers

The Principal Engineer's Path: Skills, Strategies, and Lessons Learned

5 Career Myths Standing Between You and Your Next Level

Nonlinear careers foster adaptable skillsets and personal growth more effectively than traditional career paths.

Marketing

Weave Mentorship into the Fabric of Your Organization

fromInfoQ

The Principal Engineer's Path: Skills, Strategies, and Lessons Learned

Careers are non-linear journeys requiring adaptability, influence, and support, not just technical expertise, to reach leadership roles like principal engineer.

5 Career Myths Standing Between You and Your Next Level

Nonlinear careers foster adaptable skillsets and personal growth more effectively than traditional career paths.

Marketing

Weave Mentorship into the Fabric of Your Organization

more#career-development

Your Team Doesn't Need a 'Work Family' - It Needs This System That Holds Up When It Counts

Teams struggle with clarity, not effort; accountability erodes when support blurs lines between family and business.

Leaders Should Stop Suppressing and Start Signaling Emotions

Emotional intelligence is a critical skill for leaders, requiring real-time emotional regulation rather than suppression.

Why Great Employees Still Fail Inside the Wrong Strategy

Culture drives behavior under pressure, influencing differentiation through shared conviction and adaptive thinking.

3 ways to take the 'work' out of networking

Make it easy for your network to help you by reclaiming control of your job search.

Careers

One Way to Make Networking Much Easier

3 ways to take the 'work' out of networking

Make it easy for your network to help you by reclaiming control of your job search.

Careers

One Way to Make Networking Much Easier

How to Create Your "Unicorn Career"

Create Your Unicorn Career for joy, meaning, and financial success, even in uncertain times.

Made a mistake at work? Here's how to fix it in three easy steps

To successfully repair after a mistake, you need to acknowledge and name the mistake, validate the other person's feelings and viewpoint, and create a plan for the specific actions you will take to prevent this mistake from occurring again.

Careers

Ditch the Elevator Pitch. Focus on Corridors of Conversation

Elevator pitches often hinder meaningful connections; engaging in two-way conversations fosters better professional relationships.

Want a promotion? Ask yourself these three questions

Timing and readiness are crucial for successfully pursuing a promotion.

The 5 most important work relationships you should prioritize for career growth besides your boss

Career advancement relies on a network of relationships, not just on a single boss's support.

fromwww.theguardian.com

Careers

Want a better job and a pay rise? Eleven ways to progress at work and avoid a dry promotion'

Want a promotion? Ask yourself these three questions

Timing and readiness are crucial for successfully pursuing a promotion.

The 5 most important work relationships you should prioritize for career growth besides your boss

Career advancement relies on a network of relationships, not just on a single boss's support.

fromwww.theguardian.com

Careers

Want a better job and a pay rise? Eleven ways to progress at work and avoid a dry promotion'

more#career-advancement

Education

Peer Learning: What It Is And Why It Works

Peer learning engages employees to learn from each other through structured, intentional knowledge sharing to improve performance, skills, and organizational learning.

Women

Your Leadership Identity: Who You Are Becoming at Work in 2026

Align inner leadership identity with evolved role by shifting from hands-on doer to strategic, visible leader who owns authority and leads differently.

How leaders and managers can befriend their inner critic and get ahead at work

Befriending your inner critic can lead to better decision-making and improved leadership skills.

How to grow at work when your manager won't give you feedback

Senior leaders receive less feedback than early-career employees due to authority bias and organizational hierarchy, requiring proactive strategies to solicit advice and create psychological safety.

fromItsnicethat

"There's an appetite to learn more, know more and do more"

I believe we've yet to fix the challenge around silos, but I have seen a lot of people being unafraid to start again and find their new potential, whether that's in a new workplace, a new country, or even a completely new sector. There's an appetite to learn more, know more, and do more, and honestly I love that. I think the bravery is also in the ability to share.

Remote teams

3 weeks ago

The 4 most reliable ways to build confidence at work

Confidence directly impacts career success, salary, and job satisfaction, yet most people struggle with self-doubt despite achieving success.

fromhbr.org

When You've Outgrown Your Relationship with a Trusted Advisor

Leaders cultivate a small circle of trusted advisors—former bosses, investors, mentors, peers, and family—whose advice shapes decisions and provides stability during uncertainty.

Don't Underestimate the Value of Professional Friendships

Workplace emotional distance is outdated; rising employee isolation and loneliness significantly harm productivity, engagement, retention, and contribute to nearly one million premature deaths annually.

Is it time to update your career goals? (And if so, how?)

Establish clear professional goals as a North Star for career decisions, then review them annually as your understanding of work and yourself evolves.

fromForbes

You've Been Promoted, Now What? 5 Secrets To Gain Trust In 90 Days

Prioritize building trust over asserting authority when starting a new management role to improve team performance and prevent early mistakes.

How to Develop Professional Contacts Into Relationships

Great relationships form by asking open-ended questions about topics the other person enjoys, like professional goals and personal passions, rather than routine greetings.

fromForbes

5 Small Actions That Quietly Increase Your Promotion Odds In Q1

Many professionals focus on big projects and headline achievements, but research shows that soft skills and visibility strongly influence promotions. LinkedIn data reveals that employees who combine hard and soft skills get promoted about 8% faster than those who focus only on technical abilities, and skills like communication, teamwork and problem solving are linked to promotions up to 11% faster. Regularly updating and showcasing your skills is also tied to faster advancement.

Careers

fromZDNET

Ready to be a manager? 5 ways to prove you deserve the job

"I always wanted this job -- I worked towards it," he said. "If you want to climb the ladder, you've got to try things that are outside your comfort zone, which I certainly have. That means I've made mistakes along the way."

Careers

fromBusiness Insider