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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours ago

Psychology says the loneliest people in life aren't the ones nobody likes - they're the kind, helpful people everyone appreciates but nobody thinks to check on because they seem so self-sufficient - Silicon Canals

Highly capable, helpful individuals often feel lonely because their strength creates an illusion that they do not need support.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours ago

Children raised in the 1960s and 70s developed their resilience the same way muscle develops under resistance - not by being protected from the load but by being required to carry it, repeatedly, without assistance, until the carrying became the unremarkable default rather than the exceptional achievement - Silicon Canals

Independence and resilience were fostered in children of the '60s and '70s through unstructured play and learning from failure.
#hypocrisy
#kindness
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 37 and I realized I wasn't actually a good person the day my wife said "you're kind to strangers and cruel to the people closest to you" - and the worst part wasn't the accusation, it was that I couldn't argue because I'd been using up all my patience on people who didn't matter and coming home empty - Silicon Canals

Kindness should be abundant at home, not rationed for public interactions, to foster authentic connections with loved ones.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

People who turned out genuinely kind despite a tough childhood didn't learn kindness - they absorbed its absence so completely that its presence became the one thing they couldn't withhold from anyone who needed it, not as a decision, but as the only response available to a person formed the way they were formed - Silicon Canals

Kindness often stems from experiencing adversity, leading to deep empathy rather than being solely a product of a nurturing environment.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 37 and I realized I wasn't actually a good person the day my wife said "you're kind to strangers and cruel to the people closest to you" - and the worst part wasn't the accusation, it was that I couldn't argue because I'd been using up all my patience on people who didn't matter and coming home empty - Silicon Canals

Kindness should be abundant at home, not rationed for public interactions, to foster authentic connections with loved ones.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

People who turned out genuinely kind despite a tough childhood didn't learn kindness - they absorbed its absence so completely that its presence became the one thing they couldn't withhold from anyone who needed it, not as a decision, but as the only response available to a person formed the way they were formed - Silicon Canals

Kindness often stems from experiencing adversity, leading to deep empathy rather than being solely a product of a nurturing environment.
World news
fromThe Nation
4 days ago

What Are Your Obligations When Your Country Is the Villain?

The U.S. executed a devastating missile strike on a school in Iran, killing many children and raising moral questions about its actions.
#empathy
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago
Psychology

Psychology says people who ask 'how can I learn to be more empathetic' already possess the one trait that matters most - self-awareness - while people who claim they're already empathetic rarely are - Silicon Canals

Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says people who ask 'how can I learn to be more empathetic' already possess the one trait that matters most - self-awareness - while people who claim they're already empathetic rarely are - Silicon Canals

Self-awareness is essential for developing genuine empathy and emotional intelligence.
fromPhilosophynow
3 days ago

Life Sacrifice

The widespread practice of showing the Eid Al Adha slaughtering to children can desensitize them to violence, as many families take pride in this tradition.
Philosophy
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Narrative Play and Resilience in Early Female Development

Myth-inspired dolls enhance children's resilience and identity through imaginative play and storytelling, offering deeper psychological engagement than traditional toys.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the most self-centered people in any room aren't the ones who talk loudest - they're the ones who respond to every story you tell with a story about themselves, so automatically and so consistently that they've long since stopped noticing they do it - Silicon Canals

Conversational narcissism involves shifting focus in conversations back to oneself, often without awareness, hindering genuine connection.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Behavioral scientists found that the people who become less likeable with age but more respected are operating on a principle most people understand intellectually but can't execute emotionally - that respect and likeability are often inversely correlated after 60, because likeability requires you to shrink and respect requires you to hold your shape, and most people spent their first six decades shrinking and their last two deciding that holding their shape matters more than fitting into someone else's fra

Standing up for oneself can lead to decreased likability, but it is a necessary part of emotional maturity and self-respect.
Education
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

I asked a group of people in their 70s what they'd un-learn if they could and every single one named something they were taught before age 10 - not a fact, not a skill, a belief about themselves that was installed by a specific person in a specific room, and the fact that it's still running 60 years later without their permission is the thing that made half the room go quiet - Silicon Canals

Beliefs installed in childhood by authority figures persist into adulthood, shaping decisions and self-perception for decades without conscious awareness or permission.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

A Simple Way to "Be the Change You Wish to See in the World"

Exuding compassion can transform our fractured culture and foster understanding among differing perspectives.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Why We Don't Change-Even When We Know What's Wrong

Insight alone is insufficient for change; real experiences are necessary to challenge ingrained beliefs and expectations.
Philosophy
fromApaonline
5 days ago

Let Kids Be Kids? The Ethics of Maximizing Children's Talents

Children are increasingly pushed to maximize their athletic talent from a very young age, often at the expense of social and academic development.
#child-development
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and my daughter just said sorry for laughing too loud and I recognized the exact moment a child starts editing herself because I remember the day I did it too, and I remember who taught me. - Silicon Canals

Children often self-regulate their joy, but this can lead to unnecessary apologies for natural expressions of happiness.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and my daughter just said sorry for laughing too loud and I recognized the exact moment a child starts editing herself because I remember the day I did it too, and I remember who taught me. - Silicon Canals

Children often self-regulate their joy, but this can lead to unnecessary apologies for natural expressions of happiness.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Misreading Success: Life's Most Underrated Virtue

Humility is an underrated virtue that can significantly influence success, contrasting with overconfidence seen in figures like Jesse Livermore.
US news
fromThe Washington Post
4 weeks ago

Most Americans think their fellow citizens are bad people, survey says

53% of American adults view their fellow citizens as morally or ethically bad, making the U.S. unique among 25 surveyed countries where majorities hold positive views of their countrymen.
#introspection
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Introspection Begets Empathy

Introspection and empathy are essential psychological processes that enable effective navigation of human life and meaningful social interactions.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Introspection Begets Empathy

Introspection and empathy are essential psychological processes that enable effective navigation of human life and meaningful social interactions.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

Therapists as Moral Educators

Therapy shapes our attention and relationships, emphasizing ethical living through habits of care and responsibility rather than mere rule-following.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and I just realized that every major decision I've made in my adult life was designed to avoid disappointing people who stopped thinking about me the moment I left the room - and that's a lesson most people learn too late to rebuild - Silicon Canals

People often overestimate how much others notice and think about them, leading to unnecessary anxiety about others' judgments.
Philosophy
fromBig Think
1 week ago

The surprising origin of modern compassion

The teachings of Jesus embedded the impulse to help strangers in need into the Western moral conscience.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

I Feel Comfortable Allowing My Daughter to Do a Common Childhood Errand. My Wife Says It's Unthinkably Dangerous.

Parents must balance legitimate safety concerns with children's need for independence and age-appropriate autonomy in low-risk situations.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Holding Inspired Authority

Effective authority fosters growth through listening, modeling behaviors, and celebrating achievements, avoiding both abuse and abdication.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Ideas We Aren't Ready to Understand-Yet

Collect ideas you don't understand but sense are important, as they trigger deeper cognitive processing and eventual insight through incubation.
fromemptywheel
1 month ago

Morality is a Long Game - emptywheel

He took it, managed to decipher my terrible penmanship, and wrote me a reply. I didn't ask him weighty questions about politics, I think I probably asked his favorite color. People's favorite color was a major interest for me when I was eleven. He wrote some questions for me, (perhaps also my favorite color, which was blue.) and soon we were in a conversation, the kind of sweet conversation where a thoughtful grown-up pays attention to a child.
US politics
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Why Respect Matters More Than We Realize

Respect in relationships requires honoring your partner's boundaries and separate identity; without it, relationships deteriorate regardless of love present.
Miscellaneous
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Personality You Develop Is the Personality You Seek

Personality changes throughout adulthood through niche-picking, where individuals choose environments that reinforce their traits, challenging the notion that personalities are fixed or purely inherited.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Beyond Suspicion: Why We Doubt Greatness-and What It Says About Us

Mental mastery and team trust are crucial for success in cycling, transcending past performance and skepticism.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

When "Perfectionism" Isn't Just Perfectionism: A Cultural Lens

Perfectionism in children may stem from cultural loyalty and anxiety about family expectations, not solely from internal pressures.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

What We Can Learn From Religion About Values That Do Not Expire

We are living through one of the most disorienting periods in recorded history. The AI race is accelerating toward ever faster, ever more sophisticated automation and optimization. Agentic AI systems are moving from research labs into workplaces, healthcare, and governance. Geopolitical tensions are restructuring alliances faster than institutions can adapt. And planetary systems are signaling, with increasing urgency, that our current trajectory is unsustainable. Amid all this, it is dangerously easy to lose sight of a foundational question: What are we actually optimizing for?
Artificial intelligence
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

May Confusion Dawn As Wisdom

Confusion can be a pathway to wisdom and understanding rather than an obstacle to overcome, as demonstrated through Zen Buddhist practice and contemporary art.
#altruism
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Politics of Looking Away

Like us, you may feel paralyzed in the face of the relentless images of violence we see every day. Suffering children, military occupations, the devastated neighborhoods, the cries of parents mourning their dead-these scenes haunt us. Whether it is happening in Palestine or Minneapolis, we are witnesses to suffering, and that witnessing takes a heavy toll. Clearly, the devastating situations in the West Bank and Gaza and in Minneapolis differ
Social justice
Philosophy
fromThe Conversation
3 weeks ago

I was teaching virtue and knowledge while lying on the side

Self-deception enables vice through small permissions that gradually erode moral boundaries, as demonstrated through infidelity rationalized during relationship separation.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Shaming Someone Isn't the Same as Holding Them Accountable

Shaming asserts superiority, silences dissent, and often backfires, perpetuating social control and distorting moral understanding.
Education
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

How to Reach a Superior Level of Curiosity

Higher-level curiosity seeks unknown unknowns through open-ended exploration and first-principles thinking, allowing insights and utility to emerge without fixed goals.
Environment
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Psychology says people who pick up litter even when no one is watching usually display these 7 traits that are becoming increasingly rare - Silicon Canals

Some individuals perform small acts of care without recognition, driven by intrinsic motivation linked to greater psychological well-being and life satisfaction.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

The Secret to Ending All Wars Is the Truth We Already Know

All major wisdom traditions independently teach the same core truth: love your neighbor as yourself, making this the fundamental target of human existence and the antidote to war.
Philosophy
fromThe Conversation
3 weeks ago

Making good choices when life gets messy - practical wisdom relies on human judgment, not rules

Practical wisdom involves making sound judgments in complex situations where rules are unclear and competing values conflict.
Music
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Seeing Ourselves Through Younger Eyes

Feeling younger than one’s chronological age, often triggered by music and dancing, associates with better mental health and predicts improved future physical health.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Why Normal Isn't What You Think It Is

Normality is a statistical description of variation, not an ideal or moral standard; diagnoses use population data to identify typical ranges.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

How and Why We Cross Lines We Never Thought We Would

Gradual adaptation in relationships can imperceptibly shift personal boundaries, causing people to cross lines they once believed inviolable through a series of small, seemingly harmless adjustments.
Philosophy
fromBig Think
1 month ago

The philosophy of indoctrination and how to fix it

Indoctrination occurs when beliefs are sealed off from questioning through prepackaged instructions that frame scrutiny as irrational or immoral, preventing rational evaluation of counterevidence.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

How to Break Free From Expectations and Live Authentically

A child's self-worth and life choices become distorted when built on a parent's fabricated achievements and false expectations.
US politics
fromAdvocate.com
2 months ago

Renee Good and the cost of being good

Renee Nicole Good, a kind poet and mother, was shot and killed by ICE agents while intervening compassionately for others; officials later mischaracterized her actions.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Can Brain Stimulation Make Us More Altruistic?

Synchronizing brain activity between frontal and parietal regions through electrical stimulation increases altruistic choices, particularly when personal costs are high.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Challenging Transition from Adolescence to Adulthood

Young adults aged 18 to 25 face rising mental health challenges driven by social media, climate anxiety, changing help-seeking views, and limited access to care.
fromFast Company
1 month ago

How leaders can make ethical choices when the rules fall short

Research finds that relying on regulations to determine your policies and procedures can result in ethical blindspots, or situations where people might think if there is not a rule for something, that it's permissible. After years of shifting towards values and culture-based compliance, leadership might be heading the opposite direction.
Philosophy
US politics
fromemptywheel
1 month ago

Morality Is The Issue - emptywheel

The Trump Regime's actions violate shared fundamental morality; resisting these evils is a collective moral obligation.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Personality Isn't as Stable as We Thought

Personality traits are descriptive patterns of thinking and behavior that naturally evolve over time and can be intentionally reshaped through practicing new thoughts and behaviors.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks ago

10 quiet traits of a genuinely good man, according to psychology - Silicon Canals

Genuinely good men demonstrate quiet integrity through listening, showing up without being asked, and doing the right thing without seeking recognition or reward.
#virtue-ethics
fromThe Conversation
2 months ago
Philosophy

Is being virtuous good for you - or just people around you? A study suggests traits like compassion may support your own well-being

fromThe Conversation
2 months ago
Philosophy

Is being virtuous good for you - or just people around you? A study suggests traits like compassion may support your own well-being

Parenting
fromScary Mommy
2 months ago

I'd Rather My Child Say Ass Than Be An Asshole

Parents tolerate occasional profanity at home while prioritizing discouraging language that harms others and teaching context-appropriate speech.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Rethinking Emotion: It May Not Be What You Think

Emotions are predictions the brain constructs based on internal signals and past experiences, not merely reactions to external events.
fromThe Conversation
1 month ago

Meekness isn't weakness - once considered positive, it's one of the 'undersung virtues' that deserve defense today

What do you envision when you think of meekness? You probably see a mousy doormat, someone sheepishly acquiescing to the will of the stronger. When Jesus says, "Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth," you might think that those wimps will hand it over without a whimper or word of objection to stronger, more ambitious people. The philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche called meekness "craven baseness."
Philosophy
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Reimaging Psychology or Revitalizing the Humanities?

The psychological humanities integrates psychological science with art and literature to create a more comprehensive understanding of human behavior and improved mental health care practices.
Philosophy
fromThe Conversation
1 month ago

I'm a philosopher who tries to see the best in others - but I know there are limits

Interpreting others charitably—seeing them as protagonists who do their best—promotes understanding, cooperation, and productive learning across differences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Research suggests that people who constantly feel behind in life are usually holding themselves to a timeline they inherited rather than one they chose - Silicon Canals

Feeling behind in life stems from internalized social clocks inherited from culture and peers, not from actual failure or objective measures of success.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Why You Can't Rely on Your Own Morality Alone

What does it mean to say that you are restrained solely by your own morality, by your own mind? The conscience is often described as an inner voice telling us what to do when others may be opposed. A moral compass is that which distinguishes between right and wrong, good and bad. Our conscience, our moral compass, sets the groundwork for doing the right thing.
Philosophy
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Psychology says people who take the stairs instead of the elevator when nobody is watching display these 6 traits that reveal how they were raised - Silicon Canals

Choosing stairs over an empty elevator reflects ingrained discipline and trait self-control instilled by parents who emphasized consistency and follow-through.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

I'm finding it difficult to live up to my morals. How do I know when it's OK to compromise?

I'm finding it difficult living up to my morals where is the line between compromising a little, versus becoming complicit in what I don't agree with? I'm one of those people who believes we can each take a role in solving big problems, and that we should try to make things better where we can. For this reason, I've ended up working in public service and try to reduce how much meat I eat. I'm vegetarian 60% of the time, which is not perfect, but I believe doing something is better than doing nothing.
Philosophy
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

What We Get Wrong About Human Dignity

Dignity is inherent and unconditional; making dignity conditional, earned, or reduced to niceness or status destroys true human worth and respect.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Myth of Progress

Relentless pursuit of progress can shrink life, prioritizing efficiency and achievements over health, relationships, and meaningful depth—becoming a poisoned gift.
Philosophy
fromPhilosophynow
1 month ago

Philosophers on Children

Great philosophers across history have written varied, often surprising insights about babies and children, addressing innocence, education, political roles, and child development.
Philosophy
fromApaonline
2 months ago

Solidarity, Self-Deprivation, and Selflessness

Some people intentionally forgo goods to share others' suffering, producing morally praiseworthy displays yet increasing aggregate harm when the sacrifice does not improve others' circumstances.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Why Children Lie

Children begin lying as early as age two; frequent lying often reflects developing perspective-taking, executive function, and cognitive sophistication rather than pure moral failure.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Mystery of Evil

It is easy to be good in a good world. What is difficult is to be good in an evil world, where the egoism of others and the egoism built into the institutions of society attack us and threaten to annihilate us. Under such conditions, the only possible reaction would seem to be to oppose evil with evil, egoism with egoism, hate with hate; in short, to annihilate the aggressor with his own weapons.
Philosophy
fromApaonline
2 months ago

Teaching Normative and Applied Ethics: How, and to What End? Stephen Scher

Two senior physicians who had read our first book, Rethinking Health Care Ethics (2018), noted that in their clinical work, they inescapably address many ethical problems, large and small, on the spot, in the course of providing patient care. They also observed, however, that the resident bioethicist cautioned, when presented with one of their typical problems, that it would take him days or even weeks to reach a proper solution.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Power of Beliefs: How to Stop Surrendering Your Agency

When Serena Williams strode onto the Wimbledon grass, her legendary power was never in question. Her serve was crushing. Her backhand was unstoppable. But she wouldn't go to the net. She'd see a short ball, the kind that screams "approach," and she would hesitate to volley and miss the point. Serena was not playing at her full potential because of a story in her head.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Heroism Isn't Either Real or Imagined-It's Both

Are heroes real, or are they simply stories we tell ourselves? Either heroes are objectively real-brave people who perform extraordinary acts of courage and sacrifice-or heroism is merely in our heads, a social construction shaped by culture, media, and wishful thinking. This debate shows up everywhere: in classrooms, in popular culture, and even among scholars who study heroism for a living.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

If Justice Doesn't Exist, Then Numbers Don't Either

A drawn circle is at least something physical. You can see it, touch it, erase it. The skeptic can still say, "Circles are grounded in physical reality. Justice is different; it's just an idea in your head." So let's talk about the number two. Point to it. Not two apples, not two fingers, not a numeral on a page-that's just a symbol.
Philosophy
fromAeon
1 month ago

The Japanese ethics of 'ningen' dethrones the Western self | Aeon Essays

In Rinrigaku, Watsuji argues that ethics is the study of what it means for us to be human. How we think about the nature of human existence, he says, dictates the ways in which we understand our ethical values. Hence, he criticises Western philosophical conceptions of the modern subject, arguing that the Western rendering of subjectivity is both problematic and foreign
Philosophy
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

5 Traits of Wisdom

Wisdom is a domain-general, metacognitive capacity grounded in epistemological understanding and critical thinking, distinct from experience-based expertise, and includes awareness of one’s knowledge limits.
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