#self-contradiction

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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 hours ago

The version of you that exists in your best friend's memory and the version that exists in your own are so different that if they met, they might not recognize each other. And the distance between those two versions is usually the exact shape of whatever you refuse to believe about yourself. - Silicon Canals

Self-perception often conflicts with how others see us, revealing deeper issues of self-deception and internalized beliefs about who we are allowed to be.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
21 hours ago

What's the Difference Between Wisdom and Critical Thinking?

Wisdom and critical thinking are distinct, with wisdom arising from experience and offering long-term insights, while critical thinking can foster wisdom over time.
#communication
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago
Startup companies

7 phrases you should always avoid if you want to sound intelligent, according to psychology - Silicon Canals

fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago
Startup companies

7 phrases you should always avoid if you want to sound intelligent, according to psychology - Silicon Canals

Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

The older I get the more I notice that my body remembers arguments my mind has forgiven. A tone of voice, a specific pause before someone speaks, a door closing at a certain speed. Forgiveness turned out to be a cognitive event that the nervous system never agreed to. - Silicon Canals

Forgiveness involves both conscious decisions and unconscious bodily responses, highlighting the complexity of emotional healing beyond mere intention.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals

Pretending to be okay while feeling empty can trap individuals in a cycle of unhappiness.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
17 hours ago

Is Anger Always Justifiable?

Emotional reasoning can distort reality, leading perfectionists to justify anger based solely on its existence, potentially harming relationships.
Growth hacking
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

The people who look most successful on the outside often have no idea what they're doing - they just learned early that confidence and competence look identical from a distance - Silicon Canals

The gap between perceived success and actual competence is significant, often leading to overconfidence in those with limited knowledge.
#hypocrisy
#doubt
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Research suggests that high intelligence doesn't protect against bad decisions - it makes people better at constructing convincing justifications for the bad decisions they were already going to make - Silicon Canals

Higher intelligence can lead to greater polarization rather than alignment on contested facts.
fromPhilosophynow
1 week ago

The Mirror & the Flame

Attar's 'Conference of the Birds' follows a flock of souls seeking the Simorgh, symbolizing the Divine, through seven valleys, ultimately revealing the Divine as a reflection of the self in relation with others.
Philosophy
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Most people don't realize that the dishonest people in their lives rarely lie about facts - they lie about their intentions, and that specific distinction is why you keep feeling confused rather than simply hurt - Silicon Canals

Intention lies involve sharing true facts with hidden motives, making them difficult to detect.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Research suggests that self-compassion after failure - not self-criticism - is what predicts whether someone tries again, which means being hard on yourself isn't discipline, it's the thing that ends it - Silicon Canals

Self-compassion, not self-criticism, fosters resilience and encourages individuals to recover and try again after failure.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says people who crave both complete freedom and deep companionship aren't confused - they're experiencing the central tension of the human condition, and the people who resolve it aren't the ones who choose a side but the ones who stop treating it like a choice - Silicon Canals

The autonomy-connection paradox highlights the human need for both independence and intimacy in relationships.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Some people don't cancel plans because they're flaky. They committed when one version of their energy was available and the person who wakes up that morning is operating on a completely different reserves system. The commitment was real. The capacity isn't. - Silicon Canals

Cancelled plans reveal a flawed assumption about self-consistency and commitment, suggesting a need for a new understanding of social expectations.
National Basketball Association
fromDefector
4 weeks ago

There's Always A Way To Deny The Undeniable | Defector

Bam Adebayo scored 83 points in a game against the Washington Wizards, setting a record with 43 free throws, though future skepticism may emerge due to limited broadcast availability and the implausibility of the performance.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

People Don't Just Update Beliefs, They Test Them

Understanding psychological change requires recognizing the role of control and mastery in actively pursuing change despite familiar limitations.
Science
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Unbearable Fear of Psi: When Skepticism Shifts to Denial

Scientific investigation of extraordinary human experiences encounters emotional resistance and dismissal that exceeds standard methodological critique, reflecting deeper discomfort with certain research topics rather than legitimate scientific skepticism.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Self-taught people often don't realize it, but psychology says the way they solve problems is fundamentally different from most people - Silicon Canals

Self-taught individuals develop unique cognitive patterns that enhance problem-solving through exploration and unfocused thinking.
Miscellaneous
fromFast Company
1 month ago

Are you using 'authenticity' as an excuse not to grow? Here are some signs that you are

Leaders often misuse authenticity as an excuse to avoid necessary development and adaptation required for increased responsibility and complexity.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

New Research: Some People Really Do Fall for Corporate BS

Employees impressed by corporate gibberish perform poorly in decision-making and confuse it with business savvy.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

What Is the 'Critical' in Critical Thinking?

Critical thinking is the ability to analyze, evaluate, and make judgments for decision-making, not merely critiquing or criticizing ideas.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Why We Ignore Our Own Advice

People easily give advice about difficult decisions to others but struggle to follow their own wisdom when facing personal risk and discomfort.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Why Some Scientific Debates Never End

Complex questions involving values cannot be definitively settled by evidence alone, as different priorities lead experts to emphasize different findings from the same data.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Beyond Suspicion: Why We Doubt Greatness-and What It Says About Us

Mental mastery and team trust are crucial for success in cycling, transcending past performance and skepticism.
Miscellaneous
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Authenticity Myth

Authenticity and intentional personal change are compatible; accepting current patterns while working to shift unhelpful traits enables genuine growth without self-rejection.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

The Secret to Ending All Wars Is the Truth We Already Know

All major wisdom traditions independently teach the same core truth: love your neighbor as yourself, making this the fundamental target of human existence and the antidote to war.
#self-talk
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

Research suggests that people who talk to themselves out loud while problem-solving aren't eccentric - they're accessing a cognitive loop that processes information 30% more efficiently than internal dialogue, and the habit that most people suppress in public is the exact mechanism their brain would choose if social judgement weren't part of the equation - Silicon Canals

Talking to yourself out loud is an effective cognitive tool that sharpens focus, accelerates problem-solving, and improves performance on complex tasks, contrary to social stigma.
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago
Psychology

Research suggests that people who talk to themselves aren't losing their minds, they're using the most effective cognitive tool the brain has for problem-solving - Silicon Canals

Speaking to yourself aloud enhances cognitive performance by structuring thought and directing attention more efficiently than silent thinking.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

Research suggests that people who talk to themselves out loud while problem-solving aren't eccentric - they're accessing a cognitive loop that processes information 30% more efficiently than internal dialogue, and the habit that most people suppress in public is the exact mechanism their brain would choose if social judgement weren't part of the equation - Silicon Canals

Talking to yourself out loud is an effective cognitive tool that sharpens focus, accelerates problem-solving, and improves performance on complex tasks, contrary to social stigma.
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago
Psychology

Research suggests that people who talk to themselves aren't losing their minds, they're using the most effective cognitive tool the brain has for problem-solving - Silicon Canals

Philosophy
fromThe Conversation
4 weeks ago

Making good choices when life gets messy - practical wisdom relies on human judgment, not rules

Practical wisdom involves making sound judgments in complex situations where rules are unclear and competing values conflict.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Cognitive Dissonance and Journalism

Cognitive dissonance theory is supported by thousands of empirical studies across diverse situations, contrary to a New Yorker article's dismissal based on limited historical evidence.
Higher education
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Why "Do Your Own Research" Is Bad Advice

Research requires at least a rigorous literature review; reading to inform oneself is educating, not full research, which demands specific review skills and evaluation.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

When Feeling Good Feels Wrong

Dampening minimizes positive emotions through automatic negative thoughts, and specific dampening patterns relate distinctly to different depressive symptoms rather than depression as a whole.
US politics
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

When Everyone Agrees, Nobody Sees

A multicultural military harnesses immigrant experiences and diverse perspectives to strengthen national defense and improve collective decision-making.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Why Speaking the Truth Feels Like a Threat to Your Survival

Deep fear of speaking truth stems from a learned belief that disapproval threatens survival because being unloved will leave needs unmet.
Education
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Is It Time to Think About Your Thinking?

Metacognition—the ability to think about and regulate one’s own thoughts—best predicts superior intelligence and supports learning, creativity, and problem solving, and can be developed.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Cave You Didn't Build

Plato's choice of this word is deliberate. He is not describing neutral carriers. He is describing people whose job is manufacturing a convincing reality for an audience that cannot see behind the curtain. Here is what matters clinically: the conjurers are not necessarily villains. They may be devoted parents, conscientious teachers, or well-meaning community leaders.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Deplatforming Your Inner Critic

At the beginning of the series, we learn of his dream to be the next Fred Astaire. With all of Fred's talent, Bob appears bereft of a quality repeatedly noted but never fleshed out, that thing that makes someone a star. Whether it's agreeableness, charisma, some combination, or something else altogether, Bob can't grab hold of what lies beyond himself. So, he's forever left settling-for Oscars, Tonys, and Golden Globes. In conjunction, they reflect back to him the person he'll never be.
Television
Public health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Why Critical Thinking Is the Most Important Skill in Your Life

Critical thinking protects health, enables breakthroughs by questioning assumptions, combats cognitive biases, and can be trained through source-checking and embracing being wrong.
US politics
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

A War of Narratives

Clear, simple narratives improve understanding; truth-focused, superior narratives are necessary to counter disinformation and avoid equating falsehoods with facts.
#gaslighting
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago
Psychology

8 phrases manipulators slip into casual conversation that make you question your own reality - Silicon Canals

fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago
Psychology

8 phrases manipulators slip into casual conversation that make you question your own reality - Silicon Canals

Philosophy
fromBig Think
1 month ago

The philosophy of indoctrination and how to fix it

Indoctrination occurs when beliefs are sealed off from questioning through prepackaged instructions that frame scrutiny as irrational or immoral, preventing rational evaluation of counterevidence.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

How and Why We Cross Lines We Never Thought We Would

Gradual adaptation in relationships can imperceptibly shift personal boundaries, causing people to cross lines they once believed inviolable through a series of small, seemingly harmless adjustments.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

When We Say 'I Don't Know Why I Did That'

A blank mind after destructive actions signals the psyche's protective barrier; 'I don't know' indicates unconscious material is too painful to access without sufficient safety.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

I spent twenty years trying to change my mother's mind about things she was factually incorrect about and one day I stopped - not because I gave up, but because I finally understood that her certainty was never actually about the facts - Silicon Canals

Deeply held beliefs resist correction because they serve emotional needs and identity protection, not because people lack access to facts.
Philosophy
fromBig Think
2 months ago

"Epistemic trespassing": Why brilliant people can say idiotic things

Experts can overreach beyond their expertise, making unreliable or harmful claims when they assume competence transfers across unrelated fields.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

A Commonsense Critique of A Priori Metaphysics

Claims that metaphysics, rather than science, is the necessary foundation for scientific knowledge are false and revive pre-Enlightenment mystic scholasticism.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

If Justice Doesn't Exist, Then Numbers Don't Either

A drawn circle is at least something physical. You can see it, touch it, erase it. The skeptic can still say, "Circles are grounded in physical reality. Justice is different; it's just an idea in your head." So let's talk about the number two. Point to it. Not two apples, not two fingers, not a numeral on a page-that's just a symbol.
Philosophy
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Psychology of Holding On to Beliefs

Beliefs tie to identity and belonging, resist direct challenge, and change slowly through emotionally safe relationships and education addressing emotion, meaning, and uncertainty.
fromFast Company
2 months ago

Why everything you think about yourself could be an illusion

For most of my life, I thought of myself as a fixed entity: This is me. These are my traits. This is who I am. I assumed I was essentially that same person who loved sugary cereal at age 8, fried chicken at 12, and tequila at 21, and who still loves those things now, even if my stomach disagrees. But this is an illusion. Neuroscience, physics, and Buddhism all agree: There is nothing fixed about us-not even close.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Don't Get Lost in Translation

Led Zeppelin warned us about the perils of misunderstood communications in relationships. Failing to translate what we are trying to say or do so that someone else gets it is the root of so many problems. But translation is a fantastic find when it goes right. Here are some things I've learned about translating meaning from a lifetime of speaking numerous languages, practicing a wide array of martial arts, and communicating science.
Philosophy
Psychology
fromMedium
4 years ago

Draw Little Conclusions, Not Big Ones

Avoid drawing broad conclusions from single negative events because overgeneralizing can lead to unnecessary, lasting losses and missed opportunities.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Introspection and Consciousness: The Illusionism Debate

In my previous post, I summarized my response to Christian de Weerd, who denied that a Darwinian approach to consciousness is even possible. I argued that consciousness science has unnecessarily insulated itself from the evolutionary tools that revolutionized our understanding of every other biological phenomenon, and that treating human consciousness as the paradigm case distorts our picture of consciousness as a natural phenomenon spanning millions of species across millions of years.
Philosophy
Philosophy
fromPhilosophynow
2 months ago

A Very Short History of Critical Thinking

Sophistry prioritizes winning and approval over truth, using deceptive, manipulative arguments that undermine ethics and honest critical thinking.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Are You Gaslighting Yourself?

DARVO tactics—deny, attack, reverse victim and offender—are used politically and turned inward, allowing individuals to excuse or obscure harm against themselves.
fromApaonline
2 months ago

Something Stupid Like Philosophy

They escaped persecution in the form of violent antisemitism and came to Canada with next to nothing. They built their lives from the ground up and understood, through lived experience, what the normalization of cruelty did to the human spirit, how quickly people can be swayed by the opinions of the day, and how easily one could forfeit the human capacity to stop and truly think about what one is doing.
Philosophy
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Embracing Intellectual Humility in Political Conversations

Intellectual humility recognizes knowledge limits, seeks other perspectives, and restrains certainty, tribalism, extremism, and contempt in political judgment.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Why 'Think Rationally' Isn't Always the Answer

In January 1986, NASA engineers knew the Space Shuttle Challenger's O-rings had never been tested in freezing temperatures. They recommended delaying the launch. Managers asked: Could the engineers prove it was unsafe? They couldn't-they could only say the system hadn't been designed for these conditions. Under pressure, the engineers withdrew their recommendation. The next morning, Challenger broke apart 73 seconds after launch, killing all seven astronauts.
Philosophy
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

Psychology says people who resent others' success are often avoiding these 7 truths about themselves - Silicon Canals

Or maybe you've found yourself picking apart why someone's success "isn't that impressive" when deep down, you know you're just feeling bitter about it? I've been there. More times than I'd like to admit. And after years of digging into the psychology behind human behavior and interviewing over 200 people about their professional journeys, I've discovered something fascinating: that resentment we feel toward others' success? It's rarely about them. It's almost always about the uncomfortable truths we're avoiding about ourselves.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

A Third Kind of Philosophy

Many philosophers strike me as like Polish apparatchiks in 1983-they turn up to work and do what they did yesterday just because they don't know what else to do, not because they seriously believe in the system they are maintaining. I think it's not been fully appreciated how much of a blow it is to the confidence of the field's youth that scientific ambitions are increasingly abandoned as untenable.
Philosophy
Psychology
fromFuturism
2 months ago

Researchers Just Discovered Something Extremely Unflattering About People Who Believe Conspiracy Theories

Low tolerance for ambiguity is strongly associated with endorsement of cover-up conspiracy beliefs, more than education, imagination, or demographic variables.
Philosophy
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

8 things people do trying to seem intellectual that actually make educated people cringe - Silicon Canals

Performative intellectualism—jargon, name-dropping, and overcomplication—undermines credibility; genuine intelligence communicates simply and uses precision only when necessary.
fromOpen Culture
1 month ago

Why Some People Think in Words, While Others Think in Pictures & Feelings

Take the sur­prise some have expressed in recent years upon find­ing out that the expres­sion to "pic­ture" some­thing in one's head isn't just a fig­ure of speech. You mean that peo­ple "pic­tur­ing an apple," say, haven't been just think­ing about an apple, but actu­al­ly see­ing one in their heads? The inabil­i­ty to do that has a name: aphan­ta­sia, from the Greek word phan­ta­sia, "image," and prefix - a, "with­out."
Psychology
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Why Skeptics Can't See the Evidence They Demand

Skepticism can become a defended belief that biases perception and evidence evaluation rather than remaining a neutral scientific stance.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Confirmation Bias and the Choices We Make

Confirmation bias leads people to interpret the same events differently, complicating truth-finding during misinformation while open-mindedness and better methods can improve accuracy.
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