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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
42 minutes ago

Nobody teaches children how to know their own worth - we teach them to perform, to achieve, and to behave, and then wonder why so many adults reach fifty still measuring themselves against someone else's ruler - Silicon Canals

Self-worth is inherent and not based on achievements or external validation.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
38 minutes ago

Coercive Control: How Predatory Parents Fracture Attachment

Coercive control weaponizes children against protective parents, causing deep psychological harm and undermining secure attachments essential for healthy development.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
13 hours ago

The people who are best at hiding unhappiness aren't the stoic ones or the quiet ones - they're the ones who became so skilled at giving everyone around them exactly enough warmth to never be looked at too closely - Silicon Canals

People often hide their struggles behind a facade of warmth, leading to loneliness despite appearing thriving.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours ago

Psychology says people who constantly research self-improvement but never start aren't lazy - they've confused the feeling of learning with the feeling of changing - Silicon Canals

Learning about self-improvement can create a false sense of progress without actual change in behavior.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Start Strong But Never Finish? 4 Causes and 4 Solutions

Starting strong and quitting is common due to tedium, poor planning, and discouragement; recognizing patterns and seeking support can help overcome this.
Startup companies
fromwww.businessinsider.com
5 hours ago

I founded Culture Pop in my 50s, but my youngest hires keep it relevant and fresh

Tom First founded Culture Pop, a probiotic soda brand, focusing on health-conscious consumers and achieving significant revenue growth in a competitive market.
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
2 hours ago

I'm 66 and I spent forty years being extremely good at my job and last spring I realized I had optimized my entire existence for the approval of people I didn't particularly like - Silicon Canals

Professional dedication can sometimes mask a deeper need for approval from others, leading to personal sacrifices and a loss of self-identity.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours ago

I'm 66 and the most important relationship of my adult life has been with solitude - not as a consolation for the company I didn't have, but as the place where I have always been most honest, most creative, and most recognizably myself, and I spent too many years being embarrassed about that before I understood it was simply how I was built - Silicon Canals

Solitude allows for self-discovery and personal reflection, free from societal expectations and external pressures.
Women
fromIndependent
1 day ago

Katriona O'Sullivan: My children would say that I love them, but I do not think they would describe me as nurturing - and I feel bad about that

54% of Irish respondents believe women are naturally better at childcare than men.
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Why Is Eradicating Adverse Childhood Experiences Critical?

Nearly 90 percent of suicide attempts among high school students are attributable to ACEs, as are 80 percent of adult suicides, translating to 109 suicides per day.
Public health
Fundraising
fromFast Company
2 days ago

How giving starts progress and leadership scales it

Volatility and accountability are transforming philanthropy, requiring leadership to drive impactful change.
fromLGBTQ Nation
3 days ago

Beloved children's singer melts hearts with message for trans kids: "You are a beautiful light" - LGBTQ Nation

I see you, and it makes me so happy to see you. There is such a disconnect between what we say America is about and what it is right now. True freedom is the freedom to be who we are, and it hurts my heart so much that in some parts of this country, it is unsafe for trans people to do that right now.
SF LGBT
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals

Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.
Philosophy
fromApaonline
6 days ago

Let Kids Be Kids? The Ethics of Maximizing Children's Talents

Children are increasingly pushed to maximize their athletic talent from a very young age, often at the expense of social and academic development.
NYC parents
fromBig Think
4 days ago

The quiet disappearance of the free-range childhood

Child protective services investigated a couple after their son rode his scooter to a nearby playground alone, leading to a finding of neglect.
Education
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Building Perseverance: How to Raise Children Who Stick with It

Children's lack of follow-through is often due to underdeveloped perseverance skills, not laziness or lack of intelligence.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
9 hours ago

People who clean before the cleaner arrives, apologize when someone bumps into them, and pre-explain before anyone has asked for a justification all grew up in homes where taking up space without earning it first was treated as an act of aggression. - Silicon Canals

Cleaning before the cleaner reflects a deeper issue of feeling unworthy of help without prior justification.
Parenting
fromFast Company
2 days ago

Parents: A valuable source of AI intelligence

AI-assisted parenting tools are being developed by parents who understand the real challenges of childcare.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours ago

Psychology says people who mellow out as they get older aren't the ones who suffered less - they're the ones who decided, at some point and without always knowing they were deciding, that the suffering was going to make them more open rather than less, and that decision, remade daily in small ways that nobody notices, is the entire difference - Silicon Canals

Emotional responses to life's challenges can change over time, leading to greater peace and stability despite ongoing difficulties.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
8 hours ago

There is a specific kind of couple that fights about dishes, laundry, and thermostat settings for fifteen years before one of them finally says the real sentence, which is: I need to know that you see what I do without me having to build a case for it every time. - Silicon Canals

Couples often argue about trivial matters like chores, but these disputes reflect deeper emotional needs and unresolved issues in the relationship.
#happiness
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and I spent four decades chasing the version of happiness I saw in other people's living rooms - and the day I stopped, I noticed I'd been happy in my own kitchen all along - Silicon Canals

Measuring happiness against others' lives leads to perpetual dissatisfaction and obscures personal contentment.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 73 and my husband asked me what makes me happy and I gave him the answer I thought he wanted to hear - our kids, our grandkids, our home - but the real answer is I genuinely don't know anymore because I've spent forty years editing my joy to fit other people's expectations - Silicon Canals

Editing joy to fit others' expectations can lead to losing sight of what truly makes one happy.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and I spent four decades chasing the version of happiness I saw in other people's living rooms - and the day I stopped, I noticed I'd been happy in my own kitchen all along - Silicon Canals

Measuring happiness against others' lives leads to perpetual dissatisfaction and obscures personal contentment.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 73 and my husband asked me what makes me happy and I gave him the answer I thought he wanted to hear - our kids, our grandkids, our home - but the real answer is I genuinely don't know anymore because I've spent forty years editing my joy to fit other people's expectations - Silicon Canals

Editing joy to fit others' expectations can lead to losing sight of what truly makes one happy.
more#happiness
#kindness
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm 37 and I realized I wasn't actually a good person the day my wife said "you're kind to strangers and cruel to the people closest to you" - and the worst part wasn't the accusation, it was that I couldn't argue because I'd been using up all my patience on people who didn't matter and coming home empty - Silicon Canals

Kindness should be abundant at home, not rationed for public interactions, to foster authentic connections with loved ones.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

People who turned out genuinely kind despite a tough childhood didn't learn kindness - they absorbed its absence so completely that its presence became the one thing they couldn't withhold from anyone who needed it, not as a decision, but as the only response available to a person formed the way they were formed - Silicon Canals

Kindness often stems from experiencing adversity, leading to deep empathy rather than being solely a product of a nurturing environment.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm 37 and I realized I wasn't actually a good person the day my wife said "you're kind to strangers and cruel to the people closest to you" - and the worst part wasn't the accusation, it was that I couldn't argue because I'd been using up all my patience on people who didn't matter and coming home empty - Silicon Canals

Kindness should be abundant at home, not rationed for public interactions, to foster authentic connections with loved ones.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

People who turned out genuinely kind despite a tough childhood didn't learn kindness - they absorbed its absence so completely that its presence became the one thing they couldn't withhold from anyone who needed it, not as a decision, but as the only response available to a person formed the way they were formed - Silicon Canals

Kindness often stems from experiencing adversity, leading to deep empathy rather than being solely a product of a nurturing environment.
more#kindness
Education
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

7 Words to Say When Your Child Shuts Down About School

Kids often shut down around schoolwork due to anxiety, and supportive communication can help them re-engage.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours ago

Psychology says the reason older people stop caring isn't emotional withdrawal - it's that they've finally learned to distinguish between what actually matters and what they were only caring about out of social obligation - Silicon Canals

Older individuals prioritize emotional connections over superficial relationships as they age, focusing on what truly matters in their lives.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Children raised in the 1960s and 70s developed their resilience the same way muscle develops under resistance - not by being protected from the load but by being required to carry it, repeatedly, without assistance, until the carrying became the unremarkable default rather than the exceptional achievement - Silicon Canals

Independence and resilience were fostered in children of the '60s and '70s through unstructured play and learning from failure.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a generation of men who were taught that providing was the same as loving. And there's a generation of their children who spent years in therapy learning that those aren't the same thing, only to reach an age where they finally understand that for their fathers, inside the architecture they were given, it was. - Silicon Canals

Emotional estrangement between fathers and children stems from generational differences in expressing love and vulnerability.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
20 hours ago

I'm 37 and the friendships in my life that have lasted are the ones where we stopped pretending - stopped curating what we showed each other, stopped performing the version of our lives that made sense on paper - and what replaced the pretending is the best thing I have built in the last decade - Silicon Canals

Authentic friendships emerge when individuals drop their facades and share their true struggles with each other.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
22 hours ago

Psychology suggests people who adopt their parents' bad traits as they get older aren't becoming their parents - they're reverting to the most deeply installed operating system they have, the one that was running before they were old enough to choose a different one, and stress, age, and the slow erosion of self-monitoring are simply the conditions under which it boots back up - Silicon Canals

Behavioral patterns from childhood can resurface under stress, revealing deep-rooted psychological templates formed from early experiences.
#parenting
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

My Daughter Made an Honest Mistake While Babysitting Her Cousins. My Sister Is Taking It Too Far.

Beatrice should take responsibility for her actions and communicate with her aunt about the incident.
fromSlate Magazine
22 hours ago
Parenting

My Wife's Sister Dropped Her 1-Year-Old Twins With Us Due to a Family Emergency. When She Texted Us an Update, I Was Floored.

Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and I recently told my son that I was proud of him for the first time in his adult life, and the look on his face told me everything about the cost of assuming that providing for someone communicates the same thing as telling them they matter - Silicon Canals

Verbal expressions of pride are crucial for emotional connection between parents and children.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals

Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
Parenting
fromDefector
3 days ago

Rejoice, Tired Parents! Defector Will Raise Your Children Now | Defector

Defector launches a parenting advice column called Minor Dilemmas to address various parenting challenges and questions.
Parenting
fromIndependent
4 days ago

My 10-year-old son watched porn at a friend's house - but I have no idea how to talk to him about it

Reactions to a child's discovery of pornography can influence their willingness to communicate openly.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

My Daughter Made an Honest Mistake While Babysitting Her Cousins. My Sister Is Taking It Too Far.

Beatrice should take responsibility for her actions and communicate with her aunt about the incident.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
22 hours ago

My Wife's Sister Dropped Her 1-Year-Old Twins With Us Due to a Family Emergency. When She Texted Us an Update, I Was Floored.

Renata's manipulative behavior has destroyed trust, justifying a refusal to provide future childcare.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and I recently told my son that I was proud of him for the first time in his adult life, and the look on his face told me everything about the cost of assuming that providing for someone communicates the same thing as telling them they matter - Silicon Canals

Verbal expressions of pride are crucial for emotional connection between parents and children.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals

Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
Parenting
fromDefector
3 days ago

Rejoice, Tired Parents! Defector Will Raise Your Children Now | Defector

Defector launches a parenting advice column called Minor Dilemmas to address various parenting challenges and questions.
Parenting
fromIndependent
4 days ago

My 10-year-old son watched porn at a friend's house - but I have no idea how to talk to him about it

Reactions to a child's discovery of pornography can influence their willingness to communicate openly.
more#parenting
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
20 hours ago

I'm 66 and I woke up last Thursday and realized I couldn't name a single thing I was looking forward to - not because nothing good was happening but because I'd trained myself to find meaning in being needed and nobody needs me anymore - Silicon Canals

Finding purpose in being needed can lead to a loss of personal desires and identity after retirement.
#communication
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours ago

Psychology says people who would always rather call than text aren't demanding more of your time - they're asking for the one thing that separates a real conversation from the performance of one, which is the sound of another person being alive on the other end, and that need is not inconvenient, it is human - Silicon Canals

Phone calls foster deeper connections than text messages, capturing nuances of emotion that typed words cannot convey.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
14 hours ago

Psychology says people who reply to messages within seconds aren't just efficient - they've built their sense of safety around being reachable, because somewhere in their past, being slow to respond had consequences - Silicon Canals

Instant responses to messages often stem from a psychological need to mitigate perceived threats rather than mere efficiency.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours ago

Psychology says people who would always rather call than text aren't demanding more of your time - they're asking for the one thing that separates a real conversation from the performance of one, which is the sound of another person being alive on the other end, and that need is not inconvenient, it is human - Silicon Canals

Phone calls foster deeper connections than text messages, capturing nuances of emotion that typed words cannot convey.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
14 hours ago

Psychology says people who reply to messages within seconds aren't just efficient - they've built their sense of safety around being reachable, because somewhere in their past, being slow to respond had consequences - Silicon Canals

Instant responses to messages often stem from a psychological need to mitigate perceived threats rather than mere efficiency.
more#communication
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Advice for Kids: "Don't Do Your Best, Just Do What You Can"

'Do what you can' reduces pressure and promotes self-care, while 'Do your best' can lead to self-criticism.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals

Adapting to others' needs in childhood can lead to feeling disconnected and lost in adulthood.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Two Signs You're Raising a Hyper-Sensitive Child

Parenting requires understanding and support for emotionally sensitive children who may react more intensely to situations than their peers.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
21 hours ago

When the Body Heals: Recovery From Relational Stress

Emotional stressors can lead to chronic stress, affecting immunity and increasing autoimmune disease risk, but healing can occur after relational stress ends.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
21 hours ago

Psychology says people who drop their friends as soon as they get into a new relationship aren't choosing love over friendship - they're revealing that the friendships were always filling a need the relationship now fills, and the difference between a friend and a placeholder is something most people only discover when the relationship arrives and the friends quietly disappear - Silicon Canals

Friendships often fade when one partner enters a romantic relationship, revealing the superficial nature of some connections.
Psychology
fromMail Online
1 hour ago

You really SHOULD laugh at your mistakes, study reveals embarrassed

Laughing at minor mistakes makes individuals appear more likeable and socially confident, while excessive embarrassment can be viewed negatively.
#child-development
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
2 days ago

Is Your Kid's Friend A Good Influence? Experts Share 6 Green Flags

Positive friendships build confidence and happiness in children, providing essential support throughout their development.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and my daughter just said sorry for laughing too loud and I recognized the exact moment a child starts editing herself because I remember the day I did it too, and I remember who taught me. - Silicon Canals

Children often self-regulate their joy, but this can lead to unnecessary apologies for natural expressions of happiness.
Parenting
Research indicates today's children are more empathetic and less narcissistic than previous generations, contradicting widespread public perception of declining youth mental health and resilience.
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
2 days ago

Is Your Kid's Friend A Good Influence? Experts Share 6 Green Flags

Positive friendships build confidence and happiness in children, providing essential support throughout their development.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 37 and my daughter just said sorry for laughing too loud and I recognized the exact moment a child starts editing herself because I remember the day I did it too, and I remember who taught me. - Silicon Canals

Children often self-regulate their joy, but this can lead to unnecessary apologies for natural expressions of happiness.
Parenting
Research indicates today's children are more empathetic and less narcissistic than previous generations, contradicting widespread public perception of declining youth mental health and resilience.
more#child-development
Mental health
fromIndependent
1 day ago

Asking for a friend: 'My son has just been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. My husband also got tested and has ADHD. How will all this affect our relationship?'

Navigating the challenges of neurodiversity in a family can be overwhelming, especially with multiple diagnoses affecting communication and relationships.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who grew up poor and became successful often can't fully enjoy it - not because they're ungrateful, but because some part of them never stopped waiting for it to disappear - Silicon Canals

Successful individuals often struggle with feelings of scarcity and anxiety about their financial stability, despite their achievements.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

I Told My Friend Some Private Things About My Wife. Now I'm in Big Trouble.

Maintaining long-term friendships can be challenging when past grievances affect perceptions in a marriage.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

You know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals

Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Children who were praised for being smart rather than for working hard often become adults who avoid challenges - not from laziness but from a deep fear of being found ordinary - Silicon Canals

Praising children for being 'smart' can hinder their growth mindset and willingness to take risks.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 days ago

I Don't Let Anyone I Date Meet My Parents. That's Not a Red Flag. I Have a Very Good Reason Why.

Some individuals avoid introducing partners to difficult family members to protect them from negative experiences.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

This Theory Explains Why Neurodivergents Are Burning Out

Neurodivergent individuals experience higher burnout rates, necessitating accommodations to balance job demands and resources.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Not everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals

Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
#emotional-neglect
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and I finally learned the hardest lesson isn't that people will disappoint you - it's that you'll disappoint yourself by pretending you don't need what you need until you forget what that even was - Silicon Canals

Neglecting emotional needs leads to a profound sense of loss and disconnection from oneself and others.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals

Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and I finally learned the hardest lesson isn't that people will disappoint you - it's that you'll disappoint yourself by pretending you don't need what you need until you forget what that even was - Silicon Canals

Neglecting emotional needs leads to a profound sense of loss and disconnection from oneself and others.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals

Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.
more#emotional-neglect
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

The Day I Realized My Son Wasn't Defiant, He Was Ashamed

Understanding a child's emotional state is crucial; shame can manifest as feelings of worthlessness, impacting behavior and communication.
#aging
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The most painful thing about watching a parent age isn't the physical decline. It's the moment you catch them deferring to you on a decision they would have made without hesitation ten years ago, and you both feel the transfer of authority that neither of you agreed to. - Silicon Canals

The real challenge of aging parents lies in the subtle shifts of authority and uncertainty in their decision-making.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
20 hours ago

Psychology says people who slowly become unpleasant to be around as they get older didn't develop new flaws - they lost the motivation to manage the old ones, and the management, it turns out, was doing considerably more work than anyone around them understood while it was still running - Silicon Canals

People don't become worse with age; they simply stop managing their flaws as their energy to do so diminishes.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The most painful thing about watching a parent age isn't the physical decline. It's the moment you catch them deferring to you on a decision they would have made without hesitation ten years ago, and you both feel the transfer of authority that neither of you agreed to. - Silicon Canals

The real challenge of aging parents lies in the subtle shifts of authority and uncertainty in their decision-making.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
20 hours ago

Psychology says people who slowly become unpleasant to be around as they get older didn't develop new flaws - they lost the motivation to manage the old ones, and the management, it turns out, was doing considerably more work than anyone around them understood while it was still running - Silicon Canals

People don't become worse with age; they simply stop managing their flaws as their energy to do so diminishes.
more#aging
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Most people don't realize that children who grow up without affection don't struggle with love as adults. They struggle with trusting it, because it never felt safe to depend on - Silicon Canals

Emotional unavailability stems from a lack of early affection, leading to difficulties in accepting love despite an inherent capacity for it.
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

What Are Young People's Most Important Life Goals?

Life History Theory emphasizes the tradeoffs individuals make in allocating energy to survival, growth, and reproduction, highlighting the competitive nature of energy acquisition.
Psychology
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

Mother, Clinician, Witness: Healing Communities

Violence against children impacts the entire community, necessitating protective programs and trauma-informed care for meaningful change.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Behavioral scientists found that the people who become less likeable with age but more respected are operating on a principle most people understand intellectually but can't execute emotionally - that respect and likeability are often inversely correlated after 60, because likeability requires you to shrink and respect requires you to hold your shape, and most people spent their first six decades shrinking and their last two deciding that holding their shape matters more than fitting into someone else's fra

Standing up for oneself can lead to decreased likability, but it is a necessary part of emotional maturity and self-respect.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

9 subtle behaviors that reveal someone grew up in a household where money was discussed in whispers, and why those behaviors persist long after financial security has arrived - Silicon Canals

Financial behaviors are shaped by early experiences and trauma, not just knowledge or information gaps about money.
#empathy
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

How to Help Someone Have an Empathy Makeover

Empathy can be developed through structured reflection and practice, enhancing mental health and relationship dynamics.
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago
Psychology

Psychology says people who ask 'how can I learn to be more empathetic' already possess the one trait that matters most - self-awareness - while people who claim they're already empathetic rarely are - Silicon Canals

Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

How to Help Someone Have an Empathy Makeover

Empathy can be developed through structured reflection and practice, enhancing mental health and relationship dynamics.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology says people who ask 'how can I learn to be more empathetic' already possess the one trait that matters most - self-awareness - while people who claim they're already empathetic rarely are - Silicon Canals

Self-awareness is essential for developing genuine empathy and emotional intelligence.
more#empathy
Parenting
fromhttps://scoop.upworthy.com
2 days ago

Mom shares her seven-year-old's heartbreaking drawing of her working - and it hits you right in the heart

A mother's emotional response to her son's drawing highlights the struggle of balancing work and family life during the pandemic.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

You can tell someone had a tough childhood if they apologize for taking up space - not in the dramatic way, but in the small daily way, the sorry before the question, the thank you after the ordinary kindness, the slight surprise every time someone is simply decent to them, as though decency was never something they learned to expect - Silicon Canals

Some individuals habitually apologize, reflecting deeper issues of self-worth and the learned behavior of minimizing their presence in social situations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the loneliest people in life aren't the ones nobody likes - they're the kind, helpful people everyone appreciates but nobody thinks to check on because they seem so self-sufficient - Silicon Canals

Highly capable, helpful individuals often feel lonely because their strength creates an illusion that they do not need support.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

6 Types of Leadership and Parenting Styles: What's Yours?

Leadership styles in work and parenting vary, with a balanced approach being the most effective for clear expectations and support.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

People who were labeled 'too sensitive' often became adults who read rooms before anyone speaks, and the difference between those two things is about 20 years of misunderstanding - Silicon Canals

Sensitivity can evolve from a perceived weakness into a valuable skill for understanding emotional dynamics in various situations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says people who apologize constantly without realizing it are more damaged than they appear - because they internalize blame and absorb conflict, a survival response from childhood, which never switches off even when they're safe - Silicon Canals

Excessive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences of mistreatment and can lead to chronic self-blame in adulthood.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Parental Burnout Is a Social Problem, Not a Personal Failure

Parental burnout has reached unprecedented levels, with over 40% of parents feeling exhausted and overwhelmed daily.
Parenting
fromLGBTQ Nation
5 days ago

Adoption is a beautiful way to build a family. But it's not one-size-fits-all. - LGBTQ Nation

Adoption has various paths, each with unique processes, costs, and timelines, requiring thorough understanding before proceeding.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Behavioral scientists found that the most emotionally intelligent people in a room are often the quietest, not because they have nothing to say but because they learned early that observation protects you in ways that speaking never did - Silicon Canals

Quiet individuals in professional settings often possess high emotional intelligence, using silence as a strategic tool for observation and understanding.
fromMail Online
6 days ago

Having children DOESN'T make you happy, study claims

'These results do not support our hypothesis that parenthood is positively associated with hedonic wellbeing (levels of positive emotions) and life satisfaction,' the researchers, from the University of Nicosia in Cyprus, wrote.
Parenting
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Why Behavior Change Alone Won't Fix Your Relationship

Behavioral therapy changes observable actions, while emotionally focused therapy emphasizes emotional engagement for lasting relational change.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

Why We Don't Change-Even When We Know What's Wrong

Insight alone is insufficient for change; real experiences are necessary to challenge ingrained beliefs and expectations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Not everyone who keeps a mental inventory of every favor they've done is keeping score. Some of them were raised in homes where reciprocity was the only reliable evidence that someone valued you. - Silicon Canals

Favor-tracking is a survival system for those raised in emotionally inconsistent households, not merely a manipulative behavior.
Parenting
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7 behavioral patterns people display when they were raised by a parent who loved them deeply but had no idea how to express it without criticism - Silicon Canals

Critical parents can love deeply yet struggle to express it without criticism, leading to complex emotional patterns in their children.
Psychology
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People who were told they were "too much" as children didn't become less. They became strategic, learning exactly how much of themselves each person could tolerate and rationing accordingly, and they've been doing the math in every room since. - Silicon Canals

Children learn to suppress emotions to fit in, becoming strategists in managing their feelings rather than simply toning down their expressions.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Why Normal Isn't What You Think It Is

Normality is a statistical description of variation, not an ideal or moral standard; diagnoses use population data to identify typical ranges.
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