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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
21 minutes agoThere's a specific kind of grief that belongs to people who outgrew their hometown but never fully arrived anywhere else. They're not homesick for the place. They're homesick for the version of themselves that didn't yet know the place was too small. - Silicon Canals
Returning to one's hometown reveals a paradox of searching for a lost self rather than a changed place.
#burnout
UX design
fromMedium
18 hours agoDesigners: We are perpetuating our own burnout problem
Design and research roles experience the highest burnout rates in tech, driven by external pressures and internal frameworks that may not support well-being.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
#happiness
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
3 days agoShake Off Winter Blues: Brain-Healthy Habits for This Spring
Tracking happiness too closely can reduce enjoyment; supporting gut health and replacing bad habits with healthier ones can enhance overall well-being.
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoRelationships
I'm 73 and my husband asked me what makes me happy and I gave him the answer I thought he wanted to hear - our kids, our grandkids, our home - but the real answer is I genuinely don't know anymore because I've spent forty years editing my joy to fit other people's expectations - Silicon Canals
Editing joy to fit others' expectations can lead to losing sight of what truly makes one happy.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm 66 and I spent four decades chasing the version of happiness I saw in other people's living rooms - and the day I stopped, I noticed I'd been happy in my own kitchen all along - Silicon Canals
Measuring happiness against others' lives leads to perpetual dissatisfaction and obscures personal contentment.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm 73 and my husband asked me what makes me happy and I gave him the answer I thought he wanted to hear - our kids, our grandkids, our home - but the real answer is I genuinely don't know anymore because I've spent forty years editing my joy to fit other people's expectations - Silicon Canals
Editing joy to fit others' expectations can lead to losing sight of what truly makes one happy.
#mental-health
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals
People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPeople who are quietly unhappy with life don't always look unhappy - they look tired, they look busy, they look like they're managing, and the managing is the performance and the performance is the problem and the problem is invisible to everyone who mistakes a well-maintained surface for evidence of what's underneath it - Silicon Canals
Quiet unhappiness manifests as chronic exhaustion and the performance of being okay, often disguised by busyness and emotional labor.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals
People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPeople who are quietly unhappy with life don't always look unhappy - they look tired, they look busy, they look like they're managing, and the managing is the performance and the performance is the problem and the problem is invisible to everyone who mistakes a well-maintained surface for evidence of what's underneath it - Silicon Canals
Quiet unhappiness manifests as chronic exhaustion and the performance of being okay, often disguised by busyness and emotional labor.
#retirement
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI retired at 62 with everything I thought I wanted and spent the first six months staring at my calendar realizing I had nothing to genuinely look forward to - not one single thing that made my chest feel light - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to an identity crisis and a lack of purpose after years of structured work.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThere's a version of retirement happiness that nobody puts in the brochures - it's not the traveling or the golf or the grandchildren visits, it's the first morning you wake up and realize you have absolutely no one to impress and the relief of that lands in your chest like something you've been waiting your whole life to feel - Silicon Canals
Retirement brings a profound realization of freedom from the need to impress others.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours agoI'm 66 and I woke up last Thursday and realized I couldn't name a single thing I was looking forward to - not because nothing good was happening but because I'd trained myself to find meaning in being needed and nobody needs me anymore - Silicon Canals
Finding purpose in being needed can lead to a loss of personal desires and identity after retirement.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI retired at 64 with a generous pension and a calendar full of plans - and by month three I was staring at my phone realizing I had nobody to call just to talk, not because I needed something - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to unexpected loneliness and a realization of the lack of genuine friendships built outside of work.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI'm 66 and the loneliest I've ever felt wasn't after my children left or my friends moved away - it was the morning I woke up and realized I had nothing that needed me, nothing that depended on my showing up, and the whole day stretched ahead like a road with no destination - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can stem from feeling unnecessary, not just from being alone.
Productivity
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says the people who dread Monday morning the most aren't ungrateful for their jobs. They've simply built a weekend self that feels truer than the one they perform from nine to five, and surrendering it weekly takes a toll nobody talks about - Silicon Canals
Monday dread is linked to the struggle of transitioning from a more authentic self to a work persona, not job dissatisfaction.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the most important life lesson isn't learning to make better decisions - it's learning to live peacefully with the ones you can't undo - Silicon Canals
Irreversible choices shape our lives and learning to coexist with them is crucial for mental well-being.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 34 and I just realized I've been performing competence at work for seven years because somewhere along the way I confused being impressive with being safe, and the exhaustion I thought was burnout was actually the weight of never once letting anyone see me learn something for the first time. - Silicon Canals
Performing competence can lead to self-erasure and social rewards, masking genuine capability with a polished exterior.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoYou know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals
Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says the most isolating part of retirement isn't being alone - it's realizing that most of your relationships were held together by proximity, routine, and utility, not genuine curiosity about who you are - Silicon Canals
Most relationships are maintained by physical proximity rather than genuine connection, a truth that becomes evident in retirement.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI'm 66 and the thing I learned too late isn't that I should have traveled more or worked less - it's that I spent forty years waiting for permission to want things - Silicon Canals
Waiting for permission to want things can lead to missed opportunities and unfulfilled desires.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals
Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
fromAlternative Medicine Magazine
1 month agoTime to Spring Ahead
Research shows that in the days following the spring transition, there are measurable increases in sleep disruption, impaired alertness, workplace errors, motor vehicle accidents, and even short-term elevations in cardiovascular events and blood sugar variability.
Alternative medicine
Health
fromCN Traveller
3 weeks agoHow chronic illness changed the way I travel: "My life cannot be lived spontaneously or with abandon but it is still expansive, joyful and full of possibility"
Living with chronic illness requires accepting bodily limitations, managing travel triggers, and prioritizing rest to prevent severe flare-ups and complications.
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago4 Features of Summer That Cloud Your Thinking
Research shows that summertime conditions can lead to cognitive impairments, particularly in memory and concentration. Factors such as sleep disruption, heat, dehydration, and smoke exposure are significant contributors to these effects.
Psychology
Remote teams
fromUNILAD
1 month agoMillennials have started 'quiet vacationing' instead of asking their boss for time off
Hybrid work has become standard globally, with 68% of US employers offering flexibility, though federal employees face mandates to return to offices, while some workers exploit remote arrangements through 'quiet vacationing' and email scheduling tactics.
fromApartment Therapy
2 months agoThe Weekly German Tradition That Transformed the Way I Look at Rest
If you're in Germany long enough you'll discover another common rule that has serious reverence for Sunday, legally speaking. It's called "Sonntag Ist Ruhetag," or Sunday is rest day. If you factor in the German national love for regulations and bureaucracy, it's easy to see how peaceful downtime has become a matter of law. At first, it felt like a little quirk to get used to, but the more I experienced it the more it revealed about my inner mindset.
Germany news
Mental health
fromBusiness Insider
2 months agoI did my 5-day vacation all wrong. An expert says here's what I should have done differently to optimize rest.
Taking intentional time off can still cause exhaustion when unpaid domestic and caregiving labor and small decisions replace work, preventing true rest.
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