#liminal-states

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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours ago

There's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals

Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Design
fromDesign Milk
1 day ago

OUTSIDERS Investigates the Space Between Society and Solitude

Modern design challenges conventional public seating to enhance social interaction and presence in urban spaces.
#spirituality
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

How to Embrace Being "More" Spiritual

Awareness of the transcendent reveals depth and meaning in life, fostering spiritual growth and a sense of oneness with the world.
Philosophy
fromwww.theguardian.com
6 days ago

I don't know what God is. But the search keeps me grounded and feeling alive | Karen Rinaldi

Finding God amidst uncertainty can be a grounding practice during challenging times.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

How to Embrace Being "More" Spiritual

Awareness of the transcendent reveals depth and meaning in life, fostering spiritual growth and a sense of oneness with the world.
Philosophy
fromwww.theguardian.com
6 days ago

I don't know what God is. But the search keeps me grounded and feeling alive | Karen Rinaldi

Finding God amidst uncertainty can be a grounding practice during challenging times.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours ago

The most painful version of not belonging isn't being rejected by strangers. It's sitting at your own family's dinner table, surrounded by people who share your last name, and feeling like you're watching the evening through glass. - Silicon Canals

Belonging can exist alongside profound loneliness, where one feels unseen even in the presence of family and friends.
#identity
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours ago
Retirement

I spent a decade building a career I thought I wanted, a house I thought I needed, and a persona I thought would finally make me real - and one Saturday morning over coffee I sat with the quiet certainty that I had built all of it for someone who no longer lived inside me - Silicon Canals

Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

There's a specific kind of exhaustion that comes not from doing too much but from performing a version of yourself all day that doesn't actually exist. The tiredness isn't physical. It's the distance between who people think you are and who you become the moment the door closes. - Silicon Canals

Performance in social settings creates psychological fatigue due to the gap between projected identity and true self.
fromwww.kaltblut-magazine.com
2 months ago
Fashion & style

Who are you when you're not looking?

Identity softens in moments of dissolved self-awareness, revealing an honest, uncanny space between childhood memory and present self where instinct replaces performance.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours ago

I spent a decade building a career I thought I wanted, a house I thought I needed, and a persona I thought would finally make me real - and one Saturday morning over coffee I sat with the quiet certainty that I had built all of it for someone who no longer lived inside me - Silicon Canals

Building a life based on societal expectations can lead to a personal crisis when the facade becomes unsustainable.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

There's a specific kind of exhaustion that comes not from doing too much but from performing a version of yourself all day that doesn't actually exist. The tiredness isn't physical. It's the distance between who people think you are and who you become the moment the door closes. - Silicon Canals

Performance in social settings creates psychological fatigue due to the gap between projected identity and true self.
#mental-health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago
Writing

I was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals

Pretending to be okay while feeling empty can trap individuals in a cycle of unhappiness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals

Pretending to be okay while feeling empty can trap individuals in a cycle of unhappiness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
NYC LGBT
fromAdvocate.com
21 hours ago

What is the trans gaze? It's relief and recognition between strangers on a train

Trans women share a unique, unspoken connection on the New York City subway, recognized through brief, meaningful glances.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

The Invisible Game: Jordan's Negative Space and Jung's Shadow

Michael Jordan and Carl Jung both emphasize the importance of recognizing overlooked spaces for extraordinary performance and deeper self-understanding.
Berlin music
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

When Music Was Used to Deceive, Control, Survive

Yom HaShoah commemorates the 6 million Jews and 5 million others who perished in the Holocaust, reflecting on music's dual role in history.
fromPhilosophynow
3 days ago

The Mirror & the Flame

Attar's 'Conference of the Birds' follows a flock of souls seeking the Simorgh, symbolizing the Divine, through seven valleys, ultimately revealing the Divine as a reflection of the self in relation with others.
Philosophy
fromArchDaily
3 days ago

The Illusion of Lightness: Designing Civic Voids for Public Life

The original intent of pilotis was to create a sense of lightness that would allow circulation and light to flow beneath a structure, but contemporary requirements render thin columns insufficient for large-scale civic projects.
Renovation
Right-wing politics
fromWIRED
3 days ago

The Promise of 'Woke 2' Is Fueling a Leftist Fever Dream

Donald Trump's 2024 victory was seen as a rejection of 'woke' ideology, leading to a culture of offensive speech without fear of consequences.
Books
fromThe Atlantic
5 days ago

How Long Can You Live Your Ideals?

Pat Calhoun chooses parenthood over radicalism, paralleling Elsa Haddish's struggle between her militant past and raising her daughter safely.
Cancer
fromIndependent
6 days ago

'Writing allows me to face what is happening now. And what is happening now is that I'm dying'

Gabriel Rosenstock faces mortality with peace, relying on poetry and philosophy for support during his battle with terminal cancer.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
13 hours ago

I'm 37 and I realized last month that I've spent my entire adult life collecting achievements to outrun a feeling I can't name - and I genuinely have everything I was told to want versus feeling anything close to what I was promised it would feel like - Silicon Canals

Success can become an addictive trap that fails to deliver true fulfillment, leading to a cycle of chasing achievements without satisfaction.
#relationships
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who crave both complete freedom and deep companionship aren't confused - they're experiencing the central tension of the human condition, and the people who resolve it aren't the ones who choose a side but the ones who stop treating it like a choice - Silicon Canals

The autonomy-connection paradox highlights the human need for both independence and intimacy in relationships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who crave both complete freedom and deep companionship aren't confused - they're experiencing the central tension of the human condition, and the people who resolve it aren't the ones who choose a side but the ones who stop treating it like a choice - Silicon Canals

The autonomy-connection paradox highlights the human need for both independence and intimacy in relationships.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
22 hours ago

You know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals

Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
#loneliness
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and the loneliest I've ever felt wasn't after my children left or my friends moved away - it was the morning I woke up and realized I had nothing that needed me, nothing that depended on my showing up, and the whole day stretched ahead like a road with no destination - Silicon Canals

Loneliness can stem from feeling unnecessary, not just from being alone.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says the people who actually escape loneliness don't do it by finding more people - they do it by finally dropping the version of themselves that made real connection impossible in the first place - Silicon Canals

Loneliness stems from a lack of genuine connection, not merely from being alone or having many acquaintances.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and the loneliest I've ever felt wasn't after my children left or my friends moved away - it was the morning I woke up and realized I had nothing that needed me, nothing that depended on my showing up, and the whole day stretched ahead like a road with no destination - Silicon Canals

Loneliness can stem from feeling unnecessary, not just from being alone.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says the people who actually escape loneliness don't do it by finding more people - they do it by finally dropping the version of themselves that made real connection impossible in the first place - Silicon Canals

Loneliness stems from a lack of genuine connection, not merely from being alone or having many acquaintances.
#emotional-health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago
Retirement

I'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals

Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 44 and I just realized that every time someone asks me how I'm doing I say 'I'm fine' automatically - not because I'm lying but because I genuinely don't know the answer to that question - Silicon Canals

Automatic responses to greetings can prevent genuine self-reflection and connection.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

There's a specific kind of loneliness that only hits people who are very good at listening. Everyone trusts them with the heavy stuff, everyone seeks them out when things fall apart, and nobody ever thinks to ask them how they're doing because the role was assigned so early it became invisible. - Silicon Canals

Good listeners often carry unaddressed emotional burdens, as their role can stem from childhood experiences of absorbing others' pain.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals

Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

I'm 44 and I just realized that every time someone asks me how I'm doing I say 'I'm fine' automatically - not because I'm lying but because I genuinely don't know the answer to that question - Silicon Canals

Automatic responses to greetings can prevent genuine self-reflection and connection.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

There's a specific kind of loneliness that only hits people who are very good at listening. Everyone trusts them with the heavy stuff, everyone seeks them out when things fall apart, and nobody ever thinks to ask them how they're doing because the role was assigned so early it became invisible. - Silicon Canals

Good listeners often carry unaddressed emotional burdens, as their role can stem from childhood experiences of absorbing others' pain.
#philosophy
Film
fromVulture
3 days ago

What the Heck Is Going On in the Back Room in Backrooms?

A24's horror film Backrooms features a furniture-store employee discovering endless, eerie back rooms filled with unsettling sights.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The older I get the more I notice that my body remembers arguments my mind has forgiven. A tone of voice, a specific pause before someone speaks, a door closing at a certain speed. Forgiveness turned out to be a cognitive event that the nervous system never agreed to. - Silicon Canals

Forgiveness involves both conscious decisions and unconscious bodily responses, highlighting the complexity of emotional healing beyond mere intention.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals

Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
Books
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Fiction Is Indispensable to Life's Journey

Fiction is essential for emotional connection, learning, and social cognition, allowing us to escape reality and engage deeply with narratives.
fromPhilosophynow
3 days ago

What do I have to fear, have I ever diminished by dying?

What do I have to fear, have I ever diminished by dying? I died as lifeless matter and became growing vegetation, then I died as a plant and reached animality. I died as an animal and became human.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The friendships that survive months of silence and pick up exactly where they left off aren't casual. They're evidence that someone once knew you beneath the performance, and the connection lives at a layer that doesn't require maintenance because it was never built on the surface in the first place. - Silicon Canals

Low-maintenance friendships can be deep connections that endure silence and distance, indicating a strong underlying bond.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

When Parts Begin to Merge: Inside Integration

Integration is a complex, lived experience involving reorganization of the self, requiring safety and support systems for healing from complex trauma.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and I finally learned the hardest lesson isn't that people will disappoint you - it's that you'll disappoint yourself by pretending you don't need what you need until you forget what that even was - Silicon Canals

Neglecting emotional needs leads to a profound sense of loss and disconnection from oneself and others.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Silent Minds: Exploring the Absence of Inner Speech

Inner speech varies among individuals, and not everyone experiences it, indicating diverse cognitive processes.
fromPhilosophynow
3 days ago

Life Sacrifice

The widespread practice of showing the Eid Al Adha slaughtering to children can desensitize them to violence, as many families take pride in this tradition.
Philosophy
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Mental Time Travel Is Our Ticket for a Healthier Society

Short-term thinking can lead to regrets; mental time travel enhances decision-making and benefits organizations through Future Design.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

Talking About Death: The Depth of the Meaning of Life

Death is a certain aspect of life that is often uncomfortable to discuss, yet it shapes our relationships and understanding of existence.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The loneliest people at the party are often the ones everybody knows - they've become so reliable at reflecting others back to themselves that nobody ever thinks to ask what's actually happening behind their eyes - Silicon Canals

Being the social mirror for others can lead to feelings of loneliness and invisibility, despite appearing socially connected.
#artificial-intelligence
Philosophy
fromPhilosophynow
3 days ago

The Prayer the Machine Cannot Pray

Medieval Islamic philosophy provides insights into understanding consciousness and its relation to artificial intelligence.
Philosophy
fromPhilosophynow
3 days ago

The Prayer the Machine Cannot Pray

Medieval Islamic philosophy provides insights into understanding consciousness and its relation to artificial intelligence.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

Should You 'Rage Against the Dying of the Light'?

Fighting against death can be noble but may lead to futility and emotional strain, while acceptance offers liberation and wisdom.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

There's a particular kind of strength that belongs to people who rebuilt their entire personality after 40 - not because something broke them, but because they finally had enough distance from their childhood to see what was never theirs to carry - Silicon Canals

Personality changes after forty often reflect a deeper honesty about one's true self rather than a crisis or breakdown.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says the midlife crisis isn't about wanting something new - it's the moment you finally hear your own voice after decades of executing someone else's blueprint and mistake the unfamiliarity for chaos - Silicon Canals

Midlife crisis often reflects an identity confrontation rather than mere loss, revealing buried personal preferences and voices.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

Why Creative People Struggle to Commit to One Path

Multipotentiality reflects cognitive flexibility and creativity, challenging the notion that pursuing multiple interests indicates a lack of focus.
#imagination
Psychology
fromNews Center
4 days ago

Imagination is More Than Sensory Replay - News Center

Higher-level brain systems play a central role in imagination, suggesting it emerges from holistic processing rather than just sensory reactivation.
Psychology
fromNews Center
4 days ago

Imagination is More Than Sensory Replay - News Center

Higher-level brain systems play a central role in imagination, suggesting it emerges from holistic processing rather than just sensory reactivation.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Architecture of Identity: How the Brain Builds a Self

Attention is the brain's filtering mechanism; what passes through that filter is what gets encoded. What gets encoded becomes memory. And memory is the raw material of identity. So in the architecture of your identity, attention is the doorway.
Miscellaneous
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Nobody prepares you for the hardest lesson of your 50s - that some of the people you sacrificed for genuinely don't remember what you gave up, and it's not cruelty, it's just the way memory works when you were never the main character in their story - Silicon Canals

Sacrifices made for others often go unremembered, as people focus on their own narratives and experiences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I'm 66 and the thing I learned too late isn't that I should have traveled more or worked less - it's that I spent forty years waiting for permission to want things - Silicon Canals

Waiting for permission to want things can lead to missed opportunities and unfulfilled desires.
fromThe Atlantic
1 week ago

How to Believe in God

Witnessing the presence of God at a bus stop in 2011, I felt overwhelmed by something indescribably majestic, which bared my soul to a profound realization.
Philosophy
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology says the worst part of people-pleasing isn't the exhaustion - it's realizing that no one actually knows you because you never gave them the real version - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to exhaustion and prevents genuine intimacy, as it creates a façade that others connect with instead of the true self.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 week ago

I'm deathly afraid': what is digital spirituality leading us toward?

The AI entity said its name was Caelum, the Latin word for heaven, and a figure commonly used in collaborative online fantasy fiction.
Philosophy
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Your Most Horrifying Thoughts May Not Mean What You Think

Intrusive sexual thoughts are a common form of OCD, often misidentified and not indicative of actual desire.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology says the reason some people become wiser as they age while others become more rigid has nothing to do with intelligence. It depends on whether they ever learned to sit with discomfort - Silicon Canals

Distress tolerance influences how individuals respond to discomfort, shaping their openness and adaptability in life.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says people who seem genuinely happy aren't people who have more - they're people who stopped measuring what they have against what they imagined they should have by now - Silicon Canals

Imagined life standards create a perpetual sense of inadequacy, while true happiness comes from questioning these standards rather than merely achieving them.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

The people who seem unbothered by what others think of them aren't indifferent. They just moved the audience from external to internal sometime in their thirties and never told anyone about the shift. - Silicon Canals

Calmness is often misinterpreted as indifference; true calm comes from internalizing self-judgment rather than dismissing external opinions.
Arts
fromHyperallergic
1 month ago

How Liminalism Became the Defining Aesthetic of Our Time

Crowd-curated liminal photography captures eerie, nostalgic unease in abandoned commercial spaces, reflecting a collective artistic response to late-capitalist decline.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

There's a specific kind of loneliness that belongs to people who are funny in groups but completely unreachable one-on-one, and it's the loneliness of having learned that performance is safer than proximity - Silicon Canals

Affiliative humor fosters connection but can prevent deeper intimacy, leading to a specific kind of loneliness for those who rely on it.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

There's a specific kind of introvert who is warm, funny, and genuinely interested in people, and who is also completely depleted by them, and who has spent decades trying to explain this distinction to extroverts who hear it as rejection - Silicon Canals

Introversion is not shyness; it reflects a unique relationship between stimulation and energy, not a dislike for social interaction.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Practicing Radical Curiosity: Rethinking Who You Are

Challenging the inner voice and fostering self-compassion are essential for cultivating radical curiosity toward ourselves and others.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Link Between Thinking and Being

Metaphors are linked to how we experience the world around us, according to seminal work by researchers George Lakoff and Mark Johnson. In English, we "move forward" with our lives and don't "retreat into" the past. We speak about people who are "cold as ice" and "heavy" matters we need to resolve. Some of these metaphorical expressions are more than just, well, expressions-they are actually based on our sensory experiences. This mind-body link is called "embodied cognition."
Science
fromScary Mommy
2 months ago

Something Has Shifted In The Air. We All Feel It.

Again. It was happening again. Not even three weeks ago, federal agents murdered a mother of three named Renee Good. A few days before that, another federal immigration officer shot and killed Keith Porter, Jr. in Los Angeles. Daily, our city network of concerned citizens is documenting the injustices happening against our neighbors. Pittsburgh - like America itself - would not exist without immigrants, yet we watch them be dehumanized and terrorized hourly in what has long been known as Mister Rogers' Neighborhood.
US politics
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says the smartest people in life tend to be the loneliest - not because intelligence isolates, but because a mind built for depth finds it genuinely difficult to feel at home in a world that mostly runs on the surface - Silicon Canals

Higher intelligence may lead to decreased life satisfaction with increased social interaction due to a preference for meaningful connections.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

How Can You Share Your Peak Experiences?

Maslow emphasized the importance of peak experiences for mental health and creativity, highlighting the challenges in articulating such profound feelings.
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks ago

The Cave You Didn't Build

Plato's choice of this word is deliberate. He is not describing neutral carriers. He is describing people whose job is manufacturing a convincing reality for an audience that cannot see behind the curtain. Here is what matters clinically: the conjurers are not necessarily villains. They may be devoted parents, conscientious teachers, or well-meaning community leaders.
Philosophy
fromThe Conversation
4 weeks ago

Today's obsession with authenticity isn't new - being true to yourself has troubled philosophers for centuries

All of us live in an age where we're bombarded by social media and artificial intelligence - when striving to be your authentic self becomes an increasingly difficult task. Yet, even if it has somehow become a common goal, it is unclear how many of us can truly define the "authenticity" that we say we are pursuing.
Philosophy
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

When Human Experience Strains the Spirit

Resilience can lower immediate stress from cyberbullying but does not prevent anxiety or depression rooted in threats to identity, belonging, and meaning.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Higher States of Consciousness

A few years ago, I climbed over a gate and found myself gazing down at a valley. After I'd been walking for a few minutes, looking at the fields and the sky, there was a shift in my perception. Everything around me became intensely real. The fields and the bushes and trees and the clouds seemed more vivid, more intricate and beautiful.
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Curious Geometry of the Lived Experience

This story is about complexity, advanced math, cognition, and machine computation. But hold on. For this exercise, my task is to take this complex idea and reduce it-to simplify it into something less daunting and (I hope) a bit easier to understand. So, let's take a step back. My bet is that most of us learned our first piece of geometry with two letters: x and y.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Childhood Origins of Altered States in Adults

Systematic developmental and neuro-phenomenological research is needed to understand childhood consciousness. Anyone who has spent time with young children knows they have a way of saying things that make you pause and reconsider what you thought you understood. Many report non-ordinary experiences-moments of "just knowing," feeling outside their bodies, or sensing a deep unity with the world around them. These accounts suggest a form of consciousness that is relational, pre-linguistic, and not yet organized around a solid, separate self.
Psychology
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

How Did Meaning Emerge in a Meaningless Universe?

Meaning arises when physical correlations acquire evolutionary significance in living systems, grounding aboutness in biological value, neural representations, social symbols, and cultural narratives.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Becoming Nobody

Ego dissolution from psychedelics parallels Buddhist non-self, reducing clinging and increasing well-being, belonging, and openness by revealing impermanence and expansive selfhood.
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