The only thing worse than making a mistake is keeping it bottled up inside. Learning from the mistakes of others could help you embark on the healing journey of sharing and working through a mistake of your own, with someone you trust.
The shoulds are a type of cognitive distortion (unhelpful thinking habit) that can lead to judgment. You may judge others, for example, 'They shouldn't act that way,' and yourself. In this post, we will focus on the shoulds you direct at yourself, though the strategies may be helpful for all cognitive distortions.
Knowing grants a sense of safety and certainty. It provides us with knowledge and a degree of control-the direction we believe we need to go and the way to get there. Yet, considering the chaos, anxiety, distress, loneliness, and existential challenges that most of us live with, we continue clinging to what we were taught to believe is "the truth." And while safety and certainty are illusory, we cling to them in powerful ways.
