Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
20 hours agoHow to Embrace Being "More" Spiritual
Awareness of the transcendent reveals depth and meaning in life, fostering spiritual growth and a sense of oneness with the world.
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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who crave both complete freedom and deep companionship aren't confused - they're experiencing the central tension of the human condition, and the people who resolve it aren't the ones who choose a side but the ones who stop treating it like a choice - Silicon Canals
The autonomy-connection paradox highlights the human need for both independence and intimacy in relationships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who crave both complete freedom and deep companionship aren't confused - they're experiencing the central tension of the human condition, and the people who resolve it aren't the ones who choose a side but the ones who stop treating it like a choice - Silicon Canals
The autonomy-connection paradox highlights the human need for both independence and intimacy in relationships.
#identity
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
40 minutes agoI spent a decade building a career I thought I wanted, a house I thought I needed, and a persona I thought would finally make me real - and one Saturday morning over coffee I sat with the quiet certainty that I had built all of it for someone who no longer lived inside me - Silicon Canals
Building a life based on societal expectations can lead to a personal crisis when the facade becomes unsustainable.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
40 minutes agoI spent a decade building a career I thought I wanted, a house I thought I needed, and a persona I thought would finally make me real - and one Saturday morning over coffee I sat with the quiet certainty that I had built all of it for someone who no longer lived inside me - Silicon Canals
Building a life based on societal expectations can lead to a personal crisis when the facade becomes unsustainable.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours agoYou know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals
Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
#happiness
Mindfulness
fromMindful
2 days agoA Meditation to Allow Genuine Happiness, Even In Hard Times
Accessing genuine happiness during difficult times is essential for recovery and well-being.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says people who seem genuinely happy aren't people who have more - they're people who stopped measuring what they have against what they imagined they should have by now - Silicon Canals
Imagined life standards create a perpetual sense of inadequacy, while true happiness comes from questioning these standards rather than merely achieving them.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
5 hours agoI'm 66 and I spent four decades chasing the version of happiness I saw in other people's living rooms - and the day I stopped, I noticed I'd been happy in my own kitchen all along - Silicon Canals
Measuring happiness against others' lives leads to perpetual dissatisfaction and obscures personal contentment.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says people who seem genuinely happy aren't people who have more - they're people who stopped measuring what they have against what they imagined they should have by now - Silicon Canals
Imagined life standards create a perpetual sense of inadequacy, while true happiness comes from questioning these standards rather than merely achieving them.
#loneliness
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours agoPsychology says the loneliest people in life aren't the ones nobody likes - they're the kind, helpful people everyone appreciates but nobody thinks to check on because they seem so self-sufficient - Silicon Canals
Highly capable, helpful individuals often feel lonely because their strength creates an illusion that they do not need support.
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoWriting
I'm 66 and the loneliest I've ever felt wasn't after my children left or my friends moved away - it was the morning I woke up and realized I had nothing that needed me, nothing that depended on my showing up, and the whole day stretched ahead like a road with no destination - Silicon Canals
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours agoPsychology says the loneliest people in life aren't the ones nobody likes - they're the kind, helpful people everyone appreciates but nobody thinks to check on because they seem so self-sufficient - Silicon Canals
Highly capable, helpful individuals often feel lonely because their strength creates an illusion that they do not need support.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI'm 66 and the loneliest I've ever felt wasn't after my children left or my friends moved away - it was the morning I woke up and realized I had nothing that needed me, nothing that depended on my showing up, and the whole day stretched ahead like a road with no destination - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can stem from feeling unnecessary, not just from being alone.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the people who actually escape loneliness don't do it by finding more people - they do it by finally dropping the version of themselves that made real connection impossible in the first place - Silicon Canals
Loneliness stems from a lack of genuine connection, not merely from being alone or having many acquaintances.
#success
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours agoI'm 37 and I realized last month that I've spent my entire adult life collecting achievements to outrun a feeling I can't name - and I genuinely have everything I was told to want versus feeling anything close to what I was promised it would feel like - Silicon Canals
Success can become an addictive trap that fails to deliver true fulfillment, leading to a cycle of chasing achievements without satisfaction.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 hours agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals
Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says the most important life lesson isn't learning to make better decisions - it's learning to live peacefully with the ones you can't undo - Silicon Canals
Irreversible choices shape our lives and learning to coexist with them is crucial for mental well-being.
#mental-health
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals
Pretending to be okay while feeling empty can trap individuals in a cycle of unhappiness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says if you want your 70s to be the best years of your life you have to stop doing something most people don't quit until it's too late - and the quitting isn't dramatic, it's just the daily decision to stop measuring yourself by a standard that was always someone else's and never actually yours - Silicon Canals
Measuring worth by external standards leads to dissatisfaction; true value comes from personal fulfillment, not societal expectations.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm 66 and I finally learned the hardest lesson isn't that people will disappoint you - it's that you'll disappoint yourself by pretending you don't need what you need until you forget what that even was - Silicon Canals
Neglecting emotional needs leads to a profound sense of loss and disconnection from oneself and others.
#empathy
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says people who ask 'how can I learn to be more empathetic' already possess the one trait that matters most - self-awareness - while people who claim they're already empathetic rarely are - Silicon Canals
Self-awareness is essential for developing genuine empathy and emotional intelligence.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe older I get the more I notice that my body remembers arguments my mind has forgiven. A tone of voice, a specific pause before someone speaks, a door closing at a certain speed. Forgiveness turned out to be a cognitive event that the nervous system never agreed to. - Silicon Canals
Forgiveness involves both conscious decisions and unconscious bodily responses, highlighting the complexity of emotional healing beyond mere intention.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals
Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
fromPhilosophynow
3 days agoLove & Emptiness in the Sufi Tradition
Rumi argues that to love is to enter the unknown: to love is to empty the self of all self-knowledge entirely. He believes that emptiness is a paradoxical state of infinite fullness, allowing for the purest form of love and union with the divine.
Philosophy
#emotional-intelligence
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoBehavioral scientists found that the most emotionally intelligent people in a room are often the quietest, not because they have nothing to say but because they learned early that observation protects you in ways that speaking never did - Silicon Canals
Quiet individuals in professional settings often possess high emotional intelligence, using silence as a strategic tool for observation and understanding.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoBehavioral scientists found that the most emotionally intelligent people in a room are often the quietest, not because they have nothing to say but because they learned early that observation protects you in ways that speaking never did - Silicon Canals
Quiet individuals in professional settings often possess high emotional intelligence, using silence as a strategic tool for observation and understanding.
fromPsychology Today
3 days agoPartnership on the Spiritual Path
Devon Hase states, 'People are trying desperately to fix, optimize, or escape their way out of relationship difficulty - and suffering more for the effort. Social media has made this worse! We're surrounded by images of perfect partnerships while quietly drowning in our own ordinary struggles.' This highlights the pressure couples feel in the age of social media.
Mindfulness
#kindness
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 37 and I realized I wasn't actually a good person the day my wife said "you're kind to strangers and cruel to the people closest to you" - and the worst part wasn't the accusation, it was that I couldn't argue because I'd been using up all my patience on people who didn't matter and coming home empty - Silicon Canals
Kindness should be abundant at home, not rationed for public interactions, to foster authentic connections with loved ones.
fromMail Online
1 month agoConsciousness can connect you to the entire UNIVERSE, theory suggests
Your consciousness can connect you with the entire universe, a groundbreaking study suggests. Experts from Wellesley College in Massachusetts claim that traditional connections in the brain cannot fully explain how we are aware of our existence. Instead, they argue that quantum physics taking place within our skull is what generates awareness. This includes the idea that particles can exist in multiple states and locations at the same time.
Science
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI used to be unhappy and I blamed everything around me - until I realized I'd built an entire life around avoiding the one conversation I needed to have with myself - Silicon Canals
Unhappiness often stems from avoiding self-reflection and attributing life issues to external factors rather than personal choices.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI'm 66 and the thing I learned too late isn't that I should have traveled more or worked less - it's that I spent forty years waiting for permission to want things - Silicon Canals
Waiting for permission to want things can lead to missed opportunities and unfulfilled desires.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says the reason some people become wiser as they age while others become more rigid has nothing to do with intelligence. It depends on whether they ever learned to sit with discomfort - Silicon Canals
Distress tolerance influences how individuals respond to discomfort, shaping their openness and adaptability in life.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoResearch suggests the calmest people in any room aren't naturally calm - they once had the most chaotic inner world and built stillness the way someone builds a house around a wound, one deliberate wall at a time - Silicon Canals
Calm is constructed through experience and understanding, not an inherent trait or genetic gift.
fromFuncheap
2 months agoAtomic vs Satori
Come join us for the clash (more like a love-fest) of two beloved San Jose staple nights! Satori and Atomic have been putting on memorable dance parties in San Jose full of new and classic Goth, Darkwave, New Wave, Electro, Indie and Industrial for decades. For one night only, we unite to play all the bangers until you just can't dance anymore!
Music
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoThe Link Between Thinking and Being
Metaphors are linked to how we experience the world around us, according to seminal work by researchers George Lakoff and Mark Johnson. In English, we "move forward" with our lives and don't "retreat into" the past. We speak about people who are "cold as ice" and "heavy" matters we need to resolve. Some of these metaphorical expressions are more than just, well, expressions-they are actually based on our sensory experiences. This mind-body link is called "embodied cognition."
Science
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks agoUsing a Beginner's Mind
Beginner's mind, rooted in Zen practice, enables conscious observation of present moments through widened perception, revealing unique interrelationships and sustaining well-being by treating time as an active verb rather than static noun.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoHigher States of Consciousness
A few years ago, I climbed over a gate and found myself gazing down at a valley. After I'd been walking for a few minutes, looking at the fields and the sky, there was a shift in my perception. Everything around me became intensely real. The fields and the bushes and trees and the clouds seemed more vivid, more intricate and beautiful.
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